How to Stop Smoking Using the Law of Attraction

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by Melody Fletcher on May 31, 2013

 

I’ve got a confession to make: I used to be a smoker. From the ages of 14-19, I smoked about a pack of Marlboro Reds a day. Then I quit cold turkey. I had no withdrawal symptoms and had no problem not smoking except when I had a drink. When I was 29, I started up again. I smoked off and on, quitting when I realized just how horrible those nicotine and chemical sticks made me feel. But I always started again. Then, I went to Peru for a month. After one particularly difficult shamanic ceremony, I spent 2 days being nauseous. On the third day I woke up and was no longer a smoker. Even the smell of cigarettes (mind you, not tobacco; cigarettes. There’s a difference) made me want to hurl. While cleansing myself of the desire to smoke hadn’t been my goal, it was a really nice side effect. To this day, I still can’t smell a pack of cigarettes without wanting to vomit.

Over the years, I’ve been asked to write up a post about how to quit smoking quite a few times. But because none of my efforts to quit had actually been successful, and because my desire to smoke had simply been shifted out of me as part of massive energy work, I didn’t have a ready answer. I had experienced the successful quitting process on fast forward and had absolutely no idea what had actually happened. And sure, I was able to receive the answers I needed by accessing the vast pot of Universal Knowledge, but I wanted more. I like to give practical advice, not just theories. I wanted to be able to say that I’d seen these techniques work. I wanted to be able to look at my own journey with smoking and make sense of it. And, I wanted to be able to offer you a framework that could be applied to quitting pretty much anything, not just cigarettes.

It’s taken me over two years, but thanks to my guides, and the Law of Attraction bringing me the perfect clients to prove my theories on, I can now say that what I’m about to share with you today definitely does work. You’re welcome.

Why Are You Smoking?

Most smokers, when asked that question, will come up with something like “I’m addicted and I can’t help it.” Almost all of them would like to quit, some are more determined than others, but I’ve hardly ever met anyone who smokes because they truly like it.

Here’s the thing: The physical dependency on nicotine and the soup of carcinogens that are present in cigarettes can be detoxed out of the body in 3 days. That’s right: 3 days. Everything after that is a different kind of dependency. Note, I’m not saying that there will be no chemicals left in the body after 3 days, but this is generally when the physical cravings stop. Only, it may not seem like that. Because the real reason you smoke can cause you to have a physical reaction that will make it feel like you’re still craving nicotine, when in fact, you’re craving something else: an emotional release.

You see, the real reason you smoke has nothing to do with your body needing the substance you’re inhaling. It’s not about dependency or nicotine or cravings. It’s about escaping an emotional pain that you’ve been unwilling or incapable of dealing with thus far. Smoking brings you some kind of relief. And until that need for relief is addressed, you won’t be able to quit smoking, or if you do, you’ll instantly replace it with another vice (like eating, drinking, gambling, whatever).

Are you actually an addict?

I realize that I’m probably going to get a lot of flack for this, but I’ve come to believe that there are a whole lot of people in this world and especially the US who, thanks to our Drug War and the associated advertising, have come to think of themselves as addicts, when they’re not. I’ve had clients tell me they were ashamed of their “drinking problem” when, upon further inspection, they didn’t actually have one. They told me they were “addicted” to smoking, when they could easily go a week without smoking and have no symptoms, provided that there were enough distractions. Sure, physical dependency does exist. If you break out into a cold sweat every time you go for 2 hours without lighting up, if you get jittery and anxious at the mere thought of being somewhere where you can’t immediately go out and take a drag any time you like (like flying on a plane), you’re probably physically addicted to cigarettes. Only, that physical addiction isn’t the reason you’re smoking. It’s just a by-product of your smoking, almost a separate issue altogether, and one that’s not even that hard to overcome when you get rid of the main motivator first. Three days of willpower will get rid of your physical need to smoke. But, if you don’t address the underlying problem, that won’t make a damn bit of difference.

