This is the second video in my little series on negative emotions.
Last week, I explained that our emotions are indicators that let us know if what we’re thinking in any given moment is pushing us closer to what we want or pulling us further away from what we want. If our thoughts are pulling us further away from what we want, we experience negative emotion. So, negative emotion isn’t something to be squashed or avoided. It’s actually a very useful messenger.
In today’s video, I’d like to focus on something called a sense of entitlement. When we think of someone with a sense of entitlement, we think of someone like Paris Hilton – someone very demanding and kind of bratty. In its pure form, however, a sense of entitlement is simply a positive expectation. “I expect that things are going to work out for me. I expect to get what I want and I fully feel that I deserve it.” Now, if you know anything about the Law of Attraction, you’ll know that this is the exact state you want to be in, in order to get what you want. In this state, you’re not contradicting what it is that you want.
So, why is it that we have such a negative reaction to a sense of entitlement? Well, we don’t – not to a sense of entitlement in its pure form. But we do have a negative reaction to it, when it’s coupled with a control issue. This means that if I have this kind of sense of entitlement, I fully expect to get what I want, I feel that I deserve it, and I’ve decided that I’m going to get what I want through you. Now, that thought has a little bit of a different feel to it.
Let’s say that you’ve set the intention to manifest ABC. Somewhere out there in the Universe is someone who has set the intention to provide ABC. The Law of Attraction brings the two of you together, and in that meeting, both of you get exactly what you want. It’s perfect co-creation and when this happens, it’s easy. There are no demands, there’s no pushing; no one has to make anything happen.
However, when you, having intended to find ABC, decide not to wait for that person who’s a perfect match to that intention, but rather choose whoever is closest to you and demand that THEY provide ABC, even though they’re not an energetic match to it, we get a lot of negative emotion. There’s vibrational discord.
Basically, when you have this negative sense of entitlement, you’ve decided not to leave it up to the Universe with its infinite resources, but that what you want has to come through a certain person, event or circumstance.
Think of a mother with small children who would like more time for herself. She’s decided that the only way this can come about is if her mother, the grandmother, babysits for her. She expects and demands that her mother help her. Now, if the grandmother isn’t a perfect vibrational match to fulfilling that request, this situation is going to cause resentment.
If an employee who wants more money decides that this money MUST come from his boss and walks into his boss’ office and demands a raise, but the company and/or boss aren’t actually a vibrational match to providing that money, then chances are that not only will the raise be denied, but the employee will be seen in a worse light for having been so demanding. The discord created by trying to make someone provide something they aren’t a match to will cause negative emotion. Whereas, when you have a vibrational match, no one has to demand anything. Things just line up and happen easily.
So, if you find yourself frustrated that people don’t seem to be playing along with what you’re expecting, you probably have a negative sense of entitlement. You have a lot of desire going and you’re almost a match to what you want, but you’ve decided that you know better than the Universe and that what you want will have to come to you in a very specific way, instead of allowing it come to you through the best possible avenue. So, just back off a little bit.
If you’re the “victim” of someone who has this negative sense of entitlement, then realize that they simply have a misunderstanding of how the Universe works and how we manifest. If they’re open to it, you can explain it to them. Otherwise, just understand that they’ve simply decided that what they want has to come through you, but that you have no obligation to provide it to them, if you’re not an energetic match. In fact, you’d be doing yourself a disservice if you forced yourself to give them what they want out of obligation or to make them go away.
Was this video helpful to you? Have you ever had this negative sense of entitlement, or have you been on the receiving end of someone who did? How did you deal with it?