Dear Millennials: You’re Not Doing It Wrong

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by Melody Fletcher on June 5, 2017

 

Dear Milllennials (and those who love them) (and those who love to hate them),

I’ve got a few things to say about your generation. And to your generation. And no, I’m not about to condescendingly tell you how “entitled” I think you are. In fact, there will be no condescension at all. What there will be is an explanation for why you’re having such a hard time, from an energy point of view. And it isn’t because there’s something wrong with you. It’s because there’s something very, very right with you. But, alas, change is always hard. And what we’re experiencing now is BIG change. It’s a changing of the guard, so to speak. And so, even though some of this sucks, it’s also really brilliant.

And, there IS a way to diminish the sucky parts – to have a lot more fun on this ride. And I’ll tell you about that too. You’re welcome.

 

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Ok, so today I’d like to address the so-called “Millennials”. This is my open letter to the Millennial generation, so to speak.

But before I do that, let’s define what we mean by Millennials. Because there’s by no means a 100% consensus on that. But from what I can gather on the internets, most people agree that the Millennial generation is comprised of people who turned 18 in the year 2000 and beyond. So, basically, anyone who’s between 18 and 35 right now (in the year 2017) is a Millennial.

Are the Millennials getting it wrong?

The term Millennials is often used in a really deprecating way.   I looked around the internet and I have to say, now that I’m in the United States (where I’ve been for a little over a year now), I’ve noticed this negative trend much more than I used to. There’s so much Millennial bashing going on, so much vitriol being spewed at the Millennial generation. And well, this phenomenon really started to interest me. What was going on there?  Why were so many people so angry? More than once I read an article that started with “We can all agree that Millennials are just the worst.” Wait… what? We can ALL agree on that? Why would we agree on that? I don’t agree on that…

And so, I wanted to look into what was going on. What it was the Millennials were being accused of? And if they were behaving the way their accusers claimed, why were they behaving that way? And what I found was that there’s some really interesting stuff going on there from an energy and belief system point of view. But, most of all, what I found made me want to speak to Millennials directly and tell you: “You’re not doing it wrong.”

Because that’s the message I essentially see a lot of people giving your generation: that you’re the worst; you’re doing it wrong; and you need just to grow up. I have a different message: You’re not doing it wrong and there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s them, not you, basically.

Let me offer some explanation of what’s going on energetically, and then, at the end of that, maybe I can give you some advice on how to deal with all this vitriol, all this rage being directed at you. It’s going to be easier once you understand where it actually comes from rather than it just being: “Hater gonna hate.” I mean, that’s true, haters are gonna hate. But this issue goes a deeper than that.

Are Millennials “entitled”?

The first thing I want to address is the most common insult hurled at Millennials. That that is that they’re “entitled”. So, before we go any further, let define what entitlement actually is. It is NOT simply having a positive expectation that things are going to work out for you. When you understand how reality actually works, you know that things can and will always work out for you. You also understand that holding that expectation is actually a really powerful, creative tool. It’s also a prerequisite to actually creating what it is you want. You want to open yourself up to the point where you can get what you want. You want to expect it to come. Which means that when you get really good at this, you go through life expecting good things to happen to you. You expect things to work out for you, which include people giving you what you want. You know, I’m genuinely surprised when things don’t instantly work out for me the way that I want them to work out. And that’s not being entitled. Entitled is when you decide that what you want has to come from someone specific. For example: “You have to give me what I want whether you want to or not, whether you want to play with me on this level or not, whether you’re a cooperative component or a match to what I want or not, a match to bringing it to me. You still have to do it.” And so, then you start demanding from specific people that they have to give you what you want, rather than you taking a step back and going “Ok, this isn’t working out, but that’s alright, because I’m still going to get what I want.”

Do some people have a right to be entitled?

So, that’s how I define entitlement. And here’s a newsflash:  there are entitled people in every generation, y’all. Are there entitled people in the Millennial generation? Absolutely. Are there entitled people Generation X (my generation)? Absolutely. Are there entitled people in the baby boomer generation? Oh, hells to the yeah there are! But what I’ve found is that a lot of people don’t have that much of a problem with entitlement when it shows up in the wrinklier version. The older you are, the more entitled you’re entitled to be, because you’ve “paid your dues”. It seems that we get much more resentful when somebody who’s younger acts kind of entitled.

So, again, not all of what is being called entitlement in the Millennial generation, or any generation, is actually entitlement. Positive expectation that things will work out for you is not entitlement; demanding it from specific people is. And true entitlement is never a good idea. You don’t earn a right to be entitled just because you’re rich, or old, or whatever… (insert any other fitting adjective you like here. I’m sure you can find many). So, let’s just put that to bed right now. If someone is positively expectant that things are going to work out for them, they are not entitled! But boy can they be annoying… And that’s because of this belief that I’ve just touched on; this belief that we all hold to some degree or another. Some of us are shifting out of this belief more than others but it’s still very prevalent in our society. It goes like this: You have to pay your dues. And paying your dues is defined as suffering. Once you’ve suffered enough, once you’ve suffered through an entry level job that is meaningless on every level (you’re doing nothing meaningful, not for the customers, not for the company, not for yourself), once you’ve run on that hamster wheel for an acceptable period of time, you can finally do something with, perhaps, a tiny smidgen of meaning. Only once you’ve suffered enough do you deserve to get to do something that’s maybe a little bit better. Not good, mind you, but maybe a little bit better. And you’d better suffer a whole lot before you get to claim any kind of reward.

Why are the Millennials rejecting suffering?

But that’s an old, archaic, horrible, limiting belief that’s on its way out. And the Millennial generation, more than any other generation before it, is rejecting that belief. But they’re bumping up against some very resentful people who are still mired in that suffering paradigm. Here’s the general gist of the battle cry of the resentful masses: “If I had to suffer, then you have to suffer, too. How dare you not be willing to suffer when I did.” But, just because most people in the older generatsions bought into that belief, doesn’t mean that you have to.

Millennials are having a really hard time in many ways, because you’re on the cusp between the old energy and the new energy. The old energy represents suffering, “no pain, no gain”, sacrifice, and powerlessness. But this energy is on its way out. We’re moving into a more empowered place where you get to have positive expectations; where things will work out; where not everything has to be hard; where it can be easy; and where you no longer waste your time doing meaningless things for no reason other than to “pay your dues”, believing you have to because well, this is how we’ve always done it, or because that’s just how it’s done. And all of that is just bullshit. We are, collectively, beginning to reject all of those ideas; we’re pushing them away and starting to move towards the new energy. It’s a new age of enlightenment, so to speak. And the Millennial generation is very much on the forefront of that transition. You’ve sort of got one foot in one energy and the other foot in the other energy, and you’re being pushed and pulled by both sides. You want to embody the new energy. You feel that very strongly. But, on the other hand, there are a whole lot of people who are still mired in the old energy telling you something different. It can be really confusing.

