In this 4 Part series, I’m answering the challenge set by Winston Wu, a fellow blogger, who posed some interesting questions about LOA in his post Debunking the Law of Attraction. In Part 1, I set the stage and explained that I’m in no way trying to convince anyone of anything, but am simply providing clarity to those who want it and resonate with this information. In Part 2, I answered questions 1-5. Today, I’m going to tackle questions 6-10.
6. Is there any objective reality? If not, then how come you can bring a brown table into a room full of people, yet everyone will see the same thing, without you telling them what it is? And even if you told them it was a blue table, they’d still see a brown table. Doesn’t that indicate that the brown table has an existence in objective reality?
Yes and no. As I explained in my answer to Question 1 (in Part 2), there are global beliefs or “agreements” that we all pretty much abide by. So, we all see the table and the tree and the ocean. In that sense, there is a kind of objective reality. We’ve all agreed to it, to a certain extent.
However, the experience one has when looking at that table is not objective. One person may like the table and see it as beautiful, while another will hate it and see it as ugly. This is where our own, personal filter comes in, which creates our own, personal reality.
Also, and I’m adding this just because I think it’s really interesting: How do we know that we all see “blue” the same way? How can we possibly know if my blue is the same as yours? If I were to see the color blue as red, for example, and you pointed to a blue table and asked me what color it was, I’d say “blue”. I would see red, but I would’ve come to associate what I see with the word “blue”. Even if you take light wave frequencies and the fact that our eyes function basically the same into account, how do we really know that we all experience the color blue them the same way? We don’t. It’s totally subjective and it’s interesting to think that my “blue” may be quite different to yours… These are the things I think about over a cup of tea. Ha.
7. To what degree do thoughts create reality? Are there any limits? If so, then why doesn’t Wayne Dyer or Deepak Chopra define any? And aren’t they misleading people into thinking that their thoughts are all powerful by not doing so? Or do they have a vested non-spiritual interest in promoting this concept? If there are no limits, then why can’t you materialize and dematerialize matter in the physical universe like “Q” in “Star Trek The Next Generation”?
I believe I answered this question fully in Part 2, Question 1. Theoretically, there are no limits. I can’t speak for Drs. Dyer or Chopra, but in my opinion, when they make statements such as these, they are looking at the subject from a more theoretical angle. They are looking to open people’s minds to the impossible, much as I described in Part 1. I’m happy to bring this subject more into the practical. That’s just my style, though, and it’s not any better or worse.
8. Another variant of this principle is that “expectations create reality” as well. In other words “Expectations manifest. You attract what you think about. What you expect will be drawn to you. And what you fear also will manifest.” Now if that’s true, then how come most things don’t go according to plan and how come expectations often fail?
First of all, “Most things don’t go according to plan” is a limiting belief. That’s actually not my personal experience at all. But again, as I said in my answer to Question 5, you may not be aware of what you’re expecting. You attract what you repeatedly think about, as this will inform your vibration. And if you are thinking thoughts and you have beliefs that you are not aware of (your subconscious), then you often don’t know what you’re creating. But by looking around, you can see where your vibration is at. Your reality is mirroring it back to you. And your emotions and feelings will tell you if you are manifesting what you want or what you don’t want. So, I’d like to restate and clarify the statement “What you fear will manifest”.
When you are focusing, consciously or inadvertently, on what you don’t want and are lining up with that, your emotions are going to tell you. The more negative the emotion, the further away your focus is from where you want to go. And the more intense the emotion, the more energy you are giving to what you don’t want. So, if you are experiencing fear, it’s because you are focusing and lining up with something you really don’t want. The fear is the indicator that you are doing this.
So, it’s not quite accurate to say that you manifest what you fear. You manifest what you line up with, whether it produces fear or joy. However, most people don’t know that the fear is a message and, spurred on by a misguided belief that we must “push through the fear”, will continue to focus on the energy that’s causing that response until they manifest it into the physical.
