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I received the following question regarding animal abuse. Because our resident guest author Mary Carol Moran (aka Lady Awesomesauce) deals with dogs every day, I thought she might be in the perfect position to answer this and explain how she shifts her perception when faced with animals in suffering. And I wasn’t disappointed. Here’s Mary Carol:
Jenn asks, “As hard as I try to avoid bad news, specifically about abused dogs, I end up clicking on the link. Then I obsess over the story, feel depression and sadness for the animal and massive anger for the perpetrator. This kinks up my vibe and I’m trying to find a better way to deal. When I read on your blog that there is no judgment (i.e. that these people aren’t going to be punished), I was a bit sad, since that was the way I dealt with it before. By knowing that things eventually even out.
Do animals that end up abused come here with that intention in order to learn something? Or the people that cause this suffering, what is their deal? Can you shed some light on this? Going crazy here. “
Melody invited me to respond to this reader question, from the perspective of my involvement in animal rescue.
Okay, first a disclaimer. I’m going to use the word ‘abuse’ in this post, even though it’s a loaded, judgmental word. The reader asked about abuse, and for most people this term has a pretty clear connotation. However… big however… there’s no judgment, and therefore there’s also no abuse. There are ‘actions which we from our limited perspective feel are not helpful to the global rising vibration,’ but that would take too much space to write each time. Therefore I’ll use the shorthand of ‘abuse.’
Let’s start with a two step plan for dealing with Internet images.
Step 1: Stop clicking!
This is more important than it seems at first glance. When you click on a link that shows an abused animal, you are giving your energy to the abuse. You are not helping the animal. Your feeling worse will not make anyone feel better. In fact, by clicking through, you are lowering the global vibration by a fraction! No more clicking. Period.
I take this further, and immediately delete anything about abuse. Then if I can, I anonymously block the person who sent it from sending me anything more.
No more encouraging or perpetuating ‘that which we from our limited perspective feel is not helpful to the global rising vibration.’
Step 2: Post a happy animal photo.
If you see an image of abuse, after you delete it, immediately post a happy animal photo. By posting happiness, you raise your own and everyone else’s vibration. You could share a smiling post-adoption photo from your local shelter. You could go to Petfinder and share a HAPPY photo of an available animal in your area. You can search Google images for cute puppies and kittens.
In fact, you don’t need to wait to see something negative. Make a plan to post happy animal photos every time you can. The more happiness you put out there, the fewer sad photos you will allow/attract into your space and into the shared universal space.
In the Real Everyday World
Okay, so now we have no more issues with Internet postings of abuse. We don’t see them, because we don’t give them ANY energy. How do we deal with personal life instances of abuse?
For me, the opposite principle applies. I delete and avoid negative images, because looking at them DOES NO GOOD. In real life, if I see what looks to me like abuse, I do what I can to stop it. The other day I saw some young boys poking a dog with a stick. As abuse goes, it was minor, but better to stop it right now before it has a chance to escalate.
The challenge is to stop the abuse without lowering my vibration. So… first, I need to delete all thoughts of blame and judgment. This is not a bad person. These are not evil boys. The abuse is only an action which, from my POV, is unhelpful. Second, try to think really fast of a better alternative.
In the case of the boys with the stick, I did go a little ballistic, and then I had to backtrack. I realized that by yelling, I had scared them (lowering their vibration – oops). I told them I knew they were great kids (I did know them), and asked why they were poking the dog. Turns out they were trying to get it to drop a ball so they could throw it again. I showed them how to distract the dog with a treat, so that it would want to drop the ball. Lesson learned. Abuse stopped. Everybody’s vibration is soaring.
How do you react when you see a mom yelling at her kids in a store? Which do you think will help the situation more – sending glares and ugly thoughts about what a horrible person she is, or sending understanding smiles and positive love and energy? If it fits the situation, maybe you can distract one of the participants.
In the Real Global World
Positive intervention (always without judgment) might work in the supermarket or the playground, but what about masses of people dying in Syria, bullfighting, global warming, institutionalized abuse? Here, I revert to the Internet approach. I refuse to perpetuate the problem by giving it my energy. I follow the news, I’m aware, but I’m not sucked in.