There’s no point in adding insult to injury by thinking of yourself as an addict, especially when you’re not one. Of course, if you are addicted to something, admitting it can be the first step to recovery. But taking on a label that isn’t true doesn’t help you at all. You might get a bit of relief at first (It’s not your fault you smoke. You’re addicted), but after a little while, you’ll begin to feel totally powerless. You’re addicted. There’s nothing you can do. It may not be your fault, but it’s also now out of your hands to solve this problem. You want to quit smoking, but you can’t. Well, I’m happy to call Bullshit on that one.

First of all, if you are addicted, there IS something you can do. And if you’re not addicted (if you can go several days without a cigarette and not want to rip your skin off, you’re not physically addicted), then for God’s sake stop saying that you are. You’re a person who uses smoking as a compensating mechanism. It allows you to feel better. And, when you find the reason you need to feel better and fill whatever need you’re trying to fill with cigarettes, your desire to smoke will vanish.

Why I smoked

When I was a teenager, I smoked because I wanted to belong. I worked at a diner as a waitress and all the staff smoked. It wasn’t so much about being cool, as it was about simply feeling like I was one of the gang. I’d been different all my life, had never really fit in with any group, and I had a strong need to be accepted. Smoking was a way of participating, of fitting in.

I quit when I moved to San Francisco to go to University. My life changed, my friends changed, my environment changed and so did my habits. The people I started to hang out with didn’t smoke, so I no longer needed to light up to be one of them.

When I started again at 29 it wasn’t because I wanted to belong. I was in a high pressure job, working 18 hour days, and stressed out to the point of collapse. Smoking offered me a way to take breaks. Several times a day, someone would come by my desk and ask me if I’d like to go down to the street to have a smoke. No one ever came by to ask if I’d just like to get some fresh air. Of course, I could’ve just taken a break, but my mindset at the time was such that if no one gave me a reason to take a break, I’d forget. I’d just keep working. Taking a breather (cough, cough) a couple of times a day allowed me to decompress a bit, let off some steam, or simply take a moment to think. Coffee breaks also took just a little longer. We had to finish our cigarettes, after all (and the second, and hey, just one more…). Those few minutes here and there added up. They kept me sane in the midst of all that pressure. And even though I often realized that I felt weaker and a bit sick after smoking, I couldn’t break free. I had no substitute for what the cigarettes provided me with.

What happens when you just stop smoking

Quitting cold turkey is brutal, not so much because of the cravings, but because it’s like putting the top on a pressure cooker and turning up the heat. There’s a reason you smoke and that reason is painful to you in some way. When you smoke, you release some of that pressure – you relieve the pain. If you take away this coping mechanism, the original trigger doesn’t just go away. And with no other outlet, the pressure begins to build. This is what you’ll then feel as an overwhelming urge to smoke (and possibly murder someone by dropping a piano on them). It gets stronger and stronger until you can’t take it anymore. You finally break down and light up, all the while berating yourself for being so weak and powerless. Once again, if you don’t get rid of the original reason for your smoking, you have no chance. But if you do, the need to smoke will simply drift away.

You can either address the behavior you want to change, which never works long term, or you can release the real cause, which will make the compensating behavior go away automatically. It’s your choice, but I’d recommend the second option. It’s not about the smoking. It’s about the reason you smoke.

The following steps may seem kind of counterintuitive to you. But I promise you, these vibrationally sound techniques work like a charm if you’re willing to really give them a try.

Step One: Make it ok to smoke

Before you even try to figure out why you smoke, let’s get one thing clear: Beating up on yourself for ANY reason is never helpful. Never. Never freaking ever. So, stop it, godammit. You smoke. So what? That doesn’t make you a bad person (despite what the media says). I know that smokers have been demonized in the last few years, and I was shocked to hear some of the anti-smoker comments coming out of people’s mouths the last time I was in the States. You’d think that smokers raped babies, so great was the hatred for them. How ridiculous. And yes, I get the second hand smoke argument, but if you consider that you and only you have control over your reality including your health via your vibration, that whole premise falls apart. No one can mess up your vibration with their smoking or any other action unless you let them. So, hating on smokers shows a profound lack of understanding of how the Universe works and/or a total unwillingness to take responsibility for one’s own reality. You’re welcome, smokers.

