Public Service Announcement
A couple of days ago, I was made aware by a reader that I should’ve posted something about the Connecticut tragedy. My silence on the subject had been misinterpreted as not caring, and my happily going on with life was seen by some as disrespectful. I haven’t written a post on the subject on purpose. But I realize now that I maybe should’ve said at least that, so, here I go:
I haven’t written about the events in Connecticut, because I didn’t want to add my considerable focus and yours to the pain. I feel that that right now is not the time to try and shift people’s perspectives on this topic. It’s too painful, too fresh and people aren’t ready to hear what I have to say yet. My words would be taken the wrong way right now and would just give people something to push against, which is never my intent.
The second I heard about what happened, I immediately made sure that I would hear no more. I didn’t look it up on the internet, I got off Facebook and I never watch the news anyway. Because I live in a foreign country, it made it very easy for me not to pay attention to this and work myself right back into a good place.
It’s not that I don’t care. I do. I care deeply. In fact, I care enough to practice what I preach. I won’t add my focus to the painful side of a topic. I won’t add my focus to anything I don’t want more of. I look at what the tragedy is causing us to want instead, and I will publish that view when I feel that people can hear me. Right now, I don’t believe that enough of them can. The time will come when people are sick of feeling badly about this and will be ready to feel better. Right now is not quite that time.
Those who are mired in pain cannot understand anyone who is not. At least not for a little while. It’s natural and understandable and I do respect that enough not to poke at it, so I haven’t.
What we can focus on instead
Having said that, I’d like to point out in really general terms, that if you can’t find a better feeling perspective on a subject, it’s better not to try, but rather to raise your vibration using any other topic you can find. I’d like to offer such a topic here today, and I believe that if we all focus in this positive way, not only will we all feel better, but we can actually influence those around us. The power of this blog audience is considerable. You may have no idea just how influential you all are, especially as a group. But take it from someone who can often feel your collective questions, y’all are atomic, baby!
In keeping with the wonderful energy raised by my recent post on how I do my Year End Review, I thought I’d get us all to focus on all the awesomeness that transpired in 2012. Yes, there were tragedies, but I think they’ve been focused on enough. Let’s deliberately receive more of what we want, instead of what we don’t want, shall we?
Here’s my list of awesome things that happened in 2012:
Gay marriage is legal
As of November 2012, nine states, Connecticut, Iowa, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New York, Vermont, and Washington, as well as the District of Columbia and two Native American tribes, have legalized same-sex marriage. This puts the United States in the awesome company of the following countries: the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Canada, South Africa, Norway, Sweden, Portugal, Iceland, Argentina, and Denmark.
It doesn’t matter if you’re gay or not, this is a triumph for all of human kind. We are becoming more open, less judgmental, more allowing of each other and less dogmatic. And if there was any doubt about that, this legalization is proof that we are, as a people, moving in the right direction.
Marijuana got legalized in two US States
I know this is a touchy subject, but it brought me immense joy. It’s just awesome to see common sense and logic prevail in the legal system. No matter what you think about pot, the fact that it’s illegal, when alcohol and cigarettes do far more damage, makes no sense. Trying to fight this harmless plant (how a plant can be illegal is beyond me…) has cost billions of dollars in the US alone, imprisoned tens of thousands of people who hurt no one, and kept us from making untold medical and industrial advances. And yes, I said harmless. No one has ever overdosed on weed, and law enforcement officials agree that given a choice between legalizing alcohol and marijuana, they’d all choose marijuana, because it doesn’t cause people to become violent. (Note: I’m not saying smoking pot is good for you, I’m saying that keeping it illegal makes no sense to me).
Colorado and Washington have declared marijuana legal for recreational use, and President Obama has stated that he will not interfere. If you’ve read my post about a win-win society and an aligned vision for the future, you’ll know that I advocate as much personal freedom as possible, providing it hurts no one. This decision, in my opinion, pushes us just a bit further in that direction.
