So there you are, watching one of my videos or reading one of my blog posts, and suddenly you realize that something I’ve said totally rubs you the wrong way. You somewhat, completely or vehemently disagree with me. Watch today’s video to find out why that means that you’re totally doing something right.
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This caller has two Autistic children and she’s having a really hard time coping with it all at. She thinks that on some level she caused this condition in her youngest son because she pushed against Autism so much before he was born.
She fears that her youngest son feels rejected, because when she separated from her husband he went to live with his dad. She struggles with disciplining her eldest son, who lives with her, and with trying to get him to do things for himself in spite of his Autism.
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This call is for you if you’re struggling to cope with being a parent and you want to find a solution that works for everybody involved.
Hey my Happy Shiny Puppies! I’m Melody Fletcher, author of Deliberate Receiving: Finally the Universe makes some freaking sense!, home of all things Law of Attraction, reality creation and going on down the rabbit hole.
In the last few weeks, I’ve been taking this blog and these videos in a slightly different direction. We’ve been talking about ascension, the rising energy of the Universe and the beliefs that are still holding us back. In last week’s video, I demonstrated how this rising energy is also bringing up all kinds of fears, some of which can lead to some uncomfortable and seemingly ugly manifestations – a kind of purging of the world’s toxins, if you will. But I demonstrated this point by talking about a very controversial topic – the U.S. presidential election, and some of specific players involved.
Now, a video like that was bound to ruffle some feathers and bring up a lot of secondary questions. I did my best to disclaimer the shit out of it, but, as was inevitable, many people still felt that I’d kind of stepped on their toes. And that means that this week is the perfect time for me to tackle today’s topic: why you disagreeing with me and even sometimes being offended by me is totally normal, inevitable and actually a really good thing. Let me explain:
It’s about building bridges
First of all, I consider myself first and foremost a translator of energy. This means that what I offer isn’t so much my opinion, as my interpretation of a higher vibration. Accessing this higher vibration is something I’ve trained myself to do, but something all of you can do, as well. Now, since it’s my interpretation, this means that my way of expressing myself, my vocabulary, my level of understanding, my intelligence or limitation thereof, my sense of humor and my life experiences and stories are all going to play into that translation. This makes my translation unique to me, even if the underlying “wisdom” isn’t. It’s like I’m explaining math using my own analogies. The analogies are mine, but the concept of math isn’t.
So, what exactly am I translating when I answer a question? The answer that this particular question, the energy of this particular question, elicits. That means that I’m answering the question from the point of energy from which it was asked. The way I see it, I build a bridge from wherever that question is to a higher vibrational place. So, if a question is asked from a place of fear, I address that fear, while offering a better feeling perspective. If a question centers around a very specific fear, I address that fear specifically. This kind of makes me different from a lot of teachers out there. I’m willing to go where you are.
Here’s the drawback:
That does, however, have a massive drawback: Whenever I get specific, there’s a risk that I’ll exclude any listener who doesn’t resonate with the exact details of the question or answer. Let’s say if you’re in New York and I want to guide you to Los Angeles, and another person also wants to go to L.A., but is currently in Chicago, that second person might not recognize that we’re going where they want to, because we’re not starting where they are. It’s up to them to realize that they can jump on that bus to L.A. in Chicago, even though it’s coming from New York.
In other words, if the specifics of a question and the specifics of an answer don’t resonate with you, you might disregard the underlying message, even though that message, if wrapped in different details, would be totally satisfying to you.
This is why it’s inevitable that you’re going to sometimes disagree with me. Not every answer will be specifically tailored to you. You might be reading an older blog post that once resonated with you, but now it doesn’t ring true anymore. The energy of that answer and from what point of attraction it was elicited and where you are now, are no longer a match. Sometimes the question is asked from a place of duality – meaning the question assumes that there’s a right and wrong way to see things. In that case, I might have to do quite a bit of soothing before I can ever address that judgment, so I’ll address the question from a place of duality – with this judgment in place – in order to begin building a bridge where that person is at. If I answered the question from where I’m at, a place of non-duality, non-judgment and generality, my words wouldn’t make any sense to the person who asked the question. Sure, there’s a whole group of people out there who would love that answer, but they’re not the ones being addressed in that particular moment. They can ask their own question and elicit their own answer.
If my answer triggers you…
Sometimes, I’ll use an example that rubs you the wrong way, even though those examples are totally arbitrary. They’re meaningless, until we assign them meaning. And when I use an example, I usually stick to the meaning that the majority of those who will be reading it (or watching it) assign to it – this is the energy that comes through, unless I’m speaking privately to only one person. There’s no such thing as a perfect metaphor or analogy. It’s always unique to every individual. So, when I answer a question publicly, it’s never going to hit home for 100% of those who read it.
