Coaching Call #074 is out! The topic of this week’s call is: He Wants To Become A Famous Musician.
This musician dreams of making it big, if only he could overcome his fears of what others think. This is a great call for all artists and performers who want to step on stage with more confidence, but also for all those who have a tendency to give way too much credit to other people’s opinions.
Awesome Monika’s Burning Question: “Although I have been listening to Abraham-Hicks material for many years, it is through your calls that I managed to get into the Vortex deliberately (not accidently, which happened occasionally. Then I manifested a bunch of great stuff, got out of the Vortex and it all fell apart)!! This is evidence of the fact that each of us has his/her own Vortex and we can figure things out by going through our own issues. [Editor’s note: for those of you not familiar with Abraham-Hicks, “the Vortex” is a term used to describe the vibration of your higher self, or Who You Really Are. It’s a feeling of utter elation and KNOWING that you will get what you want.]
Now, I really took one of my issues seriously and listened to almost all of your calls on the job/passion related topic for the whole weekend. By Sunday evening, I have been catapulted into my Vortex! Yupeee…
The thing that I have noticed with almost all of your clients (me included), is that none of us can bring her/himself into the uumph-feeling of their desires. It takes you to step in and guide people there. I tried to find the uumph-feeling on my own and did not succeed. So I listened to the calls I felt it the strongest, and boom! There it was again.
Do you have any suggestions how we can tap into this ourselves or maybe tell us why we all have such a hard time.”
Dear Awesome Monika,
I’m so glad you asked this question. I always do my best to explain the underlying process of manifestation during each coaching session, so that clients (and anyone listening in on the pre-recorded calls offered for sale in my shop) can continue the work on their own, as much as possible.
Do you have to get coaching?
Let me just clarify one thing first: You do not HAVE TO hire a coach in order to get to a better feeling place. The services I offer aren’t compulsory. One of the main reasons I keep publishing this blog is to freely spread the information people need in order to get to joy and enlightenment on their own. Coaching is simply a way to speed the process up and smooth out the ride. But no matter which road you choose to go down, the clarity you receive is always YOUR manifestation. This means, that when you’re ready to have a breakthrough, you will. And you’ll be guided to whatever methodology, technique or practitioner will serve you best in that particular case. I love being part of that process with people, but I’m not here for everyone, and I’m certainly not necessary to your process. And neither is any other practitioner. This is why it feels so off to you when someone claims that they and they alone have the answers you’re seeking and if you don’t pay them huge amounts of money, you shall languish in misery forever. That’s simply not true and deep down, you know it.
That’s not to say that getting some kind of help can’t be incredibly useful, but only if you’re intuitively led there. And that’s really the key: While the tool itself doesn’t cause you to shift your vibration, you may well be led to a certain technique or teacher as the means through which you achieve that shift.
What happens during an energy coaching session?
Here’s the thing: you can get to any vibration “on your own”. It’s just that when you’re working with a person like me, or listening to one of my calls, or reading something I wrote, you will get there faster. I’ve become very practiced at getting to and holding a very high vibration, which I then stream to you. And yes, this also happens on a recording. Energy is energy. When you’re exposed to that high vibration, and providing you’re close enough to it that it doesn’t send you screaming in the other direction, it makes it much easier for you to attain that higher vibration. My energy is supporting you in your work. I don’t do anything for you or to you. You still get all the credit, I just assist. I’m like the linebacker who shoves the opposite team out of the way, so the quarterback can score a touchdown. You still have to do it, but I make it way easier for you. (And yes, you still have to be a match to that “help”, or else I will just annoy you, although my own intentions will keep anyone who isn’t ready for me from even being able to contact me. The Law of Attraction is the best booking agent ever).
This is why supportive materials like recorded coaching calls (which show you in detail how to shift specific issues), or guided meditations, or channeled messages can be so helpful. But that’s also why you can’t compare the process of raising your vibration on your own, to doing it with help. It’s basically still the same process, but it’s going to take a bit longer, require you to focus more (it’s easier to focus if all you have to do is follow someone else), be a bit more disciplined, and, well, not be so damn impatient.