9. If “expectations create reality” then how come we don’t always get what we expect? How come there are so many let downs and disappointments in life?
I believe that I’ve answered the question on expectations fully. There are so many disappointments in life because we have been trained to focus on the unwanted, which continuously lines us up with more stuff that’s unwanted, keeping the cycle going. We have the ability to just as easily line ourselves up with a series of triumphs and there are plenty of people out there who have done this. We idolize them and worship them because we think they’re special. But we all have the ability to do it. It does take some retraining, though. We are so good at walking into a room and noticing the one thing that’s amiss, even if everything else is perfect. WE look for what’s wrong. And when something disappointing happens, we talk about it and think about it and can’t leave it alone. We focus, focus, focus on what we don’t want and continue to line up with it. Even if, in a brief moment of hope, we manage to expect a better outcome, it may well not be enough to counter the massive amounts of focus we’ve given to what we don’t want. Besides, most people that achieve a negative outcome are not really disappointed. Their true reaction is more along the lines of “I KNEW this would happen! See? I shouldn’t have even tried!”, which is indicative of a negative expectation. Wanting to expect a good outcome and actually achieving the vibration of expectation are two very different things.
10. Another variant of this is that you will “manifest what you fear” as Wayne Dyer like to put it. If that’s so, why aren’t children who are afraid of the boogie man at night not actually harmed or taken by one? And how come children afraid of monsters under their bed don’t get eaten or killed by them? How come people who get scared after watching a horror movie don’t manifest the creatures from the movie into real life? How come Dracula, Werewolves, Frankenstein, Jason or Freddy Krueger haven’t manifested into reality yet?
To understand this explanation it’s beneficial to have read my answer to Question 1 in Part 2. There are global beliefs or agreements about what’s possible in this world. Most of us do not believe that the boogieman exists. Also, even if someone did, they would still have to match up with the experience of meeting up with one (horrible or otherwise). The fear that most kids have of the boogie man does not extend to this. However, many children do see non-physical energy, which will match their fear or lack of it. To bring this non-physical energy into the physical would, again, take tremendous focus. Most kids will not spend 18 hours a day obsessing over the boogie man. They take a break from the fear and play and that energy creates, too. If they feel predominantly safe, then they will stay safe. If they feel predominantly scared or vulnerable, then they will match up with an experience that matches that, but in a way that they can most easily accept (manifestations always come to us in the way that’s easiest for use to accept, given our beliefs and circumstances). For example, a child who feels predominantly vulnerable, may meet up with a bully on the schoolyard. Personally, I’m not so sure that’s too different from a boogie man.
When we watch scary movies, a big part of us knows that this is fiction, even if we suspend our beliefs enough to really get into the movie. Again, just because you think of Dracula, doesn’t mean that Dracula would pop up in your bedroom, much to the chagrin of every teenage girl alive today. Your vibration would have to be a match to that experience. What could happen is that you focus on Dracula and the next day, a book about Dracula catches your eye. You see a movie about vampires playing at the Cineplex. A kid at the grocery store in front of you is dressed as Dracula, even though it’s not Halloween. Suddenly, you see vampires everywhere, but in a way that’s acceptable to you.
Now, if watching that scary movie made you feel truly terrified and you spent some time with that feeling, it would manifest. You’d become afraid that someone was in your house, for example. By giving energy to the scary thoughts, they would gather more thoughts, making it easier to think this way. If you continued focusing this way, instead of talking yourself out of it, turning on the lights or doing something to distract yourself and allowing yourself to feel better, you could manifest your own personal boogie man, in time. Real life monsters do exist – the evening news is full of them.
I’ve really enjoyed the discussion the comments so far. Boy, do I have some awesome thinkers among my readers. In Part 4, I’ll be answering the final 5 questions. Please tell me what you think and if you find these posts interesting, please share them on StumbleTwitGoogleFace or whatever.