Intuitive Eating For Stress Freaks – Part I

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by Melody Fletcher on September 15, 2011

As promised in my first post on Intuitive Eating, which introduced the concept and described the basics of what Intuitive Eating is, I’ve decided to do a follow up post. But because I’m actually writing a book on the subject (which will include my weight loss journey, the results of which you can check out on my About page), I have A LOT to say on the subject. Narrowing that down to blog post length was a challenge for me. As regular readers of this post know, I like to thoroughly and fully explore and explain topics in my blog posts, which means that they’re not generally, um, what you might call short. So, I asked around; I wanted to know what the number one issue was that people wanted to know about when it came to intuitive eating. And what stood out more than anything else was, “How do I implement this way of eating if I’m a super busy, sleep deprived, workaholic stress freak?” Well stress no more, freaks. I shall answer that question. Fully. Thoroughly. And lengthily. So lengthily, in fact, that I had to split this into two blog posts. Part II will be published this Sunday.

The Basics of Intuitive Eating

Just as a quick recap, Intuitive eating is the process of eating exactly what your body asks for and nothing else. Your cravings are actually designed to tell you exactly what your body needs, but have probably been completely messed up by eating food that isn’t actually food – i.e. chemical additives, preservatives, artificial flavors, and other nasty crap. But if you clean up your diet, and eat only natural foods (not packaged foods that say they’re healthy, but actual food from the produce isle and stuff), those signals will become accurate again. You’ll actually start craving healthy stuff. After that, you can learn to listen to those signals and use them to create the perfect diet for you.

Intuitive eating and the workaholic

Hello. My name is Melody and I’m a workaholic. I don’t act like one anymore, but perhaps it’s like alcoholism and drug addiction – once a workaholic, always a workaholic. What I’m getting at here is that I feel your pain. I get where you’re coming from. If you have to add one more stressful thing to your schedule, you’re going to start smashing in skulls with your stapler. You’re tense, you’re super busy, you need things to be simple and although you’d like to eat healthier, you just don’t have the freaking time to make it a priority.

I won’t bore you by explaining to you how when you eat better, you actually have more clarity, more stamina and more energy. If you don’t already know that, you won’t care. Even if you know it, it hasn’t been motivation enough for you to change your diet in the past. A candy bar and a diet soda are convenient damn it, even if they leave you feeling kind of woozy and sleepy. I get that.

But there is one thing you can do to make this way of eating possible, no matter what your work schedule looks like. And you’re not going to like it. You’re going to think it’s too hard. But it’s not, I promise. Here it is: Take your food to work with you. That’s right. That’s the key to staying on track, with any diet actually, when you work like a demon. And even if you’re not a workaholic, this is pretty much your key to food success in the workplace. Why? Because you generally have little to no control over your food choices when you’re at work.

You don’t control the timing (are you always hungry precisely at lunch time, or would your body naturally follow a different schedule?), and you don’t control what’s available. So often, you end up eating, not when you’re hungry, but when you have time to sprint off and grab something, which can mean that you’re absolutely famished and willing to eat almost anything. How else do you explain how those nasty meat pies in the vending machine (seriously people? Meat from a vending machine?!) ever get eaten? And because it’s unlikely that your job or the surrounding fast food restaurants (because you value speed above all else) have something healthy on offer, you’ll generally end up eating something that you know isn’t good for you, but which you’re willing settle for under the circumstances.

Trust me. I’ve been there. Here’s the alternative: Imagine with me, for a moment, that you took 10 minutes to put your lunch together the night before. Perhaps you made a tasty salad. Or perhaps you spend one evening a week, making and freezing your lunches for the next 5 days. I know, I know. It’s a logistics nightmare. I can hear your excuses and objections now:

  • “When the hell am I supposed to go shopping?” – So, you’re telling me that you never go shopping now? You have NOTHING in your kitchen, not even coffee or cereal, or, and don’t even try to deny this: wine? Yeah… I thought so. You do make the time to grab the essentials. It doesn’t take that much longer to pick up a few extra ingredients. You don’t have to turn into freaking Donna Read (for the young ‘uns or non-US citizens amongst you, she was the star of a 50′s TV show and basically became the poster child for the perfect American housewife. Like perfect, causing women everywhere to feel guilty for not ironing their husband’s underwear.) Just plan ahead a little and make a list of what you need. Then pick up a few actual groceries the next time you go on a booze or ice cream run. Yeah. I know about the ice cream, too.
  • “I don’t have time/the energy to make my lunch the night before. I come home late and exhausted.” – Suck it up. Seriously. You need to make your health and how you eat at least a teensy bit of a priority. I’m not asking for an hour a night. You don’t have to make a pot roast or bake a pie from scratch. Where do you even come up with these ideas?! Make a salad, or stir fry a few veggies and add a bit of chicken or beef or some frozen prawns (frozen. That means easy and still better than processed!). But whatever you do, make it from scratch. Don’t buy processed food and pass it off as healthy. Even if it says so on the box, it’s not. Yes. They are lying to you. Bonus: You can eat the same thing for dinner and lunch. So, if you make a quick meal for yourself at night, and you haven’t eaten, eat half then and take the other half with you. Now you’ve had two natural meals!

Making your food at home and taking it with you does represent a change to your routine. I get that. But it doesn’t have to be a huge hassle, and usually, you think it’s going to be a lot harder to implement than it actually is. That’s how it was for me. I always thought it would cost me tons of extra time and energy that I just couldn’t spare (I was working 18 hour days…) But then, in a moment of supreme will power brought on by enormous frustration with my body, weight and health, I started to make my lunches. And you know what I found? Not only was it a lot easier to work it into my routine than I thought, but having my lunch at work made my life a lot easier instead of harder.

  1. With my lunch at work, I could eat when I was hungry, not when I somehow could fit it in. I would be on a conference call, put myself on mute, and munch away.
  2. Instead of eating one big lunch, I’d have a small lunch and several snacks. I’d basically graze all day, when it was convenient and when I wanted something. This actually helped me to hear when my body wanted food. I no longer ate according to some arbitrary schedule, but when I wanted to.
  3. Because I was eating something healthy, and eating several times throughout the day, I didn’t have that customary afternoon energy crash. In fact, I had a ton more energy.
  4. I saved time – the time I would’ve taken to run out and grab some horrible food I didn’t even want. If that doesn’t make your workaholic heart sing a little, I don’t know what will.

Start with what you know

“Ok, Ok”, I hear you saying. “But what am I supposed to buy? I’m too busy to come up with some plan and learn how to make a bunch of new recipes.” Why do you always have to take everything to the extreme, huh? Well yes, I understand that as a stress freak, that would be your M.O. Touché, freak. You win this round. But you don’t have to revamp your entire diet in a day, or learn how to cook things you’ve never heard of. That would be overwhelming, which is what I know you’re afraid of.

Start with what you know. If you know how to make a simple salad, start with that. If you know how to make a simple stir fry, go with that. If you don’t know how to make anything, eat mono-meals (where you eat one thing only in that meal, like Oranges, or cooked potatoes, or whatever). That’ll get boring pretty quickly and then you can look for A recipe, as in, one new one. Find a recipe that uses only ingredients that you’re familiar with and incorporate that into your meal plan. If you want to eat the same damn thing every day for lunch for a while, do it. Then, start incorporating new things, as you’re inspired to. At some point, you’re going to think “I really want something different.” And then you’ll go and find something different , one new recipe at a time.

This doesn’t have to be hard or overwhelming. It doesn’t have to take a lot of extra time. Do this gradually and gently. But as you make a change, like taking your lunch to work with you, even if it’s not perfect yet, you’ll see how doable this is. You’ll feel organized and responsible and healthier. And those changes will beget other changes, and they’ll all add up. Then, a few weeks later, you’ll realize that you’ve successfully completely revamped your diet, one small change at a time.

This is the end of Part I on Intuitive Eating for Stress Freaks. Now, I get that you may be thinking “where’s the Intuitive bit?” and you’d be right. So far, these are more general tips on how to change our diet. The thing is that Intuitive eating is a vast subject, which combines nutrition, diet tips AND much more importantly, energy. I believe it’s all connected. I could tell you to meditate and take lots of time to listen to your body, but chances are, if you’re a busy, stressed out individual, that will sound good, but you’ll never actually do it. That’s just not the way you roll. You need to start with an action journey and then get more intuitive from there, instead of the perfect in theory other way around. That’s why I’ve structured this two part post the way I did – a bit of action first, to help get some energy going, and then, when you’re ready, the softer, intuitive bit. Trust me, there’s a method to my madness. Buwahahahaha.