Instead, I try to find a way to contribute something positive: singing to the ocean, donating some small amount to building water wells, reading an article about an uplifting, generous, caring person. It’s not the money, or the singing, or the reading – it’s the attention. By focusing attention on solutions, we attract more solutions. Little by little, person by person, five minutes at a time, we attract more and more positive energy toward solutions.
Here’s an at-home example. Many of the people I work alongside in animal rescue are passionate to stopping bullfighting. They publish horrible photos, write unreadably sad articles, and picket outside stadiums. I don’t participate at all. From an LOA viewpoint, they are giving incredible energy to the problem.
A simpler and more effective solution: offer something better. Rodeos (giant thank you to rodeos!) are probably the reason bullfighting never got a foothold in the United States. I’d like to see a Pet Olympics here in Mexico, dog agility shows, rodeos, horse shows, any celebration of our connection with the animal world. Forget abuse. Celebrating is more fun!
Just as with a two-year-old, distracting an adult with something better is an awesomely effective positive action.
The LOA Theory Part
Why does the Law of Attraction related to abuse seem to work differently at a distance and up close? At a distance, LOA suggests that we not give our energy to abuse. Up close, LOA suggests that we acknowledge and gently dissuade.
This is not a contradiction! What LOA says is to do what feels best, what maintains or raises our vibration. High vibration attracts high vibration. Low attracts low.
Powerlessness is a very low vibration. When we see abuse in a photo or on the news, it often triggers feelings of powerlessness because in terms of immediate action, there realistically isn’t much we can do to end the abuse. In this circumstance, the best we can do is maintain our high vibe, and the best way to do that is to counteract powerlessness by taking some small positive action. Deleting an abusive photo is a positive action. Turning off the news is a positive action. Doing something proactively positive feels even better: posting a happy photo, singing a song, planting a bush.
A circumstance that can feel even worse than powerlessness is having the real power to do something good, and choosing not to do it. That is why LOA works a little differently with up-close abuse. How do you feel if you see an animal or a child (or an adult) being mistreated in your presence, and you turn away? Probably awful. That’s your sign. If it feels awful, try to come up with a better-feeling alternative.
Just like deleting an upsetting photo, deleting your own inclination to judge is a positive action. If you can view an abusive situation and feel compassion (not approval, but soul-deep love) for the perpetrator, you have just helped the situation immensely. If you can then from this position of non-judgment move into loving action, so much the better. You are now operating with the full support of the LOA!
In terms of motivation, attraction, and outcome for perpetrators and receivers of abuse, my Soul reaction is that we don’t know enough. Our perspective just isn’t wide enough to perceive what’s really going on. In sado-masochism, sometimes the masochist is in charge (it’s called topping from below). I’m not saying that an abused dog is in charge, or that I understand how they attracted the abuse. What I am saying is that I’m not in a position to judge.
When I was about twenty, I read a story that impressed me deeply. A woman had walked into the ocean and drowned her two children and then herself. She was from a culture where the ‘worse’ sin would have been to leave her children behind to suffer. A deeply religious friend was once in a situation where her baby was so badly injured that he suffered constant pain with no possibility of relief other than death. One would think that killing your child would be the worst possible abuse, but it’s not impossible to think of circumstances where it becomes the better choice.
Where does that leave us? Our best guide is to do what feels happiest. If we can’t reach happy, do what brings a feeling of relief. The more we act from the heart, from a point of compassion without judgment, the more abundance of life we attract.
So, how do you deal with up close and personal abuse? How do you quiet your inner judge? Do you have tips for avoiding sad online images? Please share your thoughts, suggestions, comments, and questions, dear readers! As always, I look forward to a lively discussion.
Mary Carol Moran lives in Mexico, where she spreads love and awareness and poetry. Her latest project is an animal shelter for puppies and kitties. Check it out and support the site by liking it here: Amigos de Perros y Gatos Colima