How to go it alone
Now, if, for some reason, you can’t or don’t want to avail yourself of some kind of help (which is actually impossible, since we’re always being supported from the non-physical, but let’s just talk bare bones techniques now), then you can use any of the techniques I’ve published on this blog, as well as those I use with clients on the coaching calls I offer for public listening (which are not the same as my private clients; just wanted to make that clear), along with the brand new one I’m going to give you today (you’re welcome).
I know I’ve said this many times before, along with every other spiritual teacher out there, but any kind of vibration raising work you do will be greatly enhanced and supported if you meditate or engage in some kind of meditation-like activity on a regular basis. Why is this so important? Because this is how you practice letting go of your issues, even if you don’t yet have a solution. You’re also getting more comfortable with being in a higher, better feeling vibration. And the more you practice this state, the easier it is for you to achieve when you’re doing more specific work. So, regular meditation makes all other kinds of energy work easier.
Reach down and pull up
When I coach someone, I stubbornly stay in a nice, high, stable vibration while they climb their way up the ladder to meet me. I steadily bombard them with positivity until they surrender (I prefer to think of it as slapping them into happiness). In this way of working, there is someone at a higher vibration, shining a light and helping you upwards. If you use materials instead of a person to help you, the materials (such as a guided meditation or recording) have to be of a higher vibration in order to work for you. Someone speaking on the issue you’re trying to shift from a much more positive perspective will allow you to reach for and achieve that perspective yourself.
In other words, no matter what process you use, it entails someone first achieving a higher vibration (one that feels better), and then reaching back down to pull the bad feeling issue up. When you’re working on your own, YOU need to be that someone.
The Poke and Run Technique
I was given this deceptively simple technique one night during one of my meditations (see? Not alone…). It uses the principle I just described and sort of circumvents the mind’s need to be fully involved in the process. For that reason, it does require just a little bit of trust and a willingness to stop telling the story of how you got where you are today, why it sucks so much, and why you can’t get out of it. In short, it requires that you be willing to back off.
Here’s the basic rundown:
Step 1: Raise your vibration on another topic. Any topic. Choose a topic that already feels really good to you. For a little while, totally let go of the issue you’re trying to shift. Just be willing to feel better for bit. Aim for the vibration of love. Now, you may be thinking “How the hell am I supposed to find the vibration of love, if what I feel right now is depression?” Easy. Change the freaking subject! (I slap. But I slap with love). Is there anyone in your life that you love? A child, perhaps? A pet? A grandparent? If you have anyone in your life at all that you truly love (and yes, they can be “dead”), someone to whom you always give the benefit of the doubt, someone who could never screw up enough for you not to love them, someone who makes you feel better when you just think of them, then you can use this technique. Spend some time thinking about this someone. And when I say “some time”, I mean 15-20 minutes. Build a real foundation; this is imperative if you want this technique to work its magic.
Step 2: Poke at the issue you’re trying to shift. Once you feel really, really good, and you’re filled with warm, smooshy love, you can “poke” at the issue you’re trying to shift. What do I mean by that? Think of the issue you’re trying to shift. There’s no need to try and change the thoughts, you’re not going to be here very long. Just activate the vibration of that subject. As you do this, you’ll feel your vibration take a nosedive. You’ll likely feel a physical sensation like a sinking feeling in your stomach, a dizziness, nausea, etc. You’re coming from a really high vibration to a much lower one. Trust me, it’s going to be obvious.
AS SOON AS you feel your vibration start to slip, and this will only take SECONDS…
Step 3: Run. Wrench your focus away from that subject and bring it back to whatever person, animal or thing allowed you to reach the vibration of love. This will not be the easiest thing you’ve ever done. Your mind is going to want to get into your issue. It’s going to want to fix stuff, and focus on the problem more. It will feel really unsatisfying to just dip in and then run away. But beware: if you get caught up in the momentum of the problem, you’re just going to be giving more and more energy to what you don’t want. This is why I said that this technique requires some trust – you have to be willing to run, to go back to your higher vibration, and not engage with the issue you’re trying to shift.
Step 4: Rinse and Repeat. Once you’re firmly back in the vibration of love (which shouldn’t take too long, IF you took the time to build a firm foundation in Step 1), you can repeat the process of poking and running over and over again. Each time you do, you’ll notice that it will get easier to go back up to love. The issue you’re trying to shift will lose more and more of its momentum. Your vibration will take less and less of a dip each time you poke, and your “recovery” time will decrease.