Was this info helpful to you? I realize that as stress freaks, you may not take the time to comment here, but think of it an investment: The few seconds you take to give me feedback will help me to help you. And then Jerry McGuire can finally get his wings*.

Oh yeah, and don’t forget to SHARE, SHARE, SHARE this post! It will make me think you’re awesome.

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* = “Help me help you” is a line from Jerry McGuire, a movie starring Tom Cruise when he was still cute and not creepy at all. I can’t believe I felt the need to explain that. That’s it. I’m no longer going to explain my obscure references. Y’all know how to use Google.

{ 34 comments }

Lindsay | The Daily Awe September 15, 2011 at 20:48

Very helpful, thanks Melody!

On August 1st, I made a resolution to pack all of my meals for work and cook dinner at home. That might not sound like much, but I was eating almost all of my meals out — grabbing a salad here, a burger here…I was too lazy and unmotivated to make my own meals.

So anyway, my resolution was to do this for 1 month…and I did it! I did it mostly to save $$, but not only did I save money, but I started eating healthier too! Not only that, but I’ve also carried it through to September and now I almost never eat out except for as a treat with a friend!

I’d like to take it to the next step and start eating intuitively. Can’t wait to read the rest. And of course – your book! I hope some editor doesn’t edit your sense of humor out of it. Cuz you’re funny.
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Melody Fletcher September 16, 2011 at 13:02

Hey Lindsay,

That actually sounds like a lot!!! That’s actually a really great point – when you start taking your own food, instead of picking something up, you can save a ton of cash.

Oh and don’t worry. It’s an e-book (I might make it available in print, but we’ll have to see about that.) My blog isn’t big enough for me to get a book deal. YET. So, whatever jokes I put in, will stay in. Thanks so much for your wonderful compliment. The line between funny and lame is often quite thin… it’s nice to know I get it right at least some of the time. :)

Hugs!
Melody
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Kim September 15, 2011 at 21:53

So the peanut butter m&ms that I’m shoveling down my throat right now are probably not part of intutive eating… lol. Great stuff, I look forward to part 2. You know sometimes I can eat well for weeks and then I crave all kinds of processed, sweet, fatty, etc types of foods and I will eat crap for weeks until I get tired of not fitting my clothes and then start all over again. I’m ready to get off this ride…it’s making my dizzy going round and round in circles and never getting anywhere!

Kim

Melody Fletcher September 16, 2011 at 13:06

Hmmm. They could be, if your body has no other way to ask for protein or the incredible nutritional powerhouse that real chocolate is (probably not, but it COULD happen…)

Nutrition is just one part of it. There’s the more important energy part, as well, which is probably at the cause of your yo-yo-ing. If you don’t shift your energy, the old vibration will pull you right back down to old behaviors (which support that vibration). Working on it all as fast as I can. So excited, now. So, SO much great info. I can’t wait to share it!!

Hugs!
Melody
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suZen September 16, 2011 at 16:14

Hi Melody! I came over from Patricia’s Wisdom. This post is excellent! I don’t care what you call it, Intuitive Eating, Simple Eating, or Cellular Nutrition – it is spot on! I think many people are overwhelmed by the choices in foods and it is so easy (with media’s help) to eat stuff, grab food, and use “I’m too busy” as excuses for proper nutrition. I work with people all the time who are delighted to learn how simple it really is to nurture your body with what it wants and needs and skip all the nonsense fake food out there. Great post – will pass this on!
Hugs
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Melody Fletcher September 16, 2011 at 16:54

Hi SuZen (love the spelling!!),

I love Patricia’s blog. And her. And her little dog, too. ;)
I totally agree with you. We think it’s going to be hard to “give up” the crap, but ultimately, our bodies totally support us in this endeavor. And the point does come, when we wonder how we ever could’ve eaten that stuff. I love that. Thanks so much for your support!! Every little bit helps. :)

Hugs!
Melody
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patricia September 17, 2011 at 21:25

Thank you Suzen!
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patricia September 17, 2011 at 21:27

Thank you Melody! ZIP is keeping me going today, because i am dumping something big and wow what a headache….he has very good vibrational energy and is working on giving me some right now :)
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Fred Tracy September 16, 2011 at 21:01

Melody, great post again. I’m still on the Taco Bell side of things, but I’m working on it.