And it’s this old energy that’s causing the huge backlash, that’s basically saying “You have to suffer; this is how you have to do it; this is how it’s always been done. And how dare you not be willing to do that, you entitled little shit you?!”

Why do people resent the Millennials so much?

So, that’s where a lot of this vitriol I’ve been seeing comes from. It’s the argument, “I couldn’t just go for my dreams and run around, like ‘tra-la-la-la-la’, and so, you can’t either.” This is where that anger comes from; it’s resentment. But resentment always means it’s never about the other person. When you’re feeling resentful, it’s always because you did something you didn’t want to do. You gave more than you wanted to give. You held yourself in a situation that you didn’t want to be in. You paid a higher price than you wanted to pay. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not placing blame on the resentful person. That wouldn’t be helpful. But I am saying that if you’re feeling resentful, you’ve got to take responsibility for the choice you made. Perhaps it was the only choice you saw at the time, but it was, nonetheless, the choice you made. And maybe you didn’t know it was a choice, that NOT suffering was an option, but you made it anyway.

And having made that choice in the past doesn’t mean that we have to punish all future generations by restricting their choices and saying “You don’t get to make that choice either because we didn’t get to.” Isn’t it wonderful that we’re moving into an energy where people get to make different choices? Where future generations get to have a BETTER life than past ones? Isn’t that a good thing?

My advice to you as a Millennial

I’d like to offer a bit of advice, if I may, to the Millennial generation. If you’re in this generation and you’re having a hard time right now with how unfair things are, if you’re looking around and you’re saying “Wait a minute. We’re not able to make a living wage when we come out of college! We were told that this path was going to lead us to success and so we went ahead and spent all this money to go through college, and now we have a degree and we can’t even find a decent job! We can’t make a living! Where’s my American dream?!” I know, it can get really, really difficult and frustrating when you’re looking around, especially when you have this drive inside of you that says “I’m here for more. I want more.” And, you’re also being asked to care about things that don’t matter.

Those who like to bitch abou the Millennial generation online, often love to use the term “Special Snowflake.” I love that; I think that’s so funny. Because, as far as I’m concerned, everyone is a special snowflake. But, I see it used in a different way: “Special Snowflake, you can’t expect to not have to work for a year in a shit job before they promote you.” And I want to say to you “Yes you can.” Because you are stepping into a new world where meaningless jobs will become obsolete. “How?” you may ask. Well, here’s one way: technology. Technology is going to make all those shitty, shitty jobs that nobody wants anyway, obsolete and it will free us up to create at a much different level. It’s already happening. Yes, there are some speed bumps, of course there are, but it’s already happening.

My advice is that you put your mind towards a bigger picture and understand that people who are anti-Millennial are just jealous. They’re resentful, because they had to pay a price that you’re not willing to pay.

But also keep in mind that you’re finding your way from an old, very persuasive and addictive energy into a new one. And that’s not always easy. You’ll want to stay aware. Stay aware of yourself, of how you feel, of what’s truly important to you and what you’re fighting against.

That old energy is going to try and suck you back in, so give yourself permission to believe that, yes, it can work out for you. And yes, it can be easier; it doesn’t have to be so hard. And yes, all those emotions you’re feeling about it not being fair, about it not being right, that make you want to stand up and shout “This isn’t the way!”, that is all absolutely spot on. Because you’re fighting against the things that other people have become too complacent to fight against. They want to tell you to shut it down, they want to tell you to sit down and shut up and that this is not the way. Oh, my God, I’ve seen so many messages about that! And I want to say “No! Stand up and be heard. Stand up and be heard!

That’s not to say you have to push against anything, but stand up and be heard, because as you’re standing up and being heard, as you’re saying “This is not right”, you’re expressing how you really feel. And you know what? From someone who is one generation before you, IT IS NOT RIGHT! It is not right. The way the world is being governed right now, is not right. It’s not the best way to do it and it’s not the way it has to be. There is something wrong with it. Absolute lack of empathy for anyone – there’s absolutely something wrong with that. Lack of any kind of concern for the environment – there’s something wrong with that. We shit where we eat. Are you kidding me?! The fact that we have no compassion for each other – there’s something wrong with that. This is not who we really are. What is wanting to shine through you is who we really are; and DON’T YOU FORGET IT. Because you’re here to usher in a whole different world! And whatever assistance I can give you, I’m on board.

Bottom Line

Ok, so, that was my soapbox rant; my open letter to the Millennial generation. I hope you enjoyed it. I can’t wait to see what you guys have to say back to me in the comments. I will do my best to answer any questions that you guys have from this. I want to hear your feedback, because I want to do something that a lot of people don’t do: I want to listen to you. I’ve talked at you, I know, but now it’s time for you to talk back and to tell me about your thoughts, your concerns, and what it is that you’re really struggling with. Again, this is what I don’t think we do a lot of the time. Everybody’s got an opinion about the Millennial generation (including me…), but not a lot of people are listening. So, I’m absolutely willing to listen. Have your say below!

Also, smooshy hugs for everyone.

Melody

 

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Andrew June 5, 2017 at 22:24

Not a Millennial as I am 50. But I do have a lot of twenty-something friends. I have no resentment towards them In fact, I often tell them how impressed I am with their ability to easily manifest! On the spot manifesting! They don’t have *jobs* and barely *work* to get what they want. GOOD FOR THEM!!!! It’s really so lovely to watch. Never seen it as entitlement either. Not sure who started all that. Even my nephews who are in their twinties have never held a job and get along in life splendidly! I LOVE this!! Thanks for the video dear Melody. Love

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Melody Fletcher June 6, 2017 at 17:28

That’s wonderful Andrew. I couldn’t agree more. Here I am teaching that it doesn’t have to be so hard, and here’s a whole generation that’s like “Yup! Let’s let this be easy” and totally embodying that. Gotta love em!

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Christopher Tomasso June 6, 2017 at 00:15

Wow Melody,

This is the story of my life. Ever since I was a child, I rejected the old energy and was punished for it – usually through not succeeding. Umm, working shit jobs sucks. Too bad, do you want to eat? I just want to create and build a better world! Too bad, you have to get by. I don’t want to settle. Too bad, everyone does. And on and on and on.

I rejected conventional education, jobs, and social situations. For a long time I thought I was broken because of this. I still feel the addictive pull of that energy to conform. Who am I to dream big? Thank you so much for putting words to this constant push pull experience. I do believe I am here and my generation is here to bridge the gap – to lead the way into a truly better world.

And it’s hard, but it’s getting easier. I’m waking up. We are waking up. We don’t have to settle for this. We’re the ones on the rise.

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Melody Fletcher June 6, 2017 at 17:31

Right there with you Christopher! We’re all a bunch of bridge builders, from the old energy to the new. Isn’t it awesome?? Yay!

