It’s another Guest post by Lady Awesomesauce – Mary Carol Moran. Yay!
By the age of two, every child has learned a favorite phrase, “I want.” Wanting seems to be an integral part of human existence. If we didn’t want, what would we accomplish? Surely it’s desire that spurs us to do great things, to invent, to dream, to achieve.
Reading and working with the Law of Attraction here on Melody’s wonderful website has led me to confront my desire for things. On the one hand, I understand that I can bring whatever I want into my existence. On the other hand, in practice, getting what I want often leads to more desires, and ultimately to unease.
All that glitters isn’t happiness
Lately I had an experience of receiving whatever material things I wanted. It was really fun! And it seemed like a fulfillment of the LOA. But within a few days, I was physically sick and anxious. Do I have a limiting belief that I don’t merit the things wealth brings? Or was this lovely interlude meant to allow me to see that desire is fundamentally unproductive of happiness? Buying into the importance of stuff brought me down to a sick vibration I hadn’t felt in months.
Many great philosophers and religions caution against desire. Lao Tzu in the Tao Te Ching says, “Manifest plainness / Embrace simplicity / Reduce selfishness / Have few desires.” Aesop writes, “A crust eaten in peace is better than a banquet partaken in anxiety.” Confucius says, “With coarse rice to eat, with water to drink, and my bended arm for a pillow – I have still joy in the midst of these things.” Buddha even goes so far as to say, “Desire is the root of evil.”
We all know that stuff itself doesn’t bring happiness, but that doesn’t mean you can’t have nice things, right? Maybe all these philosophers were just trying to maintain the status quo? Keep the poor contented and the lowly low. Or maybe they were onto something. Maybe not only does stuff not bring happiness; maybe desiring actually works against happiness.
So who’s right?
The LOA that says you can have a Mercedes if you visualize, plan, work, and bring it into your energy space? Or the philosophers who say that wanting is a trap?
Well, I think they’re both right. The LOA says that what we want soul-deep is happiness. The outer world is working really hard to convince us that happiness = a nice car, a comfortable house, whatever cool stuff we wish we had. We may get those things, but until we release the belief that material wealth brings happiness, we won’t find it. This is why I got sick. Part of me expected unalloyed happiness, and that didn’t come. Ouch.
Love what you have
To me, there’s a deeper lesson in the LOA, and Melody hints at it often in her posts. The first step to getting what you want is feeling as if you already have it. The first step is to love what you already have. Okay, revelation: that’s the first step… and the final step. Once you feel contented, happy where you are, you’re already past the goal post!
It’s a circle, a giant snake eating its tail – when you’re truly happy where you are, desire for something better falls away. Just like wanting is a cycle of always wanting more and more, letting go of desire is a spiral of greater and greater happiness.
I know in my heart that liking what I have, basically not desiring anything, leads me to peace and contentment. Can I maintain it? Nope. I do try to open out my desires, using Melody’s mantra, “I want this or something better.” Leaving the outcome to the universe, how many times have I received something more perfect than I could have imagined?
So yes, the two-year-old inside of me is still speaking up, saying “I want, I want. Please can’t I have….” And whenever she pipes up, I give her a big hug, and remind her how well-loved she is. The adult me knows that asking for stuff is a veiled request for love. When the child-me finally disconnects stuff from happiness, receiving the true bounty of the LOA will be pure joy.
Wishing for each of you everything your heart desires, or something better…
Read more of Mary Carol’s articles about living a Healthy Life at alabamahealthylife.blogspot.com