So, smoking doesn’t make you a bad person. It doesn’t make you weak. It doesn’t say anything about you, other than that you have some kind of issue that you’ve been addressing in a way that you’d like to change now. You could’ve just as easily chosen to eat a box of donuts every afternoon, exercise excessively, gamble your life savings away, drink, smoke some dope, become a kleptomaniac, drink 100 cups of coffee a day, have an affair, become a rage filled driver who’s one concealed carry permit away from massacring the next idiot who cuts you off, or shoot heroin. All things considered, maybe smoking isn’t so bad as far as coping mechanisms go. It just happened to be the one you came across when you needed relief.

The problem is that whatever you push against, you create more of. So, even though you may be smoking in order to bring you relief of some kind, how you feel about the fact that you smoke can definitely affect how many cigarettes you go through. You may actually need fewer cigarettes than you’re currently smoking to compensate for the original reason, but by constantly beating up on yourself for it, you’ve increased the smoking. The more you beat upon yourself, the more you smoke. It’s not because you’re becoming more addicted. It’s because you’re perpetuating and growing the energy of what you don’t want by focusing on it.

Stop demonizing the action. If you want to smoke, smoke. If you don’t want to smoke, don’t. But if you do smoke, allow yourself some peace about it. Enjoy it (or try to). Get good cigarettes (yeah, I know, oxymoron…). Don’t smoke the cheapest crap. Take your time, don’t just suck one down. Oh, and follow these two rules (keep these rules in mind when you apply this article to other compulsive behaviors):

Rule #1 – You must want to smoke

Before you light up, ask yourself if you actually want to smoke. This might seem like a given, but it’s not. Often, you might smoke simply by association, because it’s a certain time of day, or because you just completed something (like eating, or sex). As weird as it sounds, don’t smoke simply out of habit. Smoke because you really want to.

Now, at this point, you might say “But Melody, I don’t WANT to smoke. I NEED to.” Stop that. You are still choosing to smoke. You are making this choice based on the options you currently see before you. You are choosing to smoke because not doing so will feel worse. It’s still your choice. Thinking of it as a choice will take the powerlessness out of it. If you’re making the best choice you can, then all you have to do is improve your options and you can choose something else. If it’s not your choice, there’s nothing you can do.

So, if you can’t get to “Yes, I really want this cigarette right now, yumyumyum”, then try “I choose to smoke this” and DO NOT add “even though I don’t want to.” That doesn’t help. The trick here is to actually feel better about the fact that you’re smoking. You NEVER want to take an action and feel horrible about it. You’ve tried to just stop the action, and that hasn’t worked. So, the only other option you have if you want to feel better is to change the way you view the fact that you smoke. If you keep in mind that this smoking thingy is a temporary solution and that you’re now moving towards a better one, adopting this perspective will be much easier.

Rule #2 – Honor your promise to yourself

I want you to make a promise to yourself. It goes like this: If you want to smoke, you get to smoke – guilt free. And then honor that promise. This means that if the answer to the question “Do I want to smoke?” is YES, then you must allow yourself to smoke and DO NOT beat up on yourself for it. Do not welch on that promise. Your mind will test you and it WILL remember if you go back on your word. The key here is to get your mind to trust you by being honest. There’s no trickery here. If you want to let go of the action of smoking you have to first stop pushing against it. And, you must get your mind to trust you on this subject. After years of beating up on yourself, that might take a few tries.

The first few times you ask yourself if you really want to smoke (or eat or drink or whatever), you will probably hear a resounding and almost defiant “hell yes, I do!” This is your mind testing you. It expects you to go back on your promise. And let’s face it, you’ve broken a lot of promises to yourself over the years, particularly when it comes to smoking. Of course, these were promises you couldn’t keep, but that’s another matter. You still have to rebuild trust. If the answer is yes, smoke and smoke happily. Enjoy it. Go someplace where you won’t be disturbed. Inhale deeply. Feel the relief of it.

Do this for a couple of weeks and you may notice that your smoking has reduced considerably already. All you’ll have done at this point is stopped demonizing the action itself. Now, it’s time to get down to the nitty gritty.

