Before we get to today’s awesome reader question, I have two quick updates for you:
Quick Update #1: Steve Aitchison, one of the creators of the Re-Awakening Meditation Program has informed me that they’re about to raise the price from $27 to $47. If you’ve wanted to buy the program but have been sitting on the fence, I thought I’d let you know that right now would be a good time to go and get your copy. You can read my review of the program here.
Quick Update #2: I’ve shut down the survey regarding the membership site. Thank you SO much to everyone who participated. I got so many awesome responses and ideas, I’ll be a very busy girl for quite some time (wouldn’t have it any other way). The membership site is almost ready (I’ve been working like an inspired chihuahua on speed) and I’ll have some more news for you very soon. I’ve also managed to create an application form for FREE Coaching calls, which you can find HERE.
Now, on to today’s post…
Awesome Jane asks: “How do we ‘manage’ the void and what is it exactly? It’s mentioned briefly in the Jagger post but I need more info! LOL. Recently I came to the realization there was nothing more I could do to manifest something; pretty cool right? However, I then felt a bit, well, blank. A bit in the void. I’ve also come across this feeling when I’ve let go of the only answer and accepted ‘this or something better’. There is absolutely a moment of void-ness when I do this. Does the void lower our vibration and if so, what can we do to work with this? Or is this simply part of the process and therefore something to recognize, acknowledge and be a part of for a while?”
Excellent question Awesome Jane. The Void can be a very confusing time, and one, if not handled properly, that can delay our impending manifestations.
What is the Void?
It sounds kind of ominous, but the Void is actually completely natural. We’ll all experience it from time to time in our lives. Basically, the Void occurs when you’ve had a lot of momentum going in one direction (energetically speaking) and then you stop and go in a different direction. That space between changing directions is called the Void.
Let’s say that you’re pushing a truck down the street. It’s big and heavy and you’re straining and sweating and possibly swearing like a sailor. You use all your strength and push with all your might and you actually get the damn thing to move. Then, suddenly, you stop pushing. Your heart rate is still up, your muscles are still twitching, your adrenaline is still pumping and you’re still sweating. Your body hasn’t had a chance to actually react to the fact that you’re no longer pushing the truck. You may feel a bit floaty, possibly lightheaded and because of all the adrenalin, totally desensitized. Someone could now poke you with a needle and you wouldn’t feel it at all; nor would you care. You’re just happy not to be pushing anymore. This state may last a few minutes or even longer, depending on how hard you were working and what kind of shape you’re in. Even your brain may be temporarily affected, making it difficult for you to think clearly for a short while. You’re sort of unsteady, no longer pushing, but not really yet fully able to do anything else, either.
Now, let’s transfer that same scenario into the energy world. Let’s say that you’ve been pushing against something – you’ve had major resistance. Perhaps you have a fear that you’ll always be alone. It’s a huge fear, instilled in you in early childhood and it’s manifested in various ways throughout your life. Every time you got close to someone, you or someone else would sabotage the relationship, proving your belief, that you’d always be alone, right (remember that the Universe will always prove you right.) But then you read this amazing blog (tee hee) that makes you realize that you are not alone because you’re broken, or unattractive or whatever, but simply because of this underlying belief. And you decide that you no longer want to believe that you’ll always be alone. You begin to meditate regularly and stop looking for evidence that you’ll die a miserable, lonely death. Instead, you start to look for thoughts that feel better and evidence that all kinds of people, no matter what they look like, or how rich they are or any other arbitrary characteristics, fall in love every day.
And as you do this, you start to feel better. You’re no longer in as much pain. You’re no longer as sad. You feel relief. But you don’t feel all happy, happy, joy, joy. You kind of seem to feel, well, nothing. What the hell Universe? Where’s the Happy Shiny Puppy Energy that Melody’s always talking about? Clearly something must have gone very, very wrong. And so, you freak out. You start to beat up on yourself for not doing it right, for not being a very good manifestor, or for being too weak-minded to focus correctly. You keep doing this until you’re right back in familiar territory – depressed and alone. Stupid, stupid Law of Attraction.
Nothing went wrong
The only thing that went “wrong” in the above scenario is that you freaked out. You were in the Void. But our tendency, as humans, when faced with an unknown situation, is to assume the worst and throw a hissy fit. You know, just in case. Because apparently that solves everything.
Here’s what really happened and what would’ve happened if you’d kept your cool: You’d been pushing against self-love and self-acceptance for years. That belief, that you’d always be alone and weren’t worth loving, had A LOT of momentum going. You weren’t just pushing a truck, you were pushing a tank. Then, when you started meditating and deliberately shifting your thoughts to better feeling places, it’s like you stopped pushing. That’s why you felt relief. Pushing a tank is painful (I assume. I have never pushed a tank. I don’t even own a tank. If anyone out there has actually pushed a tank and found it be soothing and relaxing, like a beach vacation in Tahiti, then I apologize for my horribly inaccurate metaphor. I invite you to drop me a line so that I may ask my spa to add “Pushing a Tank” to its list of treatments. “I’ll have a mani/pedi and, um, do you have any tanks I can push? I’ve been so tense lately.” Anywho, where was I?)