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April June 6, 2017 at 01:06

I’m a millennial that’s veered so far off the traditional path that it’s terrifying. No, for real. I found LOA during a difficult time, and it was the only thing that gave me some sense of hope that my life could actually go anywhere, since the traditional things weren’t working out too well for me.

I try to remember that societal beliefs aren’t objective fact, and that the traditional path isn’t the only way, but the contrast between LOA and societal beliefs can be really scary, especially if you haven’t necessarily “chosen a side”, so to speak. Recently, though, I’m realizing that I don’t need to choose a side. I’m beginning to understand that my fears and my uncertainties aren’t really an issue, and that the idea that those things are an issue, IS the issue. That’s what the real holdup is. Sounds odd but I think it makes sense.

Honestly, I just want to *be*, and I want that to be enough. I’m tired of rules, conditions and restrictions, and the whole, you must do this and you must do that or you won’t get what you want (I’ve even applied this to LOA without fully realizing I have). It makes me feel incredibly tense, like I have to take my bare hands and make everything happen and I haaate it. In a society that’s all about action and struggle, you’re not allowed to hate it… Well, you are, but you’re just told to deal with it because that’s just the way it is. Like, my dad told me that jobs are not supposed to be fun, and my mom chimed in with “that’s life”. Why!?

I’m a millennial but I ain’t lazy. I put a lot of time and effort into what I care about because it’s fun and interesting (cooking, baking, psychology, sociology, philosophy, LOA, the human body, cat videos)! It’s hard when you don’t care about the things you’re “supposed” to care about, like college, work, marriage, parenthood, etc. People assume you’re at a standstill and you’re not going anywhere, and you kind of believe them, even though you’d rather just move and flow through life and have cool experiences come your way without doing a bunch exhausting things for them that make you want to rip your hair out. I just wanna manifest the life that I want with ease, have fun, learn and experience new things. I’m tired of being told what I “need” to do and feeling like there are 172728822 obstacles between me and what I want.

Lol, thanks for giving me an opportunity to rant. I feel a bit better. Thanks for speaking up for the millennials.

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Lisa June 6, 2017 at 07:09

Wow April. YES! This is exactly how I have felt for a long time.
What I wanted to add is that I think it is kind of funny how each generation has its own (nonsensical) ideas about how you should act or live. However, I try to look at each generation and connect with the things I love about them and ignore the rest. That’s one of the perks of being a millennial. We can cross borders and combine things that are seemingly not related. Yes, we are THAT awesome ;-)
For instance, many of my friends like to lash out at babyboomers because they don’t ‘get’ our generation, but I certainly see some positive things as well.
I have a 6 month old baby (my first kid) and I love being a mother. I did the whole college and stupid career thing, but now I just feel like I want to stay at home with my baby. My partner and I have discussed it and I decided to quit my job. What I noticed is that my mom and her generation (babyboomers) totally understand my decision whereas generation X thinks it’s crazy. Some (but not all) of my older cousins and friends think I’m making a huge mistake by “throwing away my college degree and career”. They warn me that I should remain financially independent etc. However, I simply don’t understand why they think their lives are that fantastic. They bring their tiny cute little baby’s to daycare so that they can work fulltime and have wonderful careers, they work out at the gym to stay sexy and healthy, have tequila nights with their girlfriends and, oh lordy, even typing this makes me feel exhausted LOL. I just don’t get it. I think it’s humanly impossible to do all that AND remain a happy shiny puppy at the same time. So, fuck them! However, I don’t mind if they want to live their lives like that, it’s just not working for me. So, I’m gonna stay at home with my baby and be a freakin’ soccer mom if I want to. Fuck emancipation. THIS is emancipation. And, hell, maybe in a few years I’ll starts my own business, who knows!
Anyway, my point is…we can and WILL do whatever we want to do. Millennials know this. We just need to own it and stop listening to the haters!

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Andy June 6, 2017 at 10:28

Fantastic , I like it , you show em how focused you are !!

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Tiffany June 7, 2017 at 06:01

Same! When I was unemployed, my parents and aunts/uncles would tell me to get a job that pays well, like in a bank or an office job. But I hated the corporate life! It really wasn’t for me and I was just like, “is that the criteria of success/a good job? Money? What about something I actually want to do? What about something I’m happy doing?”

I also remember my friend’s dad’s speech at their wedding, that they want my friend to have lots of kids, and it just made me feel the difference in the generations and their preferences and standards of what life goals are. There’s nothing wrong with it, but I just wish baby boomers and older people shouldn’t shove those things down our throats and claim that it’s the best/only/right way.

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Isabel Martins June 6, 2017 at 04:54

Oooooooooh, this triggered some deep anger. I’m on the 1st wave of millennials apparently, but didn’t actually knew much about it because I am Portuguese, and people here don’t really talk about millennials. What I did feel though was that sense of “you have it easy, don’t dare complaining. Just shut up and be happy” from older (crusty ;) ) people when I was growing up. Even having enough food every day and having a TV were things I was made feel guilty about having, because that wasn’t the case even 1 generation ago. And what you said about “having to suffer, to pay your dues” before actually being able to enjoy rewards is something I see I was deeply trained in, and I’m still working through that, because it was such a strong belief that was broadcast from everyone. And the fear of being judged, criticized and attacked if I just align with my joy and passion and live “easily” is one the biggest deterrents of my success and of being able to share my passion and what I do in the world more expansively. At this point, I’m heading towards the FU*K IT, I’m going to do what I love to do, take care of my energy, feel safe, and shine my light to help inspire my kindred spirits. And I know the more I release this fear, the more I’ll rendez vous only with those who are on a similar path to self-empowerment and freedom. :)
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Melody Fletcher June 6, 2017 at 17:32

Sounds like you’re finding your way just fine Isabel. Fuck It is just a station on the train of enlightenment. It’s the midway station between the old energy and the new energy. So, well done! :)

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Isabel Martins June 7, 2017 at 05:27

Thank you! I’m moving towards the new for sure, and *most of the times* enjoying the scenery along that train ride. ;)
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Erin June 6, 2017 at 05:18

Thank you Melody I love this post. I am a Gen X born in 1980. I definitely have always been different but have sort of followed the status quo which is what we learned from our parents. I am definitely on the journey of manifesting my dreams at this time however I am still trapped in a regular job which is not terrible but often times I want to just launch into what I really came here to do. What advice do you have for the Gen Xers that are trapped in between these two paradigms?

I often feel that I am between 3-D and 5D and find myself with existential questions. I also notice that many Jen Xers at least in my community do not have children but preferred to have pets instead. preferred to have pets instead. Can you touch on this topic as well?