Step 2: Look for patterns and triggers

Once you’ve stopped pushing against the smoking, you’ll have taken any supplementary pressure off. This means that the real pressure, the original cause, will be much more easily discernible. Keep on allowing yourself to smoke. Remember, it’s ok. You can want to change something and not call it bad. You’re not a smoker or a non-smoker. You’re a human being learning that actions are manifestations based on vibration and that by changing the vibration you can change any action you like. I’ll give you a second to digest that one…

Start to pay attention to what’s happening when you feel the desire to smoke. Is it tied to specific times of the day? Are there any patterns? Do you generally smoke after meetings, for example? Is there camaraderie in smoking? Remember, smoking provides relief from something. What are you getting relief from?

Common triggers for smoking:

  • Stress relief (taking a break can give you time to get a grip)
  • Feeling overwhelmed (ditto)
  • Powerlessness (the boss makes a bad decision and won’t listen to you)
  • Relaxation (having a ciggie at the end of the day to unwind)
  • Anxiety (feeling afraid before a presentation)
  • Celebration (often accompanied by booze)
  • Social anxiety (lighting up to cover a pause in the conversation, or having to sit alone at the bar while your friend is in the bathroom. Of course, this one’s pretty much defunct now.)
  • Flirting (something to do with your hands so you don’t look so awkward. Again, pretty much defunct now)
  • Anger (comes from powerlessness. Taking a couple of minutes to calm down may seem like a good idea, but not if you’re actually suppressing the anger instead of constructively letting it out).
  • Wanting to belong (a shared activity)
  • Wanting to be cool (not just for teenagers! Adults can fall prey to this as well if their self-esteem is low enough)
  • Boredom/loneliness (usually late at night, when there are no more distractions left)
  • Many, many more…

Also look for the absence of triggers. If, for example, you have much less of an urge to smoke when you’re on vacation, then your smoking is probably job related. And if you’re now protesting “But Melody, there’s nothing I can do about my job”, then I have three words for you: Slappidy, slappidy, slappidy. Of course there’s something you can do, for eff’s sake! Start with this post.

If you find that you usually smoke at night, but only when you’re alone, and that you don’t even have an urge to smoke when you’re in a group, then you’re probably smoking to get relief from loneliness. Paying attention to when you’re being triggered and when you’re NOT being triggered will lead you to the real culprit: a feeling. That’s right, the thing you’re trying to get relief from will be a negative emotion.

In my case, the emotions I was trying to get relief from were feeling like I wasn’t good enough when I was a teenager (I thought I didn’t belong because there was something wrong with me) and overwhelm when I was an adult (incidentally, just in case you’re interested, this overwhelm also came from feeling like I wasn’t good enough, which led to me always trying to prove myself while ultimately never believing that I could. This is why I was able to quit smoking in one night. The shamanic ceremony ripped all my remaining self-loathing right out of me and brought me to self-love. The compensating mechanism of smoking was no longer needed and simply dissolved.)

Step 3: Shift that negative emotion in a healthier and more permanent way

While it’s true that the smoking gives you relief from this negative emotion like fear or loneliness or overwhelm or powerlessness, it’s only ever a temporary fix. That’s because you haven’t actually shifted the emotion. You haven’t cured the disease, you’ve just taken a painkiller, so to speak. If you want to release smoking once and for all, you’ll have to find a way to actually feel better. Look for ways that will give you what you actually want.

Whatever it is that you’re trying to obtain by smoking, look for ways to actually bring that feeling into your life.

Bottom line

There are no smokers and non-smokers. There are people who use smoking to escape some negative emotion they’re holding on to and there are people who use something else to do the same. Everyone has their coping mechanisms. The key is to become aware of those actions you’d like to change, and find out what it is you’re compensating for. What are you finding relief from? Is this a lot more work than just wearing a damn patch? Yes. A LOT more. It’s about you getting real with your bad self, figuring out what makes you tick, learning where your pain is and letting it go. I know, it can seem daunting, only it’s really not so bad. You see, when you shift this negative emotion, not only will smoking just magically and PERMANENTLY drift out of your life (it usually happens over a few weeks’ time, not instantly like in my case), but you’ll feel tons better. Your vibration will rise, you’ll become happier and then, well, then you’ll turn into a happy shiny puppy who can have whatever she wants.

