A couple of days ago, I was running some errands, and decided to head to the health food store. I only shop at this store once every couple of weeks for specialty items I can’t get at the normal supermarket. I had my grocery list and my shopping bag (I’m freakin’ green, y’all!), and my tunes blaring on the old iPod, as I headed off to my destination. Ten minutes later, I found myself standing in front of my regular supermarket – the non-health food one. I’d made the decision to go to a different store, but had slipped into autopilot mode and ended up at the store that I regularly shop at.
Why am I telling you this little story about my brain fart moment? Because it so perfectly illustrates the process we go through when we try to shift a belief.
- First, we have to make the decision to shift a belief (I’m going to go to a new store/I’m going to love myself more).
- Then, we have to find that destination, even though we may not yet know how to get there (google the address/find the end statement we’d like to be able to believe, like “I love myself”)
- After that, we’ll have to actually make our way to that destination (walk to the store the first time/work our way up the vibrational ladder until we actually achieve the feelings that correspond to the new belief).
- Deliberately practice reaching that destination so that we’ll go there even if we slip into auto-pilot mode (pay attention while walking to the new store/pay attention to your thoughts and practice the new belief until it becomes the default thought).
It’s that last step that’s often missed when we shift a belief. We “do the work” and find a better feeling thought. Or, we’re somehow taken there through a series of events. When you go to a self improvement seminar, you may get all fired up, inspired and you can’t wait to get home to put all of your new ideas into action. You accessed a whole new vibration, one that came with clarity and insights the likes of which you didn’t even know existed. But once you get home, your regular life and routine take over and nothing changes. This is because you missed the last step in the equation: Integration.
Finding that new frequency is only the beginning. It feels great, but it doesn’t necessarily last. Beliefs are like habits – you tend to automatically follow the route you’ve been taking every day since that belief or habit was first formed. Changing that habit takes more time than just figuring out a new route. You have to practice it until it becomes the new habit. You have to deliberately think the new thoughts until the new belief becomes the one you default to on auto-pilot.
So, remember the formula:
- Decide to change the belief
- Define the new belief
- Find the vibration of the new belief
- Practice the new belief until it becomes your default one
I know that my posts are usually much, MUCH longer than this one, but, well, I found that this one didn’t need to be. I usually pick much larger concepts and explore them fully, but I often get these smaller (but no less important) insights and have decided that perhaps it would be a great idea to publish those as standalone posts from time to time (instead of waiting until I can include them in a longer blog post). Do you like this shorter format? Let me know in the comments.