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Lisa June 6, 2017 at 11:47

Yes, I’m a Gen Xer, too, who chose a pet rather than a kid. (It’s so much more fun for me!) I’d love to hear Melody’s ideas about Gen Xers caught in the middle between Boomers and Millenials, and the movement towards being a “pet parent” instead of raising more humans.

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Cordy June 6, 2017 at 11:49

I’m a late Gen Xer, too. I also feel trapped between two paradigms, born late enough that the changed economy feels like a massive trap, but early enough that I still subconsciously buy into a lot of old assumptions. Why would I have chosen to be born at that time?

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Melody Fletcher June 6, 2017 at 17:38

Cordy,

You chose this time because you know that you could overcome those old assumptions and that shit was about to get REALLY GOOD!! And you wanted to be a part of that. A time of immense change and opportunity is exciting (if you’re not mired in fear). This is where all the action’s at. :)

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Cordy June 6, 2017 at 18:08

Thanks, Melody!

If this is a game (a useful metaphor for me), is it possible to “win” in every lifetime? Sometimes, if I can be super honest for a sec, I feel like I have all of these energetically big-feeling desires, and I can catch glimpses of how great they would be in the new reality. I understand why my larger self might find this the best time to check that stuff out. But then on the other hand I am definitely stuck enough in Old Thinking that I think… wow, right now it feels really touch and go if I’ll be able to release enough to shift into the new thinking that will allow the manifestations in physical reality, or if I’ll just sort of… drift along in varying degrees of trying (too) hard and being gloomy.

I am guessing/thinking from a broader perspective, you can’t lose, you are playing all of the games simultaneously or some other idea I can’t have with my human brain. But from a human perspective, is it possible to win in every life/game, even if you feel that you’re late in the game when things start to lighten up?

(Maybe that’s why I chose this time or something. To really immerse myself in the old assumptions and push it pretty far before stepping into the new assumptions?)

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Melody Fletcher June 7, 2017 at 12:58

Hey Cordy,

You would never play an unwinnable game. You pick your starting point (the energy of it anyway, which determines time, location, family, belief systems, gender, culture, etc.) and then you let ‘er rip. And yes, from a larger perspective, you are always winning, no matter what the outcome, but it’s not just like that. Every game is “winnable”. Like, satisfying to your human avatar self winnable. And it’s never been more winnable than it is right now. Because it’s never been easier to wake up. So, we’re not just winning, we’re changing the game (because when you know it’s a game, it changes. Profoundly). That’s why it’s all so exciting right now. RIGHT NOW. Woop! Woop!

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Melody Fletcher June 6, 2017 at 17:36

Yup, this is what that push pull feels like. The addictive paranoid pull of the 3D world and the seductive call of 5D. Keep at it, keep choosing to follow your own inner voice and wisdom and the 3D pull will get less and less.

I don’t think it’s that people are suddenly not liking children and prefer dogs. I think that some people ALWAYS would’ve preferred to be childless, but societal pressure was too great to conform. So, now more people are choosing to do what they want. And some people would rather nurture a pet than a child. Let’s face it, it’s a hell of a lot easier. People who really want to have kids still do, but those who don’t now feel like they have more permission to go their own route (and are rebellious enough to take it).

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Amanda Z June 6, 2017 at 07:17

Yesssssssssss. Yes.

This post should go viral.

I haven’t seen any other thing on the topic that wasn’t just like, “Eh, millenials are just bashed as much as any other generation by the older generation and there’s no other reason.”

I think what you say is 100% true. And actually I think the generation below us (gen z?) is even more in tune with stuff. I mean, not only are they more aware of like everything than I was at their age — they’re more confident about who they are. It’s like, acceptable now for 12-year-olds to wear crop tops, and it’s like, why not? When I was that age, it was disgraceful, or something, and that just teaches kids their bodies should be objectified and then seen as bad. But I think people are rejecting these norms. I notice myself feeling — I don’t know if jealous is the word — but appreciatively of the new generation.

I think millennials were the first wave of the trend who started figuring out we could be our own business and our ideas are valid (and why the hell did we go to college). I think the next one is already like — well duh. And I think as a result, we will see even more creativity and thus growth, bc if everyone is stepping into their power, there’s more “competition” for genericness, so people are going to be forced to come up with new ideas.

Another thing I notice about millennials vs older generations is, on the less-negative side of not-getting-it, is pedistalising us. Like you watch those news specials on whichever current millennial pop star or entrepreneur and the older reporter is like OH MY GOD YOU ARE A GENIUS UNREAL OH MY GOD THIS IS CRAZY. And yeah, they’re successful and talented, but I think they’re responding to the energy of someone just doing what they want. It makes things weird though for sure. It’s like what Mindy Kahling said about encouraging girls. Like if you make a huge deal about what they do and give them a ton of reinforcement and say “Girls can do anything!” it makes you feel like, wait, this is supposed to be hard? Imagine if everyone made a big deal out of tying your shoes and was like, “Girls can do it too!” I definitely feel that happened to me in particular a lot, not really because I’m a girl, but more because older generations didn’t think I should be able to do what I was able to do. Finally now I’m taking off those layers and giving them back to the people who gave them to me.

(If any of this was unclear let me know — I typed this on my phone and couldn’t see the whole screen at once lol.)

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Amanda Z June 6, 2017 at 07:24

Oh, also. I think there’s also a big part of “paying your dues” that’s specifically “paying your dues to the older generation.” Like, do what your parents say and be good and bring honor to your family or some crap because you should feel guilty your parents had to pay for your food and make sure you didn’t get hit by a car and oh-my-god childbirth. But then I realized, that was THEIR choice and THEIR journey to choose to have a kid, and my life is about me.

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Melody Fletcher June 6, 2017 at 17:45

Absolutely Amanda. You don’t owe your parents for being born. That belief has been used to manipulate generations into conformity. Your life is yours, not theirs (because they gave it to you, or whatever). And parents who aren’t insisting on projecting their own shit onto their kids will totally agree with that.

And of course, people who have been living lives they never wanted to live in order to hopefully get some reward one day will feel entitled for payback. So… that’s the entitlement right there.

And I agree with not putting anyone on a pedestal or making it seem like a great accomplishment for a girl (or anyone else) to have done something which would be considered normal for a boy. It’s condescending and it focuses on powerlessness rather than on empowerment.

Smooches!

m

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Andy June 6, 2017 at 07:25

Hi Melody

Perfect vid for showing my kids sometime , thanks
Makes sense what you say , I’m born in 70s and worked my ass off since around 12 expecting things to get better after earning it . last few years has taught me , this is not how it works . I’m a different person now in my beliefs and I know where I am going in life with the love I have for it . I’m really glad younger generation don’t share those first beliefs I had , and really happy and grateful the world is changing .

Thanks Melody

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John Hare June 6, 2017 at 07:49

Hi Melody:

Thank you so much for this article. It helps me in many, many ways! It is what I needed right now!

Happy Shiny Puppy Hugs!