You should write a post for lethargic, sleepy people like me. I’m starting to feel left out with so many posts on stress freaks!
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Melody Fletcher September 16, 2011 at 21:32

Intuitive eating for gamers, then? I know… I’m going to hell…

Hugs!
Melody
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Jimmy/Life Architect September 17, 2011 at 04:13

Hi Melody,

My intuitive eating habits now is about not wasting food. Basically, I think we tend to cook too much at home. Most of my family eaters are small eaters, hence there is always leftovers. Recently, I was experimenting with this to save money as well. But the process of packing the food is similar to what you have described in the post. Knowing that you have spent some effort preparing the food for work gives added motivation to eat what you have brought. Besides, I have found that long lunches are a waste of time. It is good for socializing but for me who have to find time to blog and do other stuff, it was simply a waste of time. So for me eating leftovers is my newly acquired intuitive habits and I must say that I am at peace with that. I feel good and that’s most important of all.

Cheers
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Melody Fletcher September 17, 2011 at 20:13

Hi Jimmy,

I’ve noticed that when you switch from processed foods and start cooking your own meals, not only do your portions tend to get smaller, but you tend to waste less. Freshly prepared food makes for great leftovers, while no one saves half a fast-food burger for the next day… :)

You said it! Feeling good is the best reason to do anything.

Hugs!
Melody
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patricia September 17, 2011 at 21:46

When I first started working in my career field, I could not afford to eat out at all, I was still in student mode with out the great food service we paid for quarterly ( We had a gourmet chef at one college and a great Greek chef at Graduate school – not like today at colleges or HS where they just serve junk food or government surplus) and I had to make my budget just stretch to the max. I think I started mono-eating. I would pack a reasonable amount of food in my small ice chest and carry it to work. At 10 am I would start munching – carrot, then lettuce wedge with dressing dip, then apple, then peanut butter on a spoon, and usually a piece of turkey, chicken or salmon about 4pm…. I also carried my own water with me and still do ( chlorine is a huge problem for me) I noticed that the healthiest people around me were eating this way too… If I had enough change left at the end of the month, I would get myself a treat…sometimes it was a pizza, other times maybe just a cookie from the farmers market….I was in great shape because I walked to and from work…and only took the city bus when it was a heavy rain or snow.

One other thing that I did which is my downfall now, is that I did nothing else when I ate…I truly took a 5 -10 minute break and went to the bathroom afterwards….doing something different truly increased my creativity and gave me some fresh air and my productivity went up so well. Now I often use eating time as time to watch a documentary or listen to the radio – and then there is the Daily Show distraction on the computer.
While trying to heel my foot pain, I have not been able to walk – I am eating almost nothing and am rarely hungry and have gained 8 pounds….I am finding I am in definite burn out from cooking healing foods for my husband and children….I am using food to feel better…and get energy a very different outlook… and I am wondering why I wasted so much of my life being a workaholic and working so hard….mostly I think it was to “show them” I was a brilliant as anyone else…so I had to do it better…
looking forward to reading more about intuitive eating…I think I have mastered healthy eating…
I also need to learn how to let go of this weight …and the stress… I still think when stressed it is mega hard to hear one’s intuition.
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Melody Fletcher September 18, 2011 at 12:19

Hi Patricia,

Wow. You had a proper chef in college?!?!? That’s unheard of! I would love that, and healthy food for all school kids. And government employees, for that matter (why is it ok to server that slop to soldiers??)
You’ve made such an important point here and one I regularly fail at as well: dedicating time to eating. I wasn’t able to do that at work, even though I live in Spain, where it’s normal to take time away from your desk to have coffee (that one I managed after a while) and no one except the foreigners eat lunch at their desk. I’m still not great at it, but I don’t work while I eat (that’s my compromise). I read something for pleasure, for example. I try to actually take a break (when you work from home, those can become non-existent…) But dedicating time to eating where you do nothing else is the best scenario (I’m still working on it). You taste your food more, become more aware of how you feel, both physically and emotionally, and notice much faster when you’re statisfied. I notice I generally eat much more slowly in restaurants, where I’m focused much more on the meal, even when there’s great conversation.