Because, this is about more than quitting smoking. It’s about you learning that you’re not nearly as powerless as you’ve been led to believe. Quitting smoking is just the tip of the iceberg. This is about you getting everything you’ve ever wanted. This is about you realizing Who You Really Are and what you’re truly capable of. Yeah… you weren’t expecting that, were you?   :)

 






{ 26 comments }

serena May 31, 2013 at 02:42

Melody,another great post of yours!
You’re right, it all goes down to why do we actually smoke.
When i was in high school, used to smoke for the exact same reason you described you first did: to feel
I belonged to a group, to be accepted. All the other girls in my class smoked so it made me start not because smoking was enjoyable but just to be like everybody else.
Thankfully, no adiction was developed and i’m now a healthy non-smoker who no longer cares that much to be accepted in any group to start smoking again :)
Oh, and btw,. I’m a diner waitress ! Your experiences resonate so much with mine, it is incredible.
Huge kitty hugs and purrs ! I prefer kitties :)

Ron June 3, 2013 at 20:28

I agree Serena and Melody and I too started for the exact same reasons…habits, after eating, bored, just want a break from work etc. seem to be a big issue and of course stress…smoke much more when I am stressed. I love this post and will come back to it often as I am TRYING to quit. Now, if I could break the habits I associate with smoking I would do much better! Thanks again for the upfront and very honest and blunt post!!

Amy May 31, 2013 at 03:47

I didn’t really want to be the first to comment, but here she goes. Thanks Melody for the awesome topic — A topic that is personally gratifying. I’ve been trying to drop the shame and guilt about my lovely smoking habit. And I didn’t start changing my beliefs about smoking until I started reading your blog a while back. I’ve identified a host of limiting beliefs, but haven’t really found my way past them. I get LOA intellectually, but I can’t seem to break through a pervading sense of worthlessness. I don’t know where the feeling originates but it’s a clinger.

I’m at peace with the process though. I can appreciate the journey and I’ve been keeping a gratitude journal. Immensely helpful and healing.

So, I don’t know if there is a point that I’m trying to make or if I could clearly convey it anyway. But I want you all to know that I’m paying attention, that I appreciate you Melody, your blog and your readers.

I’m afraid that I might actually become a force of nature if I break the bondage of smoking. I might actually have the energy to do something great.

Eve May 31, 2013 at 10:17

Wow, most telling comment ever: “I’m afraid that I might actually become a force of nature if I break the bondage of smoking.”

A. Cole June 2, 2013 at 17:20

For me it’s drinking but thank you for this comment because I feel the same way. That maybe ill be too great if I stop having this one “flaw”

Wendi June 3, 2013 at 19:35

Hi Eve – I have thought that same thing. I keep asking myself what it is that is causing me to cope this way? The answer usually ends up on the porch, smoking, and unwilling to take a look at whatever it is that doesn’t want to make the choice.

I’m being very very gentle (as much as I can be) with myself. Constantly reminding myself that I am not a bad person. The people in the states make is really seem like we are killing babies (thanks Melody for that – btw)…tough to hurdle the shame part that others put on us.

Much positive law of attraction to you!
Wendi

Evan Griffith May 31, 2013 at 04:26

While I don’t smoke — well I did for one night, two packs, THAT cures you before you even start — I do have the occasional Mountain Dew ish.

Using the sublime psychological mechanism of transference I’m going to give this a go in that direction.

Have we (the people) told you lately how much we (all) love you? [Sing along if you like . . . ] Have we told you lately there’s no one above you? —– If not, let me speak for the fan base, and say — Thank you Melodious!

Evan
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Eve May 31, 2013 at 10:20

Love the Buddha story! And I agree totally with the song you have started here. Thank you Melody. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

John May 31, 2013 at 14:26

I want to join the chorus of appreciation for Melody! Thank you Melody for everything!

