Can I Use the Law of Attraction to Break Up With Someone?

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by Melody Fletcher on June 16, 2011

I receive a lot of questions via email, and I like to feature the most valuable ones here. I love these. The whole idea of my blog is to show how to apply the law of attraction in real world situations and questions such as these really help me to do that.

Here’s the question:

Hi Melody. I have a question that I have not found a real answer to. It’s something a friend asked me, and it’s something I wish I knew back when I was in a troubled relationship. He asked me “Can I use the LOA to break up with someone?” It was a curveball to say the least. His issue was: He has been dating a girl for 9 years. The relationship grew sour. He started to like another girl, but had no intention of cheating on his current partner. Being stuck, he wondered if the LOA would allow him to have an easy breakup. What if his current partner was the one to initiate the breakup, wouldn’t that make it easier? He really wanted to be with the other girl. In the end, he ended up breaking up, in the worst of ways, and there’s a constant friction between the two till this day.

I ask because I too was in a bad relationship and ended up initiating the breakup, which left me feeling like an a–hole for a long time, even though I didn’t really think it was my fault. After my pal asked me this question, I wondered if I could have used the LOA to manifest a better way out of this. A happier way for us both.

Is this possible? If so, how?

Stay happy,

Kermit*

I’m addressing this from the perspective of a guy breaking up with his girlfriend, but the explanation and advice will work for either gender. There are several points here that I want to address before I can answer the question.

Let’s stay together forever. Whether we’re happy or not.

The first is the assumption that whoever initiates the breakup is automatically the asshole, or that when there’s a breakup, there has to be a bad guy at all. What’s the alternative to breaking up? Staying together forever? With a person who doesn’t really want to be with you? Relationships end for a reason and both parties generally know what it is (they’re not happy), even if they don’t want to admit it. The problem is that we’re too often willing to settle for something less than we deserve (a mediocre or downright bad relationship) rather than taking our chances at being single. What if we never find that perfect person? Isn’t it better to settle for someone who’s just ok, instead of taking the chance of being alone forever? Well, sure, you can settle, but don’t expect to be happy. And if someone has the courage to stand up and decide that mediocre is no longer enough for them, that they do want to be happy, that does not make them a bad person.

Ending a relationship is not a failure

People want to hang on to bad relationships for several reasons. I’ve already mentioned that many of us would rather suffer than be alone. But many of us have also grown up with the false belief that every relationship is supposed to last forever. We’ve found each other and now we have to hold on to each other no matter what. And anything short of that means we’ve failed.

Failed as what? We are vibrational beings who are constantly changing and evolving. We can’t help that. When we find someone who is a vibrational match to us, we feel a deep resonance and form a relationship with them. This could be a friendship or a romantic relationship. The point is that the origin of the bond comes from having a vibrational match.

Now, we can foster that match by focusing upon it. That’s why relationships tend to be so much more passionate in the beginning. Both partners are focusing almost exclusively on what they like about the other. That will strengthen the vibrational bond between them as well as bringing them more and more positive stuff to focus on. As time goes on, we tend to look for things that we don’t like. This shift in focus will let us see more and more things we don’t like about them, until eventually we think “What the hell was I thinking?!”

But, even if that doesn’t happen, each partner will continue to grow and evolve on their own path. And while I’m not excluding the possibility that two people can join and stay a vibrational match forever (especially if both parties are committed to fostering the continuation of matching energy), it’s not really something we can completely control and therefore, we shouldn’t make that our standard of success. People can easily grow apart and no longer be enough of a match to each other to stay in each others’ lives in a significant way.And that wouldn’t be a problem, except that we’ve decided that it is.

Relationships are wonderful opportunities to grow and evolve with another person. They give us a chance to know ourselves better (our partners, friends and family are mirrors to our thoughts and beliefs), and have experiences that we cannot easily have alone. They can give us a fantastic excuse to feel great.

Relationships end

But relationships end.  It’s not tragic, unless we want to believe that it is. All relationships end eventually, at the latest with death. We grieve over the loss of a relationship because we believe that we think we should’ve somehow been able to make it work, but also because we think we need this other person to make us happy.  That, however, is never going to work. We were happy with our partner once, and so we decided that it was them who made us happy. When in fact, our happiness came from how we chose to look at the situation. It was our reaction to the relationship, what we chose to focus on, that caused our happiness, not the other person. ant way. So their leaving does not take away your chance for or ability to be happy.