Obama got reelected
Let me state here that I’m not political in any sense of the word. I’m not a Democrat and I’m not a Republican. I don’t care what the politicians are claiming to stand for today, because none of them even come close to representing my views. Policies don’t matter. They are merely a representation of the vibration of the collective. And so, my reason for including the Obama re-election in this list has nothing to do with policies or politics. It has to do with vibration.
Love him or hate him, Obama represents hope. He did 4 years ago and he still does today, although perhaps to a slightly diminished extent. Romney represented the fear based choice (as did Bush). I’m not even talking about the vibration of the candidates (that doesn’t really matter), but what the candidates represent to the people around the world. Obama is different, he’s riskier, he’s a leap of faith. He represent a willingness to go into the unknown, to make changes, to feel better. My, haven’t we come a long way?
Spain won the Euro Cup again!
That’s right. I’m including this in my personal awesome list of 2012. Not only do I live in Spain, but I’m a Barca fan and the Spanish national team is basically Barca Light. For you Americans, we’re talking about soccer. The rest of the world knows what the Euro Cup is.
The energy that sweeps through a pub or even the city when the national team wins is palpable. The joy just oozes down the street. I adore it and hold on to it for as long as I can.
The first patient has been cured of AIDS
AIDS isn’t normally a happy topic, but it’s really worth mentioning that we’ve finally started to line up with real solutions. The first case of a completely cured AIDS patient was reported this year. We’re no longer just “managing the illness”, we’ve broken the barrier to actually eradicating it. And for those of you who think I’m being too optimistic, let me remind you of this:
Up until 1954, no one thought it was possible to run a mile in under 4 minutes. Then, a man named Roger Bannister broke the record. After that, tons of athletes started to run even faster than he did. Once the barrier is broken by even one person, people’s beliefs start to shift. Curing AIDS is suddenly possible. Don’t be surprised if we see breakthroughs flooding in from now on.
The Space Jump
Felix Baumgartner, an Austrian skydiver, daredevil and BASE jumper, set the world record for skydiving an estimated 39 kilometers (24 miles) on 14 October 2012, and became the first person to break the sound barrier without vehicular power on his descent.
Why is this good news? Because not only was it one of the only widely covered POSITIVE events on the news this year (there really was no way to make this into a bad thing), but it’s yet another example of people making the impossible possible. What is possible is only ever a product of our beliefs. People who continuously prove our beliefs of what we can do wrong, just freaking rock.
I turned 40
While I normally don’t discuss my age, I will today. Why? Because I turned 40 this year, and it means absolutely diddly squat. I’m sharing this because I realize that for much of the world’s female population, that’s not entirely the case. People obsess about the big Four Oh, lord knows that even many of my friends and family tried to make a huge deal about it. I honestly didn’t care. And that made me really happy. It’s all part of my plan to become completely ageless. I have officially reached the point where my age doesn’t matter to me and the way I felt on my 40th birthday was proof of that for me.
I don’t think, act, dress, or live the way society thinks 40 year olds should think, act, dress or live. And guess what? There are many, many others out there who don’t either. I don’t defy my age, I don’t push against it. I don’t dress or try to look or act “younger”. I dress and act the way I want to. In my head, I haven’t aged much since I was about 26. I’ve changed, sure, but I don’t feel “older”. In fact, I have more energy now than I did 20 years ago. I don’t take life nearly as seriously, I play more, laugh more, work less and have a lot more fun doing it. I’ve never been happier.
So, for all of you who write me emails telling me that you feel old at 23 or 30 because your time is running out, relax! It just gets better and better. If you allow it, that is. J
What made you happy in 2012?
You may or may not agree that these events were awesome. It’s MY list. You get to add your own in the comments. But, I’d like to point out that although I normally welcome discussion and even disagreement if it brings clarity, this particular post is one of positivity only. If you disagree with my list or anyone else’s, I advise you to get over it. You can focus more selectively than that. We’re going to be happy today. Add your own positive list. Rejoice in the items you like, the ones that uplift you and leave the rest. Let’s build the momentum of happy, shiny energy, which will influence all of those around us. Share this list with anyone you think will get it and benefit from it. Or, make your own list and share that. Yay!