Coaching Call #028 is out today! Today’s topic is: She Wants To Fix Her Idiot Boss.
This client just started a new job but already see the pattern that was present in her old job developing: She doesn’t respect her boss and has issues with the way he treats people. At the heart of this is that she doesn’t really know how to set limits and isn’t sure that she’s allowed to. This call will benefit anyone who’s currently working in a company and wants to know how to enjoy their job more, make a positive contribution to the environment, and truly shine. Check out the summary here. (Please note that you do not have to be a member of the monthly subscription program to access the call. All calls are available for purchase separately).
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The lovely Kat asks: “I understand and see that motherhood does make one stronger and truly happy, as I’ve been told. Also, pregnancy for some women is the healthiest they have ever been – allergies go away and they actually feel great and lose weight! It’s different for every woman and I’m sure it is vibrational as well. Can one still have a great pregnancy and motherhood even if one has concerns about juggling it all? Can motherhood make a woman a bitch or release her inner bitch? I have seen women become monsters, believe it or not, after they have kids. Maybe they show their true self?”
Dear lovely Kat,
First of all, it’s ALL vibrational, not also vibrational. I forgive you for this little slip up, but I know you know better, so I have to point it out. It’s my pleasurable duty.
And now, to your question(s):
The processes of getting pregnant, being pregnant and giving birth contain a great deal of preparation for what’s to come – the actual raising of that newly transitioned powerful creator. Why do some women have such an easy time while others struggle so much? Why do some women get pregnant at the drop of a hat, while others struggle with IVF? Why do some have super easy pregnancies, while others seem to just breeze through it? And if it’s all vibration, why don’t all women who meditate have easy pregnancies?
We’re not all the same
There’s one big false belief in there that I’d like to address right away: We’re not all the same. Vibration and the relationships between our human selves and Who We Really Are is a very individual thing. Therefore, what we experience is a very individual thing. The resistance that we manifest is always perfect for us, and can’t be applied across the board to everyone else. So, if you have two women who have high vibrations (meaning they are both happy), they will not necessarily both have the same kind of pregnancy. This is because each of them has her own vibration, her own desires, her own resistance and is preparing for her own parenting experience. None of the variables (except that they’re both pregnant) are the same, and so there can be no expectation that the outcome will be the same. Not that we don’t all try…
What makes a woman have a difficult pregnancy?
Women who have difficult pregnancies have resistance. Since everyone has resistance (thoughts that contradict what we want), this doesn’t help much. The way in which the pregnancy is playing out will contain a lot of clues as to what that resistance is. We have to pay attention to how the “symptoms” feel.
Pregnancy and birth can trigger a lot of fears that you didn’t know were there before. Suddenly, your worries about how you might raise the child, if it’ll get kidnapped, how you’ll force it to eat its veggies, how you’ll tackle the broken school system and not let them squash your child’s free spirit, etc., all come rushing to the surface. Focusing on these fears, which contradict the strong desire for a healthy, happy baby, as well as the strong knowledge and desire of the baby itself, will wreak havoc on your manifestations. That’s one hell of a contradiction!
Control freaks, listen up!
One belief that seems to have come up for pretty much every pregnant or trying to get pregnant woman I’ve ever come across, is the issue of control. If you’re a control freak, you’re going to have a harder time than if you’re able to let go. Why is this so? Because that powerful creator you’re going to squeezing out of your lady parts is pretty damn determined not to be controlled. The better you get at letting go of the need to control anything and anyone, and just focusing on your own emotional guidance, the less difficult both the pregnancy and the parenting will be.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t care. Of course you’ll care. But if you realize that the baby has its own timing (you can’t force it to be born on your schedule), its own guidance system (children are not stupid little humans. They have incredible intuition and remember Who They Are much more than adults do) and its own desires (that are not necessarily the desires you want them to have), and you can be ok with all of that, you’ll have a much easier time. There are, of course, an infinite number of other beliefs that come into play, but that one seems to be present in just about everyone.
What makes a woman have an easy pregnancy?
The mere focus on the new life within them, puts many women into such a high vibration that all fear and doubt seem to vanish. When this happens, they have a much easier time of it. Of course, it’s not usually black and white. Most women experience highs and lows, and aren’t either happy or stressed 100% of the time. But, the more generally happy you are, the easier the pregnancy will be. The more generally stressed out you are, the harder the pregnancy will be.
And the same goes for parenting. Why do some women become total neurotic bitches once they become mothers? Because all their deepest fears have suddenly been triggered. They were there all along, of course, but having that baby to look after has brought them all to the surface. The crazy bitch isn’t crazy. She’s terrified and doing her best to gain control of, well, usually everything, in order to feel safer again. Since that doesn’t work, she gets even crazier.
Bottom line, becoming self aware and seeing your emotions as the guidance system they are, caring about how you feel and deliberately doing whatever it takes to feel better, will go a long way towards creating an easy, enjoyable pregnancy. The same goes for parenting. And life, really.