John

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Moonsparkle June 6, 2017 at 08:03

A few months ago I started seeing the term “Milliennial” everywhere and wondering what the hell it meant! Then I looked it up and saw that I’m classed as one just about, lol. (I’m 33). There does seems to be a lot of negativity towards Millennials, e.g. I saw Lily Allen described online as a “stupid Milliennial” or something like that. Thanks for a more positive look at this generation, Melody. :)
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Aurore June 6, 2017 at 08:08

‘And YOU can’t! have it either’ ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. Brilliantly! put Melody :) . Love how you explain it. I admire these young millennials not taking no for an answer and choosing to be who they really are. Took me many more years to learn how to get to that stage – and it’s SO worth it!

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Merwin June 6, 2017 at 10:00

Thank you so much for this explanation! As usual, you verbalized what I’ve always felt, even at a young age. And after reading so much of your material and viewing your videos, I can identify all of this resentment as “waking up” and maybe a process through ascension. Us millenials aren’t buying into old beliefs anymore, and generations before us are waking up, only many are doing it through the emotion of anger. I’ve seen this in the military, where many join for several different reasons, only to get out because they realize it’s not aligned anymore with what they truly want. And I’ve seen the older generals and upper level commanders bashing the newbies because they push against “what’s always been done”. I’m finding it easier to step into the new energy, and I’ve been clearing so many old generational beliefs that I’ve bumped up against. Once again, thank you for speaking about this on an energetic level.

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Shane June 6, 2017 at 11:31

Thank you for this explanation, Melody! As a young milennial, this was exactly what I needed to hear at this point in time. Just yesterday, my colleague and I had a brief discussion about the next generation of kids and teenagers and whether they were actually different from millenials or if this type of “that darn younger generation is so different!” approach is simply how the older generations view milennials. Working with young kids, I notice a difference in how I was raised as I encounter certain beliefs/attitudes on a daily basis, and so I’d be curious to hear your thoughts!

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Melody Fletcher June 6, 2017 at 17:50

Hey Shane,

Yes, the younger generation is even more open. They’re beginning to navigate this world, and they’re doing it with even less of the BS beliefs than the Millennials. That’s not to say it’s easy, but they’re going to be even more stubborn in their ideas that things don’t have to be a certain way, or that they can follow the path they choose. It’s that stubbornness that often offends previous generations. Because it doesn’t always make sense to us. Why is it so important to them to get hung up on this detail? Because of what it represents. Pay attention to how they approach things, and you may have some aha moments for yourself. :)

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Shane June 6, 2017 at 20:58

Awesome insight- I’ll be sure to keep an eye out. Thanks Melody!

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Helen June 6, 2017 at 15:58

Great video, I think even as a GenX this has stirred up all sorts of anger at having been shown the world as my oyster, whilst at the same time being slapped on the head and told ‘but don’t think you deserve to have everything you’ve ever wanted.’
No wonder I’ve felt so confused. Thanks for touching on the subject, more please.

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Melody Fletcher June 6, 2017 at 17:50

You’re welcome Helen. More on the way. :)

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H. June 6, 2017 at 17:24

Love the comment of Isabel Martins up there! So true… Also Portuguese, and 1st millenial wave

Part of the millenial hatred, is not necessarily just jealousy. I think it can be also a fear of our own stories to become meaningless and obsolete. Of not experience compassion and sense of community in our lives. All the moments of big change sometimes makes the light and shadow blurr… such as our inner and outer worlds, which is why I liked your difference between expectation of things working out fine, and being entitled. It allows us to see how our perception shapes things…

I think we have also been playing with opposites throughout history. Before the Renaissance up until recently we have been seeing the effects of repressive environment, whereas with the information age, we see excessive hedonism (and that hedonism – as in experiencing the pleasures of life – is something that everyone has a right to, not just higher social classes in renaissance and in the Roman empire) as the different side of the same coin. In the information age we get to think about it globally and thus allow ourselves to expand and grow quickly, not just as individuals, but also as members part of a community. It’s about those that have more than enough and those that have little, to move forward from a “scarcity mentality”.

And I just had a stream of consciousness while writing…..

Hugs

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Melody Fletcher June 6, 2017 at 17:52

Beautiful H! Thank you for sharing your wisdom. :)

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rf June 6, 2017 at 21:26

Hi Melody,

I really enjoyed this video, as I’m also a millennial. You’re right, we get a lot of negative commentary from older generations. It seems that people online bitch and blame us for everything.

There are areas that our generation really needs help with though. For example, racism. Because I’m not white (well, I am actually mixed, but what’s visible is my non-white side), I’m treated differently than others. People see me as just another person of my race, not really as a person. I’ll never be equal to a white woman, for example. Any guy I get with will be settling for me, settling for a woman of my race because we’re physically seen as less attractive than whites and at the bottom of the totem pole. They’ll be fantasizing about the equal to better looking white women that all men and society see as the most beautiful. People my age have often used my race against me, judge me by physical traits I can’t change and see me as inferior to them. Not to mention, they are also very stereotypical and constantly other me.

On top of that, I’m ugly, which really doesn’t help. I look masculine and dream or getting the surgeries I want to be prettier, but there is no way I’ll ever be able to afford them. Even having my picture taken brings up so much distress and near suicidal thoughts. How could I manifest the surgeries I want? I want to be beautiful and photogenic and have the features that I find attractive.

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Melody Fletcher June 8, 2017 at 11:11

Hey rf,

My advice to you, is to start by being much kinder to yourself. I’m not saying that you should pretend to feel better about yourself than you do, but have more compassion for yourself. Focus on what’s beautiful about you (not just physically, and yes, you are beautiful in many ways). Find something you can genuinely appreciate about yourself and focus on that. Let yourself off the hook.

There is so much more here than I can address in a comment. Your experiences regarding racism are a reflection of the powerlessness within you. I’ve worked with many people of color who now no longer have these kinds of experiences. BTW – I’m not saying it’s your fault. Not at all. But what I’m saying is that having these experiences as a person of color are not a given. It’s not just the way the world works. You are not worth less than someone with lighter skin. There are many men out there who will adore you for you. Don’t put up with a relationship where someone (even you) is settling, not for any reason. Aim higher.

But all of this starts with you being kinder to yourself. That will kick everything off.
Here’s a blog post that should help: http://www.deliberateblog.com/2011/12/13/how-to-love-yourself/

Smooshy hugs and buckets of love,

Melody

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Karin June 17, 2017 at 09:15

I just wanted to reiterate what Melody said about realities where experiences of being of colour is different, and comment on this:

“Any guy I get with will be settling for me, settling for a woman of my race because we’re physically seen as less attractive than whites and at the bottom of the totem pole.”