Thank you so much for sharing your great insights here. and you’re right -stress makes it much, MUCH harder to hear your intuition. That’s why we tend to have the most clarity and insights on vacation…

Hugs!
Melody
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Justin | Mazzastick September 18, 2011 at 05:20

Hey Melody,
Learning to eat intuitively for me took some time but now it is second nature. My family and I seldom eat out and all of our home cooked foods and lunches are whole foods prepared fresh.

Yes, I was one of those eat anything kind of people including, fast food, vending machines and leftovers in the company refrigerator. If it was edible, it was mine.

I also found that drinking tea or coffee worked for minimizing food cravings. Especially when working from home when it is all too easy to keep munching on food.
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Melody Fletcher September 18, 2011 at 12:24

Hey Justin,

That’s great to hear. So few people these days consider eating at home on a regular basis a real option. I’ve given up coffee (it just gravitated out, I didn’t quit), but I love tea. I drink several cups of herbal tea a day. It’s not so much to minimize cravings, but much more to just have something else to drink besides water (I drink a lot of that). It’s something a bit more special. If you’re still having cravings, perhaps your body is telling you that it needs something? That, or it’s a psychological association (munching while working). Like munching while watching TV (that’s a pretty powerful one for many people). What helps me is to consciously acknowledge that I’m not actually hungry (as in, I CAN eat if my body really wants something, I’m not denying myself anything, but if my body doesn’t really want it, what’s the point?), that I could have something if I wanted it, and that I can work (or watch TV or whatever) just as well and enjoy myself just as much without the food. Over time, that will break the association.

Thanks for adding your perspective here!

Hugs,
Melody
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farouk September 18, 2011 at 12:46

Very useful melody :)
These days am eating a lottt because am doing so much effort working
even though no side effects happened yet i guess i if didn’t change my diet ill start adding up weight

Melody Fletcher September 18, 2011 at 17:59

Hi Farouk,

If you’re eating more because your body needs more, you won’t gain weight. If you’re eating more for other reasons (stress, habit, boredom, to soothe yourself, etc.), then yeah… it could happen. The important thing is how you feel and what your body is actually asking for. It takes practice, but it’s so worth it to remember how to do this.
Hugs!
Melody
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Liimu December 30, 2011 at 05:24

Love it, Melody. I feel so LED to your site and am so excited to get to a point where my eating habits are “revamped,” as you put it. So excited to become friends with food and my body and achieve my ideal weight. Thanks so much for keeping up this blog

Melody Fletcher December 30, 2011 at 13:05

Hi Liimu,

You’re so welcome. I’m glad you resonate with this info. More and more people are. I see evidence everywhere. Even in small towns, where you used to only be able to find fried foods, you can now find really healthy options. Wonderful! Food isn’t supposed to be this guilt ridden thing. We are supposed to enjoy it and love it and eat things that taste great AND are good for us. And it doesn’t have to be all that hard to retrain ourselves. Stay tuned for LOTS more info (OMG, I have SO MUCH TO TELL YOU GUYS!!)

Huge hugs!!!

Melody
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Alice July 6, 2012 at 05:00

What do you think of Breatharians? Are they real?

Melody Fletcher July 6, 2012 at 13:55

Yes, I think they are real. I think it’s absolutely possible to survive on energy alone. But would I want to? No. I’m no t judging this way of life, mind you. Everyone should do whatever they like.

But for me, I’ve come to the conclusion that we are here to experience the physical and enjoy it. And food is a huge pleasure if we let it be. The breatharians I’ve met (and there haven’t been many) have told me that they also lose the desire for sex and other physical pleasures. they saw that as a good thing and that’s ok, but there was clearly a belief that the physical was to be transcended. That is was somehow not as good as the non-physical, sometimes even “dirty”. I sort of wonder, if that’s the point, then why would we come to a physical environment? :)

From what I can tell, these kinds of individuals require a high vibrational environment, like out in the isolated countryside, and great deal of meditation every day. They basically have to withdraw a lot of their focus from the physical. Since my work and intention is to find a way to live spiritually while fully enjoying the physical environment we’ve come to play in, I don’t personally resonate with this lifestyle.

My two cents.