For example, last week I talked about Donald Trump and Bernie Sanders in order to make a point. For many people, that point hit home – it helped them feel better and soothed a lot of fears around the election. But for some, it actually brought up a lot of anger. They began to focus on the details they disagreed with, instead of looking for the underlying message. And that was their choice; it’s always our choice. Now, before you think that this sounds judgmental – it’s not. This is something that happens to all of us when we get triggered. And I don’t mind sometimes serving as that trigger. It kind of comes with the territory.
But let’s get back to my point – my second point, which is: whatever you hear is your manifestation. How you feel about what you hear is your manifestation. In other words, your experience, all of it, is your manifestation. So, if you’re offended, rubbed the wrong way, or just slightly uncomfortable about something you hear someone say, that’s your manifestation. Now notice, I’m not saying that it’s your own fault, as in “if you’re hurt by what I said, that’s your own fault”, although someone out there will undoubtedly hear it that way. What I’m saying is that you manifested this experience, you heard what you heard for a reason. You reacted the way you did for a reason. And it’s a good reason, a helpful reason; it’s a gift specifically and uniquely tailored to you. Whatever you hear, or see, or experience is your energy being mirrored back to you. It’s a conversation you’re having with your own higher self, filtered through your own vibration, which includes some limiting beliefs. Those limiting beliefs are going to distort this communication in uncomfortable ways, and it’s this discomfort which gets your attention. It alerts you to the fact that something is off.
If something has upset you, ask yourself why. Don’t focus so much on the words that were said, but on what you heard, knowing full well that the two probably aren’t going to be the same. I mean, haven’t you ever experienced someone hearing something completely different from what you said? It happens all the time. If you were triggered by something, what did these words mean to you? What inner dialogue was sparked by what you heard?
Own your energy!
For example, someone might say something innocuous to you, like “I don’t like McDonalds” or “I can’t understand why anyone would poison their body with such garbage”. But you happen to have grown up on McDonalds; maybe your family ate it occasionally; maybe you still do; maybe you live on the stuff and you’re healthy as an ox. So, when this person expresses their opinion, which is totally arbitrary, by the way, as far as you’re concerned, what you hear is “Your parents (whom you love) were irresponsible and bad. You’re a bad parent if you give your kids a cheeseburger, even every once in a while. Your opinion doesn’t matter, because you don’t agree that fast food is poison. You should be ashamed of yourself. You’re completely powerless in this conversation” or any number of other deprecating and ugly statements.
What was said is irrelevant. That’s just the trigger. What’s important is what you heard. Where did that inner dialogue come from? Why are you choosing to hold on to it? What dialogue would you like to have instead?
Question this inner dialogue! Don’t just accept it as true. And do your best not to give your power to the person who said the words. Take responsibility for your reaction and by doing so, take your power back. This isn’t about you blaming yourself, but rather freeing yourself from the shackles of your limiting beliefs.
So, if everything you hear is your manifestation, does this mean that you can’t listen to teachers anymore? Well, yes and no. Of course you can listen to teachers. Listen to whatever gets your attention. But evaluate and take responsibility for everything you hear. If something I or someone else says feels good to you, go with it. If it doesn’t, disregard it. Or, if you have a reaction to something I say, take a look at that – not in an effort to agree with me, but in an effort to free yourself from the reaction. If the perspective that I’ve offered doesn’t feel good to you, figure out which point of view does feel good to you. If the details of my analogy or metaphor don’t work for you, change them until they do! It’s your vibration; it’s your energy. Own it!
So, here’s the bottom line: you can and you should disagree with me whenever you do. You can’t help how you feel. In that moment, you can’t help your reaction. Own that and work with it. The goal is never to agree with me, it’s to find your way to who you really are; it’s to resonate at your own, unique, pure energy; it’s to find the perspective that works for you.
I’m happy to play with you wherever you’re at, and I’m so honored to get to be a part of your journey. I can’t even describe how fun it is for me to answer your questions, and I trust – fully and completely – that whatever questions make it into my reality are perfect. Which is why I don’t try to direct at which “level” I answer questions. It’s all fair game. I’ll build the bridge from wherever you are, and I’ll build an infinite number of bridges. It’s my favorite thing in the whole world.
And with that, I want to thank you for being in my reality, and for being part of my game, and my evolution; just as I’m a part of yours.
And now, I want to hear from you. Have you ever disagreed with anything I or someone else has said? Has it led you to a deeper understanding that ultimately felt better to you? Share your story in the comments and let others witness and benefit from your process.
For now, I’m Melody Fletcher. Huge hugs to all of you and see you next week. Bye!