Wendi June 4, 2013 at 21:10

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this Evan…

Sophie @ Absolutely Pure May 31, 2013 at 05:10

What a great post Melody!
I’ve never been a smoker, but I recognize some behavioral patterns here that I’ve seen in friends who smoke.
I’m going to forward this to a few people!
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Ayla May 31, 2013 at 07:38

Timely post again, Melody! Thanks so much for addressing this one in depth and so well.
I’ve sensed overwhelmingly for some time that things aren’t progressing in some areas of my life at this time because I have loose ends to tie, things to complete, new habits to form, and old habits to kick. Smoking cessation is always the first to come to mind.
Oh, how I enjoy these little 3-1/4″ smooth, white coffin nails. Sometimes I take a Camel out of the box, look at it, and marvel at how this little thing has such a hold on me. As much as I have applied what I’ve learned from you with other issues, it baffles me that I never thought of applying LOA to my smoking habit.
I’ve been an on-again, off-again smoker for more years than I care to admit. But it never seemed to help me during stressful times. Rather, I find I smoke the most when I write or compose, paint, or play my guitar. For whatever reason, it seems to help me focus better in areas of creativity. So when I’m working on a song or a melody :) I’ll go through a pack like a kid with M&Ms. I would love to put them down–not even so much for the health reasons at this point so much as the cost of them!–but frankly I’m a little frightened to. I’m nearing the whole mid-life thing and find it harder and harder to unfrazzle my mind and zone in without a cigarette.
Despite all the benefits I would gain by quitting (and yes, I wrote a long list so I could see it in print!), I still feel afraid to quit. Does that make sense? How could I be more afraid to quit than not to quit, given the health risk? There are a lot of things out there to help someone kick the habit: Nicotine gum (yuck!), the patch (tried that; got addicted to the constant stream), Chantix (risk of depression and suicidal thoughts? No thanks!) and these electronic smokes called Blu. They’re not bad, just not the same. It’s that whole feeling of inhalation that relaxes, maybe.
Your post tonight presented the issue from a different perspective. I can’t tell you how much I appreciated this, Melody. I’ve often read that when applying the Law of Attraction in dealing with something, we don’t so much view what is stopping as what is starting. Rather than dwelling on what we don’t have, we appreciate what we have already, and we shift the focus from what we don’t want to what we want more of.
I’m going to read tonight’s post many times, reminding myself of that, and just see how shifting my focus on this particular issue will affect the outcome in a positive way.

Dusty May 31, 2013 at 18:42

Brad Yates is an amazing guy. He’s got a little bit of everything on his youtube channel. EFT has helped me work through a few things.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tdFBVCZZbXg

Eve May 31, 2013 at 10:15

Thanks for a brilliant post. I so wish I’d had this 7 months ago when I quit cold turkey – but then again, I think the quitting led to my search for changes in other areas, so maybe I had to this the hard way. I basically quit in a panic. My parents were coming over for a visit and I was taking them to Europe for a holiday. We would be spending all our time together. I have long smoked in front of my mom, but not my dad – ever! So, I procrastinated (I am very, very good at that, by the way) until it was three days before their arrival and finally just quit, as I said, in a panic. Oh and I am a middle-aged woman, not a 10 year old.

There were two things that really helped me. The first was to not think of it as stopping, but rather as a decision not to have the very next ciggie. Just one at a time. That really made it easier. The other thing was to understand what nicotine does. Basically, every puff releases a little bit of dopamine and a little bit of sugar into the blood. Understanding about the sugar was a real a-ah moment for me and I started to change my eating habits, which helped immensely. I had to relearn to eat breakfast, and healthy snacks, and proper meals. No more cup of sweet coffee and a fag instead of a meal. Keeping my blood sugar level really did help. Also understanding the dopamine led me to dark chocolate, which does the same thing. I am not advocating eating huge amounts of chocolate instead of smoking, but I would occasionally put one block in my mouth and let it dissolve slowly. I had found a website that has a very ‘tough love’ approach to the whole smoking cessation thing and it did help me. They give a lot of information, but don’t do any kind of ‘poor you’ thinking.