Instead of grieving the relationship’s loss, why not celebrate the fact that you had this amazing connection for however long it lasted? Why not be grateful that this person made it into your life and that you had such a great time? Why not choose to focus on the good?

If we can let go of the notion that relationships are only successful if they last forever, and instead just focus on the joy we can gain from each one while it lasts, we can save ourselves a great deal of pain. Can a breakup be completely free of suffering? Well, theoretically yes, but I’ve personally never been able to get there. But I can tell you that using this mindset, you can greatly reduce the amount of pain and get back on your feet much faster.

Why breakups hurt so much

The main reason that being broken up with hurts so much is that we take it as a personal rejection. We think that the other person has judged us and found us to be unworthy and that it must be because there’s something wrong with us. If we had been better, more in some way, they would still be here. And the thought that we’re broken is one of the worst thoughts we could have about ourselves. We know, deep down (the part of us that’s pure energy), that this thought is absolutely untrue. This creates a vibrational discord and that hurts. A lot. It feels like getting your insides ripped out. It’s not actually the breakup that causes all our pain, but rather our reaction to it.

The douchebag way to break up with someone

No one wants to be the bad guy who breaks someone’s heart. But as I already stated, the mere act of initiating the split does not make someone a douchebag. What does? Dishonesty. If you’re dishonest with yourself and/or your partner during the breakup, you will come off looking and feeling like a jerk.

You’re a Douchebag if:

  • You treat your partner like crap and get her to break up with you.
  • You cheat on your partner instead of just breaking up first.
  • You tell other people about your intention to break up with your partner in hopes that it gets back to them and you don’t have to initiate the conversation.
  • You break up with your partner via text message (or Post-it, email, Facebook, Twitter, etc.)
  • You fail to say anything and just let the relationship wither, hoping that by some miracle, things will get better or she’ll figure it out and will end the relationship.

Do you see a pattern here? All of these behaviors stem from wanting to avoid the actual issue and/or the confrontation. Often, this isn’t so much due to cowardice (or at least not ONLY due to cowardice), as it is due to neither party wanting to admit the truth – that the relationship simply isn’t working anymore.

Using LOA to make the breakup easier

So, now that I’ve laid the basis that breaking up, in and of itself, is not a horrible failure and that neither party needs to necessarily be the douchebag (not on principle, anyway), what can you do to make the process of breaking up with someone easier?

Well, LOA will not break up with your girlfriend for you. Neither will it make her break up with you. That kind of thinking is right up there with douchebag behavior (i.e. wanting to avoid the issue altogether).

The key here is to be 100% authentic. That means, being honest with yourself first. What is it that you want? I’m going to assume that you know that you really want to break up, as opposed to just wanting certain things in your life to change. Breaking up may just be what you think needs to happen in order to get what you really want, in which case I’d advise you to focus on that instead and see what solutions present themselves.

So, you’re no longer happy in your relationship and you want out. But you don’t want it be ugly. You want it be easy. You want her to understand, not take it personally, and if at all possible, you’d maybe even like to stay friends.

That’s what you focus on – the fact that you want it to be easy. Spend some time visualizing the breakup as a friendly conversation, where neither one of you resorts to blaming the other. You can express yourself clearly, without resorting to passive aggressive or snide remarks. You both understand that neither one of you did anything wrong, you’re simply no longer a match (or compatible) and you can both admit that neither one of you is happy the way things are. You agree to split, amicably. You’ll miss each other, and you’re both sad, but it’s a mutual decision.

Chances are, you’re going to have a lot of trouble visualizing this kind of breakup at first. This is your work. If you can get to the point where this visualization is comfortable for you, you’ve lined up with the energy of an “easy” breakup.

Once our energy is lined up, follow your intuition on when to initiate the conversation. Don’t avoid it out of fear, but don’t rush into it either. As long as you’re aligned with your vision, you will illicit the amicable behavior from her that matches that vision energetically. If you’re vibrating “easy breakup” (relatively speaking), the law of attraction will not be able to bring you together until she’s receptive to that kind of conversation. The key is to keep yourself in that space. If you dip down into blame or avoidance, you’ll illicit a very different kind of behavior from her.

An authentic breakup conversation

Even if you’ve lined up your energy, breakups aren’t easy. You don’t want to hurt the other person. You don’t want them to feel rejected and you don’t want them to hate you. What do you even say?