Just as your body is desensitized for a little while after pushing really hard against a physical object, your emotions will be a little numb right after you’ve been energetically pushing really hard against something. Stuff is still happening (you are recovering, energy is moving, shifting, lining up), but you’re not entirely aware of it because you’re in this floaty, dazed place.
Your new reality
What’s more, you were really, really lined up with the frequency of unworthiness, which was a big part of your physical reality. Beliefs like that don’t just manifest in one little way, they tend to be mirrored back to you in a variety of scenarios, and the really big ones will affect all areas of your life in one way or another. So, you were lined up with this entire reality based on this belief that you could never be loved. As you then start to shift your energy to a different frequency, that reality starts to disintegrate, making room for the new reality that will take its place. Things that have interested you for a long time may suddenly seem boring. People that you used to have a great time with may become annoying or may simply no longer call. And you find yourself saying or wanting to say, over and over again, “I just don’t care.”
But because you know that intrinsically, you’re a passionate, happy, joyful being, it makes sense to come to the conclusion that by definition, not caring would signify something bad. And it might, if this was a permanent state, which it is not.
The Void is temporary. Always. How long it lasts depends on how big of a shift you’ve made (how much of your reality will be affected by the shift) and on how allowing you are of the new energy you’re lining up with (i.e. how much you freak out). It can last for seconds, minutes, days, weeks, and in extreme cases, when the individual keeps waffling back and forth between frequencies, months. Once you understand what’s going on, and that this IS a temporary state, it becomes a lot easier to manage.
The problem with the Void is that it can trigger some fears.
Will you care about anything ever again? Of course you will. It might not be exactly the same stuff you used to care about, or it will be the same subjects, but from a slightly different perspective. But as the new reality comes into focus, you’ll rendezvous with all kinds of interesting thoughts and ideas that will ring your bells like nothing ever has before. You’ll discover a whole new level of passion. Let whatever wants to gravitate out of your existence go.
The absence of positive emotion means that something has gone wrong. But it hasn’t. The absence of positive emotion is not the same as the presence of negative emotion. You’re moving from major negative emotion to positive emotion, and when you’re in the Void, you’re simply smack dab in the middle of the two. It’s like you’re moving from a cold water pool to a hot water pool. In the middle, where the two meet, it’s going to be kind of luke warm. Not unpleasant, but nothing to write home about. Also, it kind of makes you have to pee.
The absence of immediate physical manifestations means that something has gone wrong. No, it hasn’t. You have to wait a little bit for the energy you’re aligning with to create that new physical reality, and for your reality to shift to the new one. The more you’re able to trust in the process and soothe your fears, the faster this will happen. As you align yourself with a new vibration, a tremendous amount of energy is being shifted and remodeled into a completely different reality. The actual physical manifestation is the evidence of that, the last step in an incredibly complex series of events. So, just because you can’t see anything happening, doesn’t mean that the incredible, powerful, awesome machine that is the Universe isn’t working overtime in the background. In other words, chillax already and stop checking the pot to see if the water is boiling.
What to do if you’re in the Void
So, what can you do if you find yourself in the Void and you don’t want to freak out?
- Remind yourself that it’s temporary and that nothing has gone wrong. You’re in between realities, so to speak.
- Keep meditating regularly if that’s part of your routine.
- Take very good care of yourself. You may find that you’re being given the opportunity to be on your own a lot (what you may have formerly referred to as “all of your bastard friends abandoning you”). This is the perfect time to learn to listen to your intuition more. It’s much harder to hear your inner voice when you’re constantly surrounded by distractions.
- Sleep a lot. Take long baths. Read trashy novels. Play video games. It’s ok to do mindless activities if that’s what you feel like. Just don’t beat yourself up for not being more “productive”.
- Focus in ways that feel good. You may not have anything specific that you care about right now, but you can find general topics that will feel good to you. Don’t reach for happiness or ecstasy. Understand that the lack of negative emotion is the sign that you’ve shifted. Just reach for soft feelings of relief. If you focus on a sunset, or the ocean, or the feeling of the grass between your toes, etc., you’ll notice a general feeling of ease and soothing come over you. That’s more than enough. The specifics of your new reality will show up soon enough and you’ll be busier than ever. Enjoy the break!
The Void can be a scary place when you don’t know what it is, particularly when you’ve shifted enough energy to realign major portions of your reality. But once you understand that the fact that you’re moving through the Void is actually an indication of how successfully you’ve realigned yourself with what you want, you’ll be able to relax into it and enjoy the down time. Trust me, when the energy really starts lining up, you’ll look back on the Void with nostalgia.