Most of the people in my various social groups (UK, mainly white, but with a lot of life-long exposure to other cultures) actually regard people of colour to be at the TOP of the totem pole of attraction. I have so many male white friends that seem to be mainly attracted to black or mixed race girls (and not in a weird fetish-y way!) It is possible to live in a reality where this is true. And Melody’s advice about being kinder to yourself is gold :) There are millions of guys out there who would put you at the top of their totem pole.

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Nay June 6, 2017 at 21:36

Melody,
Hate to say it but I am guilty of the “sometimes you just have to start at the low end.” Not that it is required, it’s just the way things work when you first start out. And I didn’t even realize I was thinking it until this video!
Yet at the same time, I’ve always resented and been thoroughly annoyed by those who say you just have to suffer through it and roll with the punches until you’ve done your time, especially when talking about jobs.
So I fall into the, still caught up in some of the old paradigm yet believe there has to be a better way, middle ground. I still struggle with the idea that things are supposed to be easy and fun. Hard belief to let go of when you forget that it is just a belief!

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Melody Fletcher June 7, 2017 at 13:09

Yeah… this one’s best done incrementally. I still struggle with it too, at times. Especially when it comes to really big stuff… But… but… shouldn’t I have to work at least a little bit for that? Then I feel how that feels and I drop it. Happens pretty much every time I level up, lol.

And, keep in mind that getting experience or learning your craft is not the same as paying your dues. So, if an eighteen year old enters a field where she has no skills yet, and demands to be paid $50.000/year, that’s entitlement (demanding that her abundance come through this job). Then people might be tempted to say that she hasn’t paid her dues and doesn’t deserve that much money. I would coach her to open up to the abundance she wants from wherever, and then focus on becoming a master at whatever thing lights her up the most. Which probably isn’t an office job.

That’s the paradox of the millennial and beyond… they don’t resonate with being “worth” minimum wage. They know they can contribute and want to be recognized for that. But that kind of contribution often cannot be made (because it’s not allowed to, or the job isn’t designed that way) in entry level positions. You’re supposed to just keep your head down and shut up. But when you can see ways to make things better, when you have ideas, you want someone to engage with you on that level, want them to at least consider what you are saying, and you want to be engaged. We don’t do that with entry level employees. I was the same way at that age. And it wasn’t that I thought that everyone should want to hear my brilliance. I just couldn’t understand why things were dismissed before they even left my mouth. And some of my ideas were actually really good. I wanted someone to explain why the not-so-good ones weren’t feasible. I wouldn’t learned so much more from that than just being told to pipe down.

Oh dear… I might have to do another blog post, lol.
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sIM June 7, 2017 at 23:18

after that comment, I’m going to ask my daughters if they have any suggestions for better ways of running the house

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Lisa June 8, 2017 at 05:09

Thank you Melody for this elaboration. I think this would be a great topic for another blog post. I’m the one who said earlier that I prefer to stay at home with my baby. The things you describe here have greatly contributed to my decision to quit the corporate world. It’s not that I don’t want to work per se, but I was in an entry level job just as you describe it (shitty pay and a rather conservative and archaic atmosphere). My boss was cool though. He greatly valued my opinions, and occasionally gave me the opportunity to pitch my ideas. However, nothing would really change in the end. (He had 4 Millenials of his own, so he did totally understand where I was coming from though). The place where I worked is run by babyboomers and when they talk about change or improvements they mean new pc’s or perhaps a new caterer whereas I was talking about flexible working hours and working from home. Anyway, now that I’m a mom I want to spend as much time with my kid as possible AND I want some form of income AND I want to earn/receive it effortlessly and with a feeling of ease. My dad says that I want to have my cake and eat it too. But I just don’t see it that way, I can’t help it. Indeed my way of life can be explained as entitlement when you live in a 3d reality. I think that many of my peers are struggling with this. Millenials are trying ignore the rules of our 3D reality, but since we are brought up in this world we have learned to play by the 3D rules even though these rules feel off to many of us.

What I do struggle with sometimes is the idea of staying positive and holding on to my beliefs while I’m in the ‘waiting room’ so to speak. I’m writing a book because I have always wanted to write stories and become a published author. Since the success of the Harry Potter books I realized that it is also a way to become rich. (Where I’m from only a few authors have quit their daytime jobs and became fulltime authors). Is it still entitlement if you want your abundance to come through your book? Up until now I have been trying to remain detached from the outcome because maybe the Universe will give me a source income through some other way. On the other hand, I really want my book to become succesful and make me rich :-) I’m confused.

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Melody Fletcher June 8, 2017 at 11:16

Hey Lisa,

You can WANT money to come from your book. you can see it becoming successful beyond measure. But, you can’t NEED it to come from your book. Stay open to it coming from wherever. And don’t write the book because of the money you think you’ll make. Write it for the joy. That will keep the energy flowing.

Also, I never understood that cake saying. WTF is the point of having cake if you can’t eat it? Like, are we just supposed to stare at it? Let it go bad? Are we saying we should work hard, get cake and then WASTE it? Eat the damn cake, I say! Get sprinkles! Chase it down with champagne! Woop! Woop!

Smooshy hugs,

Melody

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Patricia June 9, 2017 at 16:05

I think it means cakes are pretty and nice to look at when they’re freshly made and set out for serving … but once you cut into it, it’s not so pretty anymore … so, I think the “having your cake” part refers to having it whole and unblemished to gaze upon, which is not compatible with cutting it up to eat it.

WHICH OF COURSE IS A SAYING THAT COMES FROM AN ASSUMPTION OF LACK! It’s steeped in limiting believes about abundance.

So … OF COURSE you can “have your cake” and eat it too because THERE’S ALWAYS MORE CAKE!

Glad I worked that out.

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Melody Fletcher June 9, 2017 at 18:39

Ah yes! That’s a great explanation! Didn’t even think of that… Still BS, but it makes a lot more sense, lol. Thanks Patricia!

Smooches,

M

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Rose June 6, 2017 at 22:04

Hi Melody, so many insights in this video. I’m a millennial(interesting word) but I hold a deeply entrenched belief that I need to suffer to achieve anything. I try daily to reinforce a new belief that I don’t need to suffer to get anywhere and that I don’t need to give up anything to get something. Then I feel an overpowering sense of guilt because that’s how deep my suffering belief goes and any time I try to let it go, it feels like I’m cutting off my arm, a part of me that I’ve known all my life. When I sit down to deal with my guilt I get thoughts like – there’s no free lunch, to get anywhere you have to be willing to sacrifice and pay your dues, don’t be a fool, remember how the diamond comes from coal etc I will be 35 in less than a year, I feel like I don’t quite belong here. Thanks for sharing your amazing thoughts. XOXO

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Steph June 7, 2017 at 06:53

Wonderful video Melody.

I’m 36 about to be 37 so not officially a milenial but I feel like you have just described my whole life! My problem has always been that I’m not willing to put up with the old way but I have zero expectation that there is another way. Which is why I haven’t had many horrible experiences but nothing very good either.