Hugs!
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Alice July 7, 2012 at 06:56

Yeah I was wondering how you do a raw diet in winter? Don’t you crave roasted chicken with cheesy potatoe bake and pumpkin soup? What about all that hot food described in “Harry Potter” man it makes the mouth water! Or Indian curry? Apricot chicken? Sunday roast? Alfredo pasta? Nope? None appeal???

Breatharian doesn’t appeal to me either but I do find that facinating and would be good to save money! But give up sex!!! Now they’ve gone TOO FAR! :-)

Melody Fletcher July 7, 2012 at 13:29

There are ways to eat RAW in the winter that warm you up. Cayenne pepper, for example. As well as high-sugar fruits. I’ve found that eating green grapes warms me right up, for some reason.
But I’m no longer 100% raw. I started to crave some foods that could not be eaten RAW. Also, I shy away from any restriction, because it would keep me from eating truly intuitively. I never say “I don’t eat that”. I say “I don’t eat that right now.” And I have Squash soup (no dairy), potato soup (again, no dairy), and chickpea curry all the time in the winter. Or grilled veggies. Or sweet potatoes (yum!). I eat VERY well and nope, I don’t crave chicken. If I did, I’d eat it. I don’t deny myself anything and I’m constantly vigilant to see if my food preferences have changed. I didn’t want eggs for about a year and a half. But then I did. So I had some. I haven’t had wheat in over 2 years. And I still don’t want any. But Oatmeal is starting to sound good again. It’s about what I want, not about what I think I should or shouldn’t eat. And so no, I don’t miss a thing. :)

Huge hugs!
Melody

Alice July 8, 2012 at 02:40

I have been thinking back to when I was a kid and at my happiest before certain events as a good measuring stick.
Back then I loved dried apricots, water, fruit, museli bars, lettuce, cheese snacks and was a really naturally healthy kid. I don’t remember being the typical candy eater. That was more of a thing that came later in my teens.

Your diet sounds alot like Jay Kordich. He’s awesome if you believe what it says in his book that he’s in his 80′s! He claims to have cured bladder cancer by first having a juice fast and then moving onto raw foods and then the occasional non-raw food like you describe with your soups- as long as it’s all fresh.

I predict you will live almost 200 healthy years! Or maybe more with modern medical science. :-)

Melody Fletcher July 8, 2012 at 20:51

LOL Alice. I plan to be at least 120. I can believe that. Then, I’ll see if I want to stay or go. :)

Huge hugs!
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Alice July 9, 2012 at 02:10

It all depends on health. My grandfather lived a very happy, healthy life into his ninties. Whereas my grandmother is in her late eighties but not as healthy as he was and now without him I guess not as happy. I’m sure she doesn’t really want to live another 20 years… Maybe 5-6 just to finish some stuff she’s been doing but besides that she is housebound and doesn’t seem too impressed.
Personally for some reason some anxiety would be gone if I knew I would live healthily to around 200 years. There wouldn’t be all this pressure about the fact I haven’t got much on my resume or much money. I’d feel more relaxed and realise I haven’t lost my youth to depression as youth could last another twenty years in that sort of time frame.
If I had another twenty young years where I didn’t age much I’d feel happier about many things like I got another chance at life- just inside the same life. I’d get a second childhood inside a young body and face without having to be born again.
It would really change my perspective.
There’d still be some urgent things for me right now- but the rest would pipe down about time ticking away and I could just feel at ease.
Where my mind is now even though I’m young and won’t die for a while I’m more concerned about being in the last ten years of being considered “young” and I haven’t enjoyed my life much so I want my youth back. You might have 80-100 years to live- but youth is finite. (I know you disagree but that’s how I feel.)
I think they might invent something in the future that turns back time which would be great. I’d cry from happines at a second chance.
If I didn’t get the second chance I don’t think I’d want my life dragging on like this until 200…
I think you’d want to stay if you were happy and I think you would be.

Alice July 9, 2012 at 02:18

Also how would you decide? If you did everything in life, saw every country, met thousands of people, had love, money, travel, joy and all the Earthly experiences, played all the instruments, painted all the art styles, did all the things a human can do, tried every food- that might take 300 years! Depends if you wanted to learn all the languages and do absolutely everything. Like a huge bucket list.
Or maybe 120 if you packed heaps into each day. I’m not familiar with living life to the fullest as yet so I don’t know how long it takes.
But if you did absolutely everything and was then bored of your neverending life do you just swan dive into a beautiful ocean like on “In Time” where the really old, immortal guy had lived his life and was now done with it.
How can a person decide when they want to die? Manifest a peaceful death? Get raptured lol?