I am not going to pretend that I am out of the woods yet as I have stopped before and started again, but I am proud of having managed this far. I will go through this post and do the necessary work so that I won’t need to do it all again. I have already found that I spend 10 hours a day in front of my computer at work, without any breaks at all. Smoking did ‘force’ me to take breaks, so need to remedy that! Just need to sort out the procrastination thing :)

Dusty May 31, 2013 at 18:51

Brad Yates is an amazing guy. He HAS a little bit of everything on his youtube channel. (I posted “He’s got” on the previous post.) EFT, I can’t say enough good stuff about it. Try it. It might be a new worth while habit.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nSlPByoqJOU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tdFBVCZZbXg

Karin June 5, 2013 at 22:37

I can completely identify with the parent thing – I am in my late twenties and no-one in my family knows I smoke. When I visit them, I usually manage to go without cigarettes (on some occasions I have bought nicotine gum beforehand). A couple of months ago I spent a weekend with family, and didn’t miss smoking at all even though I have been smoking for 10 years. I did find, however that I drank a LOT of coffee – and I’m usually not a coffee drinker at all. Wonder if this has something to do with the dopamine…?

As for now, I have no plans to quit. I’ve often said that smoking is the last vice I’ll give up. I took a lot of drugs in my early and mid-twenties, and I’ve grown out of that now, so I’m thinking that eventually I’ll feel the same about cigarettes. I can feel myself heading that direction, but I’m not rushing myself. I mostly enjoy my smokes, although I do sometimes feel a bit self-conscious, since a lot of people my age have quit or just don’t smoke.

One thing I wonder though – regarding smoking-related diseases – are smokers who feel negative emotions about the fact that they smoke more susceptible to them? I guess I know the answer from a LOA perspective, but I still sometimes wonder…

Great post Melody :)

shaun May 31, 2013 at 11:05

One word, Awesome! And what an inspirational way to end.

Julie Barrett May 31, 2013 at 17:33

Hi Melody, Timely, timely, my friend! On the hit parade for this year is the smoking (which incidentally I do love the act of, not so much the stink of etc)…and you are absolutely, totally correct that it is something we do in lieu of, to fill in the gap of…what needs to get brought to the surface for clearing. It’s been sitting at the back of my mind saying,”You’re next.”
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kim phelps May 31, 2013 at 17:44

Perfect. Absolutely perfect! And timely, too. :D Thank you Melody.

Dusty May 31, 2013 at 18:07

Excellent post!! I have just been thinking of this. “Do I want to smoke?” That is a very valid question.

I have been a smoker almost all of my life. I have never been ashamed to say that I am a smoker, have been since 9. No, there isn’t a 1 in front of that number. I know when it started, the thoughts associated with it.

My mom had drug me to every self help, psychic fair and ERA gathering ever offered. (I even met Wayne Dyer when he had hair and a scary mustache, trust me the ’70′s was not his time for high fashion.)

My parents went a divorce, my dad would pick me up one weekend a month so he could tell me what mom was doing wrong and how I am failing as a human being. When he showed up the last time, I was armed with all this self help knowledge and personal growth empowerment. I said “no”. No, I wasn’t going with him. No, he wasn’t going to make me feel bad. No, he wasn’t going to make his opinions my reality. He and mom argued but she sided with me. He drove off.

In that moment, I decided my life. Huge responsibility. I went to the store and bought a pack of cigarettes for me. (Most stores in the 70′s form of carding you was “Who are you buying these for?”) Me, the 9 year old grown up. Me the master of my destiny as I see fit. There is the base.