At the moment I’m desperately trying to change my career. My head (and most of the people I know) say that the only possible way to do that is to start again with training and a rubbish entry job and try and progress over the next ten years or so in a job that I know for a fact I’ll hate. I’ve been really trying to focus positively for about 9 weeks but I can’t seem to budge the “life is crap” energy.

Something inside me is screaming that that can’t possibly be right and I feel like there is a better way but I’m finding it almost impossible to fight against the old belief system.

Any suggestions for nudging over the dividing line?

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Chaitrali June 8, 2017 at 12:12

Hey melody ! Excellent video . I’m a millennial too and yes I too have been facing quite a hard time for the past 5 years or so. There’s always this comparing going on among the older generations of 1 millennial with another and if someone steers off from his or her path and chooses to do something different ,they are branded as “there’s something wrong with them , their life is not on track “. This same kind of situation happened to me when I failed my exams for the first time (my CPA intermediate exam). Ever since then , there’s always this voice booming in my head that you are not ok as you have been left behind and your peers have gone ahead in life . Another thing, I spent quite a lot of my childhood with my grandparents,so there old archaic beliefs have snug up on me . Now when I go into this world like I meet people , at work etc I realise how outdated and stupid those beliefs are and how much authenticity and my true self they are blocking. I have lived with those beliefs thru out my childhood and I have denied myself a lot of things that I really wanted to . Yes, he did teach me good stuff and instilled values in me , but those archaic, out dated beliefs of them that I’m still holding on to make me rife with anger as they block my life experiences and prevent newer stuff from coming in . Also , another problem I encountered was showing a very fearful picture of the world sort of a Doom and gloom type of view of how the world works and how people really are in reality . I suffered from as for a very long time I believed it to be true as a result of which I had almost stopped interacting with the world around me. Iam still opening up and I know there’s lot more to go . My anger towards my grandparents feels big now , I have to drop those older beliefs . I had a question , why do the older people use fear to motivate the millennial to do or to refrain from doing something ?? Doesn’t that lead to distant connections and inauthenticity . As far as the ” paying of dues ” thing goes , yea I can totally relate to that coz I used to be teased by the older people as to how there’s so much yet left for me to do while they have finished their chores for this life and hence they can be at peace now .

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Melody Fletcher June 9, 2017 at 14:38

Hey Chaitrali,

People who use fear as motivation are doing so because they are stuck in fear. If you read my book, you’ll see I’ve outlined a spectrum of energy. One side is the “old world energy” and the other side is the “new world energy”. In the old world energy, fear is the motivator. It’s about running away from pain. So, every choice we make, we make because we think it will be less painful than the other choices we see. In the new world energy, we see more choices, and no longer have to entertain the painful ones. We’re not motivated by pain minimization anymore, but rather pleasure maximization. When someone is still mired in the old world energy, they have a more limited perspective. The choices you see, they don’t see. So your point of view makes no sense to them. They’re not doing it in purpose. They truly don’t have your point of view and no frame of reference for making sense of it.

It’s like trying to explain color to people who have only ever seen in black and white. You can’t explain it enough for them to really get it. They have to experience it for themselves.

Hope that makes sense.

Huge hugs,

Melody

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Chaitrali June 10, 2017 at 12:36

Yes Melody . I got your points. And yes, they have to experience it for themselves in order to understand it. But if that experience is such that it might lead to pain and suffering to both – us and them, then how can we as an individual let them have these experiences without getting negatively affected by it?

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Melody Fletcher June 10, 2017 at 18:22

The suffering comes from pushing against change. And yes, sometimes changes is hard. But you can’t save people from that. Just as no one can save you from your own journey (and honestly, you wouldn’t want them to). See them as strong and capable, instead of weak and frail. They are powerful creators, too. Just as you are. When you are in your power and you see them in theirs, you don’t have a hard time allowing people to take whatever journey they choose (even if they don’t know it’s a choice).

Also, leading back to your original question, don’t worry so much about their journey. Give yourself permission to follow your heart, even if others don’t agree that it’s a good idea, because they don’t understand. Allow them to awaken in their own time. That’s not up to you. So, really, don’t let them stop you. And that’s all the consideration you have to give to others in this regard. You don’t have to fight anyone, convince anyone or get their permission. That’s what’s going to lead to pain and suffering. Let them have their opinions and go and do what you want to do regardless.

Does that help?

Huge hugs,

Melody
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Chaitrali June 10, 2017 at 21:08

It absolutely did help. My life currently revolves around taking permission and convincing my near and dear ones and others of my view point , and yes there’s always this thing that either if they agree to it or even if they are convinced of my point of view as valid (although they may not agree to it), then I can get to act according to their point of view . If that is not the case , then yes I become insecure in my view point and secondly there’s this fear that if I fall in a pit there would be nobody out there for me and people would laugh at me , say nasty stuff about me and i could be denied the basic social privileges like having friends , interacting with people and finding a soulmate. Also , there’s always this feeling that I have been left behind as compared to my other millennial friends who by now have a job and a soulmate, whilst I haven’t yet finished my education?? I have tried to soothe it quite a bit , but this point becomes nasty in arguments at home . How can I work my way incrementally?

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tony June 11, 2017 at 14:06

may I? I saw you need some help with clearing beliefs and you sometimes feel insecure in your viewpoint. I could give you something that helps, a lot. Keep in mind that I’m a protector, so take it easy on what I propose. I kept some beliefs from a gay relative who was close and very dear to me when I was a child, and a scenario cycled through my life, as if this life experience was decided so I could have a better understanding if gay could adopt. Irrelevant in your case, but I tell you that so you can get an idea, how difficult it is for a lightworker who is 100% homophobic and close to the far-right wing (to be grounded) and is terrified even to the idea of becoming or pretending to be gay to keep such beliefs, or manifesting them again and again to find and protect gay people, even when he feels totally disgusted with the way they think. It sucks. Imagine how ridiculous it seems to emit gay vibrations and keep gay people in mind when your friends and people who want guidance through your energy are searching for you. It isn’t nice. It’s not good for your ego. You think you lose your sanity and you need grounding to do that. So, if you really want to get rid of those beliefs, there is an extremely fast way to do that. Stay away from your thoughts, remember you are not your thoughts and say everything you have identified and you focus upon (and you cannot focus on the other side), with -free in the end. For example, if you just wanted to communicate with someone who is gay, and you find even the internal region behind your left eye vibrating on that frequency, you can’t say you are straight, because it’s hard, nearly impossible. You lose your head. But you can easily focus: I am 100% trollfree, 100% gayfree and the rest comes smoothly. I hope it helps. btw, Melody, I still want to kill you. You have work to do. Love, from the matrix

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Summer June 8, 2017 at 15:26

I’m Gen X. I personally think the millennials are genius! It’s so interesting to be right in the middle of this shift. I think it’s awesome how millennials are seeing how screwed up everything is and saying no more! This happens in every generation. I remember getting a lot of hate from older generations because we Gen Xers were so angry and rebellious and blah blah blah. Maybe we were the trailblazers? Either way I’m really excited to see what changes take place once the millennials have more control. These are definitely exciting times!