Melody Fletcher July 9, 2012 at 16:55

Hey Alice,

Why is it important to be “considered young”? What does it matter what others think of you as long as you feel good? So much of how we view age is so tied up in what others think of us, something we can’t control anyway. and aging is not the same as declining. Of course I’m going to be fabulous at 120. I might be a bit wrinkly, but I can handle that. :)

Many masters have manifested their deaths. They said good-bye to their loved ones and students and then just laid down and transitioned. They just decided to leave. You don’t have to manifest getting killed and you don’t have to jump off a cliff (unless you want to. Could be fun…) And lots of people decide to die because they’re tired and bored and just “done”. Of course, that’s due to resistance, but no one but you gets to make that decision. Most people don’t realize it’s a decision, but it always is. Death is a manifestation, just like any other, and when death becomes the easiest way for you to achieve the next thing you want, then whoop, there it is.

Also, since new experiences are always becoming available, if you set out to have every experience possible, it wouldn’t take 300 years. It would take forever. And that’s exactly what we’re doing here – having every experience possible, from every possible angle. The good, the bad, the ugly, the phenomenal. All of it. :)

Huge hugs!
Melody
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Alice July 10, 2012 at 05:57

Hey there,

Why is it important to be “considered young”?:

I want to answer this but your original blog post is funny and happy. My answer is quite whimsical and sad.
I backspaced it. If I put it in a nutshell it’s about second chances and a peter pan syndrome. :-)

Melody Fletcher July 10, 2012 at 14:45

This is more a question for you to ponder, Alice. There’s a lot behind the answer. What do you think you can’t do anymore as you get “older”? What do you think you might be missing out on? Because honestly, if you really think about it, there’s nothing you can’t do at any age. Unless, of course, you care more about what others might think than you do about how you feel…

:)

Huge hugs,
Melody
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Rayca February 27, 2013 at 23:08

Hmmm. So many mixed signals with intuitive eating. This is the 1st blog I’ve come across that even suggests advanced meal planning. It seems a contradiction to eat intuitively, which is what you are craving/wanting at that time, vs. planning out meals. I could NEVER eat what I want, when I want. Who could do that? Eat out all the time? I certainly can’t/don’t want to eat like that, let alone afford to be able to do that. I (think I) get that you should probably stock up on all your faves and such but no one is addressing that. I cook ALL my food and have forever. I stopped buying lunches at work when microwaves were invented. Ouch! I’m sure dating myself. The point is, you can’t have your cake and eat it to, so to speak. Some thoughtful planning has got to be part of the picture and I can assure you, I will probably crave what’s in my pantry and frig. Am I right or do I not understand?

Melody Fletcher March 3, 2013 at 22:06

Hey Rayca,

You can have your cake and eat it, too. :)

The thing is, you can develop a routine and plan, AND pay attention to your cravings at the same time. I find that my body tends to change tastes in cycles. So, if I like spinach salad, I incorporate that into my plan 2-3 times a week. If I need more, I plan more. Sometimes, my body just changes what it wants. Then I pay attention and change my plans.

For example, I was RAW Vegan for 4 months. Then, I began to crave more cooked veggies, so I bought some and incorporated them over a couple of weeks and made that my routine. Then I periodically wanted fish, so I got sushi a couple of times a month. Then I started wanting eggs again, so I bought some and added them to my meals here and there. my diet morphs over time, but not from one day to the next. What I need stays pretty constant on a daily basis, so that makes it easier to plan. But if my body wants something new, I just change the plan a bit.

A few weeks ago, my body wanted a radical change. That was a bit stressful until I figured it out. Turns out I’m now on an alkaline paleo diet. I’ve incorporated meat back in, but with loads of green veggies and raw foods, and no wheat or processed anything. Now that I know what my body wants, I can plan again. :)

Huge hugs,

Melody
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stacy September 21, 2013 at 21:29

hmmmm. If i listened to my cravings I would be in big trouble. I would be smoking, drinking and eating kentucky fried chicken.

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