The question is “do I want to continue smoking?” The answer that popped into mind was “Is there a reason to quit?” That answer is a great reason to quit. I will start EFT tapping on the subject, give myself a deadline when to quit and drink a lot of water. I will let you know how I feel about the whole quitting thing in about three weeks.

aylin May 31, 2013 at 21:37

I couldn’t believe it when my friend texted me and said Melody published a new post about quitting smoking just as we were talking about we should quit smoking together.I haven’t smoked for a day.I quit just before I came across your post and believe that this is the right choice for me now.I tried quitting hundred times.But it feels right and smooth only this time because I have been shifting my energy immensely nowadays.I started meditating every day and discovering every single resistance I have with meditation.I guess smoking doesn’t serve me any more.It is pretty shocking news but it is so true :) :) Love you,Melody. The universe sent a solution to my smoking problem(?) at last :) :) xoxoxo

Wendi June 3, 2013 at 19:29

Indeed timely, as many others are saying! I have grappled with smoking for years. Quit, started, quit and then started again. Felt ashamed because I started back up and felt powerless against any kind of change. It truly is a symptom of the problem.

It’s like every time I inhale, I am suffocating whatever is painful and I don’t want to look at. I am slightly enviously of you Melody for the Shamanic experience of taking care of the negative feelings all in one tremendous night. It scares the hell out of me to drag out the process of healing. For some reason, whatever belief related to this coping mechanism..fills me with dread…ugh…thought I was getting away from that..or, sitting here considering what the root is…anger…LOL…I think you recently wrote about the healthy release of that particularly scary feeling as well. I should probably look at that huh?

As always Melody – your ability to nail what I need is uncanny.

Thank you for all that you do!
Wendi

Courtney June 4, 2013 at 18:28

I think Melody’s ability to speak to what we need is because we are all basically the same and experience the same basic issues. Whats very interesting to me is that when I start reading the posts, I’m all like “But…I’m addicted…I need it…but,” however, by the end of the post, it is completely feasible that I can quit. Some of the fear is actually gone! Incredible. Even funnier is that I thought I was doing everything you mentioned! How the mind can trick us! I always tried to not beat myself up about it, but I have been very hard on myself the last few weeks which has done absolutely nothing except make me smoke more! Asking myself if I want to smoke is so awesome because its such a simple question. I realized halfway through the post that my issue is boredom. I thought my issue was that my dad’s smoking predisposed me to do the same, but once again, that takes away my power which reinforces my belief that I can’t do it which in turn makes it okay to not even try. This is so awesome.
Melody, I have to say once again that I am so fortunate to have come across your blog that day. The Universe provides in perfect time, every time! Thanks again!

Steve Simard June 10, 2013 at 16:52

My spouse stopped smoking using 3 steps from the movie (the Secret).

1. She vizualised herself as a non-smoker (Not as someone who wants to stop) It took some time to accept that idea, but with repetition and gratitude she got better and better at it.

2. She internalized and filled her heart with emotion. (What it feels like to be a non smoker. What are the benefit of being a non smoker)

3. She acted her way to her desire. She started placing odoring device all around the house and filled her heart and lung with the fact that the odor was great and healthy.

She removed the ashtray of her car.

At first, everytime she lighted up (while she was applying the technique) instead of having thought of failure (because she was lighting up one more time) she said to herself. ”I’m so happy and grateful that I hate more and more this cigarette. I’m getting closer and closer to my last cigarette. I’m a non smoker anyway and i can’t get used to this thing.)

She cut in half the number of cigarette within a week. Within 2 weeks she stopped because she had no more satisfaction from it and was enjoying the fact the she was not a real smoker after all…

I’m proud of my wife… Love you.

Alyssa Harding June 25, 2013 at 11:22

im fifteen and have recently started to smoke, i tried my own cigarette by myself that i got from one of my dad’s packs.. i started smoking purely on my own accord and i don’t do it to ‘look cool’ or because i was ‘peer pressured’ it’s purely just because i’m going through a stressful time and the rush of having a cigarette makes it feel better and i also didn’t start because my dad smokes because i dont live with him. i smoke from 1-2 cigarettes a day, if that and that’s all i need. i smoke silkcut and they are a lower tar and nicotine brand.. still not a good excuse but better than smoking something like mayfair superkings.
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brian October 8, 2013 at 04:26

Thanks for the great post. This is the first time I’ve visited your blog but I have read and seen all of the books and movies about the secret. Its nice to see that you’re taking the lessons and helping people to apply them in their everyday lives.
I actually found your blog because I was researching ways to stop smoking marijuana but after I read your article I feel like I got a lot of good information that will be useful

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