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Natasha June 9, 2017 at 11:50

I loved this Melody! :)

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tony June 10, 2017 at 01:40

It’s not a shift, it’s a lack of opposition
they are not entitled because they do not think for themselves, they are not capable of thinking with solid logic and spread the truth
they need others to provide information in order to create, so they are still children (myself included, I was born in 83, I fall under this category)
Melody, be very careful of your thoughts and remember your affirmations
you have stopped insisting on truth
we cannot create without logic, without knowledge, wisdom and without insisting on truth
this is the very thing we miss, we think we know but we don’t, we cannot stand and that’s why people cannot and don’t want to raise children
the path to find the correct answer is simple: decide which one you want
if you want life, you search for the beginning of the procedure, you opt for truth in order to be successful, so you search for what really works
I think you are on a very wrong path, that’s why I told you in the other post that the subject on eterosexuality (one of the most important subjects that challenge our view on thw world in this era) was THAT important. child-parents-male-female-male look,think and act as male, female look think and act as female, otherwise you just use existing technology, congrats, you ‘ve just bitten the apple. You stopped being cocreator and we play God without grounding and solid logic. Melody, be very careful of this path, it’s not enlightment, nor it’s a shift, it has no grounding, it’s just random reasoning, it’s chaotic thought and it’s not wise. Teachers have the responsibility to guide correctly
love Tony

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Z June 10, 2017 at 12:56

Melody, could you write/speak about how to deal with (physical) health problems? When the pain gets so in our face, and life seems impossible? Especially if there are several causes to an illness.

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tony June 11, 2017 at 14:24

I’m sure Melody would give you some more specific advice, but healing is important. The key is to totally allow healing. Let it be. Find something to appreciate, something you like that cannot get damaged easily or it is not a big deal, let your mind focus on that, find gratitude and say you believe healing is possible, you get rid of blocks, that everything is perfect and trust the process of life. Btw, doctors (I mean western modern medicine) is our 1st, the most practical and the most important option to consider. Our job is to get out of the way. Love, Tony

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Z June 11, 2017 at 15:09

Thank you for your reply, Tony! I appreciate it. I am taking medicine, and undergoing examinations, so I hope that I’m gonna get better soon.

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Hannah June 12, 2017 at 02:04

Hey Melody! Thanks for the 30 Day Video Challenge and this video! It’s great to see you again after your mini-hiatus! I’ve been following your blog for over 3 years now, but I’ve yet to comment. However, considering how much this video resonated with me, I can’t help myself, haha. (WARNING: novel is likely to follow)

Being born in ’90, I’m smack dab in the middle of the millennial age range. And ever since graduating from college, it’s been ROUGH to say the least. I’ve struggled with the idea of “college-career-marriage-kids-retirement” my whole life, but it REALLY hit me around graduation time. Considering I actually enjoyed college, following that part of the “traditional” path was easy. But I’ve never had an interest in the other parts of the equation, so once I reached that crossroads, ALL the resistance started coming up and hasn’t really given me a break since.

And I see the same thing with so many of my peers. Generally, there seems to be two camps: those who try to follow the “traditional” path and end up seeming very resentful and dead inside and those who just shut down, ending up unemployed and living with their parents and also just seeming very lost and dead inside. Personally, I guess I currently fall somewhere in between. I live in Japan and left my 9-5 teaching English after one year because it was just too soul-crushing. Now I do freelance English teaching, which affords me more free time and is a lot more fulfilling too. I’m finally able to give the time to my true passion: writing my novel. But at the same time, I’m barely making enough money to get by, struggling to pay the bills each month, and that can be pretty freaking stressful!

However, this last year specifically, I just had this really strong drive to “refuse to play by society’s rules” any longer, which to me, was represented by that 9-5 slog. I like that you used the word “unfair” in the video, because my peers and I often end up using that word in conversations on this very topic. It just seems sometimes like the older generations are trying to squeeze the life – the youth – from us and expect us to put up with shit that they themselves didn’t have to deal with. Like crushing student loans, overpriced health care, and pension – something we know we’re not going to be able to reap the benefits of once we’re old.

Though I know where they’re coming from – an even bigger place of powerlessness – it can just get really frustrating at times. These people are our parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles… and I feel betrayed by them. In my life, personally, these were the people encouraging me to go after my dreams when I was young. But now that I’m an adult, like them, I just sense all this judgment over the fact that I’m going nowhere near that “traditional” path like they did. Though my vibration is stable enough (I think??) that I don’t usually elicit physical manifestations of this, I’m pretty good at reading energy, and I just feel so much… judgment and resentment. And that saddens me.

It’s like now that I’m an adult, there’s this unspoken rule that I just have to shut up, suck it up, and eat shit sandwich after (hopefully progressively LESS shitty??) shit sandwich. It’s like happiness is Santa Claus – it’s okay to believe when you’re a kid cause it’s cute! But when you’re an adult and still believe? Into the loony bin with you!

And that SUCKS! Who wants that?

But I’ve never felt like protesting or being your typical “rebel” was a good option. As you’ve said before, it’s all about our reality and vibration. Now this may be super stereotypical of me as a millennial, but I think I’m gonna wrap this up with a Game of Thrones analogy! XD I was watching it a couple years ago, watching an episode where Joffrey was being such a little bitch, and I was hit with this thought: what if all the people around him just said “no”? What if more and more people started to just reject the shitty kings that had no place ruling – whether they were crazy or inexperienced kids (or BOTH, like Joffrey!) or whatever? This is true not only in fiction, but in history as well! The whole monarchy system was so fucked up but no one ever questioned it… and it would’ve been so easy to fix! If only enough people just said “no”.

So I guess I’m saying that the current world system, the “old world” way of thinking, is our “Mad King”… and it’s up to us, people of EVERY generation to just put our foot down and say “NO.”

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Karin June 17, 2017 at 09:22

Great video Melody! I wanted to add another perspective’s: my mum’s. She feels a bit sorry for us millenials, because we have too much choice of what to do with our lives, so we spend longer trying to seek the answers to that question. She says in her day, it was a lot easier – she went straight into university to become a school teacher, got a job as soon as she got out, married her first serious boyfriend, and had kids in her late twenties, because that was the way it was done. She didn’t experience all this angst over what career to choose, who to settle down with (or to settle down at all), whether to have kids or not, etc. There just weren’t that many obvious choices presented to her, so it wasn’t hard to figure out her path. And she’s pretty pleased with how things turned out.

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