Essentially, you’ll be raising yourself up to a higher vibration and then bit by bit, reaching down to pull up the issue you’re struggling with. Here it is again in a nutshell:
Achieve a high vibration (love), focus on your “issue” from the perspective of that high vibration, stay there just long enough for the resistance associated with that issue to become activated, and go right back up to your higher vibration.
Remember, if you let your vibration drop, you can’t heal the issue you’re trying to shift. You’re no use to anyone, including yourself, when you’re wallowing in a lower vibration. If that happens, just regroup and go do something else for a while, until you feel better. Then try again.
Stick with it
So, how long should you keep at this technique before you see results? I wish I could give you a specific answer, like “22.5 minutes! Guaranteed!” But I can’t. Because this is a very individual thing and will change even from issue to issue within the same person. The first time I used this technique, I shifted a rather large and ugly issue within about 30 minutes (but I was kind of fighting it, because unlike me, my guides do not lay out the entire technique before asking me to try it. They ask me to trust them and just go with it, and I only see the structure afterwards. So, I probably slowed myself down a bit). 30 minutes of focusing is a long time if it doesn’t include Step 1. Go for as long as it feels good. If you start to get frustrated with how long it’s taking, you’re no longer in the vibration of love and you need to take a break.
Some issues take longer than others to shift. They come down in layers. If you achieve ANY shift, let that be enough for you to celebrate it. Sometimes, you just won’t be ready to completely let go of something. Trust that any shift at all will be beneficial (because it totally will be), and relax. Focus on how you feel. If an issue that used to make your stomach clench up with fear now feels like nothing (neutral), that’s a huge achievement. You can take it to absolute elation (the vortex) another time. Remember, quantum leaps are uncomfortable, so don’t try to take something from misery to love in one go.
There are many ways in which you can get into the Vortex or achieve Happy Shiny Puppy status. If it’s taking you a little longer to get there, don’t worry. Remember, that whatever happens, your shift is always YOUR manifestation. It doesn’t depend on anyone or anything else. You draw whatever tools you need to make that shift happen, to you.
That said, those tools can be incredibly useful. That’s why I offer coaching. The problem is that there’s a real limit on how many people I can coach (a limit that’s been reached. We’ve now got a waiting list…) It’s also why I publish those pre-recorded coaching calls for a ridiculously low price, and why I’m currently working on ways to serve a much larger number of people (stay tuned, but new products are coming). I don’t offer these services and products because you HAVE to use them, or because you can’t feel better without them, but because many of might want to take advantage of a bit of support. It’s your choice to make, and it’s by no means the only choice you have. You can manifest your clarity in a variety of ways, and that is ALWAYS the case, no matter which practitioner or teacher you’re talking to.
But don’t demonize the tools you’ve found. If you’ve realized that listening to calls or meditations or Barry Manilow songs makes you feel better, what’s wrong with that? Why not use the tools you’ve manifested for yourself? There’s no shame in using materials or techniques or other people to help you on your journey. I often get together with other healers to talk things out and get some energetic support. I choose to live in a location that makes it easy for me to do energy work. I listen to a lot of channeled tapes (currently a lot of Bashar, for those of you who want to know). Yes, I can get my own answers any time I like, but these types of activities HELP me, make it easier for me to get into my state, support me and let’s face it, sometimes I’d rather be a passive participant. I use recordings, crystals, symbols, friends, healers, retreats, plants, guides, and anything else I’m drawn to. I don’t in any way “go it alone”. Why would you want to?
So, do you need a specific technique or person to help you get into the vortex? No. But keep in mind that the specific techniques or practitioners or teachers you’re intuitively drawn to, are the perfect manifestation to help you get to the next step, no matter what that means to you. You will always be given whatever you need in order to find the next step. Always. This means that if a particular technique or teacher happens to be a match to helping you, you will have access to them. You will be able to afford them (or even be given help for free). You’ll get a ticket to the seminar, somehow get access to a book, find a slot in the schedule, be told about some tool or technique, or even inexplicably find yourself reading some surprisingly helpful blog post. Help is always flowing you to in a variety of ways. And once you really get that, you won’t find it nearly as hard to get into the vortex, with or without me.