In the free e-book Deliberate Receiving – How the Law of Attraction and Reality Creation Process Really Work, I explain that your dominant vibration is the one that creates your reality, whether or not you’re aware of it, and independent of whether or not you actually want what you’re receiving. Today, I’d like to delve a little deeper into what exactly is meant by “dominant” vibration and offer a simple metaphor that will help to explain how you can easily clean up your vibration and receive the reality you want.
A little background
Before I offer this metaphor, it’s important that you understand how the creation process actually works. In a nutshell, you are creating all day every day. Every time you see something you want, you send a desire out to the Universe. And your inner being, who you really are, that pure positive energy you (of which your physical self is just a small part) takes notice of it and holds on to it for you. Every time you see something you don’t like, you send up a desire equal to the opposite of what you just saw, and your inner being holds on to that too. And when you send up that desire, what you want is created energetically. So, all day, every day, everything you’ve ever wanted is created and is ready for you to receive. Creation isn’t our work. Receiving the stuff we want is our work (as opposed to receiving what we don’t want).
The energy scale
Imagine that there’s a scale, one of those old timey apothecary ones, with a little plate on each side, suspended by chains. Both plates weigh the same, until you start to place weights on them. Whichever side has more stuff on it, will sink lower, and the heaviest side wins.
One side of this scale is dedicated to the thoughts you have that allow what you want. The other side is dedicated to the thoughts you have that don’t allow what you want. Whichever side has the greatest percentage of thoughts wins, and therefore creates your reality. So, if just 51% of your thoughts on a subject fall on the “allowing what you want” side, your desired manifestation arrives. With me so far? Good.
Let’s look at an example:
Let’s say you want to lose 20 pounds. All day, every day, you’re having thoughts. Some of those thoughts are about your weight, others aren’t, and yet many others aren’t directly about your weight but activate thoughts about your current, unwanted body size.
Thoughts that will DIRECTLY add to the Unwanted side of the Scale:
- I hate my body
- I wish I could lose weight
- I hate my thighs (stomach, arms, cankles, etc.)
- I’m never going to lose weight
- What if I’m fat forever?
Thoughts that INDIRECTLY add to the Unwanted side of the Scale:
- I wish I could fit into those skinny jeans
- Why is it so easy for Mary to stay skinny?
- I really shouldn’t have had that chocolate cake
- I can’t have any of the foods I want, and all the foods I can have taste bland
- Fat people are weak
- It’s hard to lose weight
- (at a social gathering) I don’t fit in here. No one’s going to like me
- Guys (or girls) aren’t attracted to me, because I’m fat
- I have no self control
These lists are obviously just a tiny representation of all the possibilities, but you get the idea. What do all of these thoughts have in common? THEY FEEL AWFUL. That’s how you know that they’re adding to the unwanted side. Your emotions are your vibrational feedback system and they will let you know which side you’re giving your focus to. So, when you’re not feeling happy, if you’re frustrated, angry or even downright depressed, you’re adding to the wrong side of the scale (literally, in this analogy).
“Positive” thoughts can actually trigger negative beliefs
Now, obviously, thoughts that contradict the ones above will add to the good feeling, wanted manifestation side of the scale right? Maybe.
You see, if your belief is “I hate my body. I’m big, fat pig”, and you force yourself to think “I’m thin and beautiful”, you’re probably not going to get very far. If you don’t believe what you’re thinking, the underlying belief wins. Every time. So, if you’re thinking a thought that you don’t believe, it will actually be triggering that underlying limiting belief and will be adding to the unwanted side of the scale. How can you tell? Well, it won’t feel good. Have you ever thought “positive” thoughts that were actually painful to you? If so, you were triggering a deeper, stronger limiting belief and adding to the wrong side of the scale.
It doesn’t have to be this hard
You don’t have to think good feeling thoughts about weight loss in order to add to the Wanted side of the scale. You just have to:
1.) Stop thinking the bad feeling thoughts and
2.) Think ANY thoughts that truly feel good.
You see, good feeling thoughts vibrate at a higher frequency. And the Universe doesn’t care if that higher frequency corresponds with one subject or another. It’s all just energy. So, if you can reach for better feeling thoughts on another subject and consistently stay there, not only will your vibration as a whole rise, but it will actually become easier and easier for you to think better feeling thoughts about your weight (or whatever subject you’re trying to change). The key is to choose a subject that doesn’t indirectly trigger your underlying beliefs about weight. Again, you’ll know by the way you feel.
Don’t choose a subject based on what you think you should feel good about. Stay away from thoughts about food, body image, clothing, exercise, any social situations that make you feel fat or inadequate, etc. Obviously, you can’t completely stay away from these subjects, but you don’t have to; you just have to tip the scale. What I mean is, don’t try to use these subjects to feel better. Choose a subject that’s completely neutral and that feels good. Perhaps a childhood memory, a trip you took with your family, your fist love, a beautiful painting, a puppy, a song that uplifts you, a book that made you feel great (or a blog? He, he). It can be anything at all, as long as it truly feels good and isn’t inadvertently adding to the wrong side of the scale.
You have two choices
If you’ve been adding to the Unwanted side of the scale on any given subject, you have two choices: If the subject is something minor, something that isn’t causing you too much pain, you can simply begin to think better feeling thoughts about it. As long as you add more positive thoughts about that subject to the scale than negative ones, you will manifest what you want.
If, however, the subject is something big, something convoluted, something that’s been with you a long time and gets triggered not only directly, but indirectly, you can add to the Wanted side of the scale by choosing a different, better feeling subject and getting relief from those better feeling thoughts. When a subject looms really large in our reality, when the evidence of it just keeps slapping us in the face at every turn, it’s often nearly impossible for us to just change our thoughts. But we can, generally, find a completely different, unrelated (so it doesn’t inadvertently trigger the underlying beliefs) subject and feel better by focusing on that.
In the end, it doesn’t matter what topic you use to feel better, as long as you do. Consistently choosing thoughts that vibrate at a higher frequency (and therefore feel better) will add to the wanted side of the scale. And as soon as the balance tips, as soon as you’re adding more energy to the wanted side, your reality will begin to reflect that.
Which side of the scale are you adding to?