It’s important to remember that no matter how great your intentions, you can’t really control the other person’s reactions. You can only control your own. What you want to create is an experience that feels good, or at least not horrible. You can’t guarantee that you’ll stay friends with your ex, or that she won’t be hurt. You can, however, make it easier for her and yourself by being honest and direct and making it a priority to get through this in an authentic way. Here are some suggestions for that kind of a conversation.

Ask questions and make statements focused on your and her happiness. This is really at the core of your reason to break up, isn’t it? Keep coming back to this core truth, and avoid the temptation to blame each other or focus on insignificant things like who does the dishes or leaves the toilet seat up.

“Are you truly happy with the way things are?”

“I’m not happy in this relationship and I don’t think you are, either.”

“Don’t you think that we both deserve to be happy?”

Danger: You may not want to say that you both deserve better. This is a judgment, and your partner will most likely hear “I deserve better than you.”

Focus on how you’ve both changed:

“I just don’t think we’re compatible anymore.”

“We used to do…. And now we just…”

Danger: DO NOT make statements beginning with “you”, as in “You used to…” This will be seen as a criticism, unless you keep the focus clearly on how both of your interests have changed. Stay in the frame of mind that neither one of you did anything wrong. What you’re focusing on is the happiness that you both deserve and that you don’t currently have, NOT what either one of you may have done to “screw this up”.

Make the main point of your argument: “I’m not happy and I don’t think you are either.”

If your partner insists that she is happy, call her on it. Gently. “When was the last time you can remember that we both really laughed with each other?” instead of “Oh come on! You’ve been a miserable cow for months!”

Stay calm and no matter what your partner does or says, don’t get into the blame game.

Don’t say “It’s not you, it’s me.” Although that statement is always true (it’s always me, even if you’ve pissed me off, it’s ultimately my issue I’m dealing with), that sentence has developed such a negative and inauthentic charge over time, it’s never received well.

When all else fails, be direct.

When you’ve decided that you definitely want out, but your partner completely disagrees and continues to hold out hope that you’ll work it out, be as direct as you can. No one can argue with “I just don’t love you anymore.” This may seem mean, but ultimately the direct approach is kinder in the long run.

DO NOT take the easy way out

Things will most likely get emotional. You may be tempted to take the easy way out by telling her you met someone else. Don’t do this. It isn’t honest. You may well have met someone else, and meeting that person may have made you aware of some things about your relationship, but providing clarity about the issues that are present isn’t the same as creating them. The issues existed, therefore you were open to meeting someone else. Don’t put the cart before the horse.

You can’t avoid the confrontation

If you want to end a relationship and you don’t want to be a douchebag, you cannot avoid the confrontation of the breakup. But you don’t have to go in there fighting. There’s never going to be a winner, so don’t even try. A lot of arguments get out of hand and turn ugly because both parties just want to be right, and/or don’t want to take the blame. You can either be authentic, compassionate and keep the goal of an amicable breakup in mind, or you can create a horrible scenario where you hurl insults at each other, in an effort to prove to yourself and your partner that it’s not your fault that you failed at eternal bliss.

In the aftermath

Once you’ve gotten the breakup over with, continue to work on your false beliefs. Keep in mind that you have not failed, that you did nothing wrong and that the only thing that really hurts is the way you’re looking at the situation (i.e. “I’m not good enough”, etc.) Change your thoughts and you’ll instantly change the way you feel. You can then get over the breakup and feel better in a relatively short period of time. Will it still hurt? Of course it will. But does it have to destroy you or leave you feeling like a total jerk? Absolutely not.

*=name changed to protect the innocent.

To learn more about vibrational discord and how it affects our emotions, read the article: The Purpose of Our Emotions.

For more antiquated and false beliefs about relationships, read the blog post: Why Aren’t You Married Yet?!

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{ 25 comments }

Dia June 16, 2011 at 19:58

Hi Melody,

Very complete and thorough post on using LOA to break up with someone. Here is my take on this subject:
Somehow, they attracted each other 9 years ago, that means they were both at the same spiritual and vibrational level. What happened during those years is one of them has changed the vibration.

What many people fail to realize is the fact you can’t get someone better, smarter, etc…unless you change your vibration and change yourself internally. After all, as within, so without. ;)

In my opinion, it would be better to “grow together spiritually and vibrationally” than break up with his partner. He could’ve sat with her and talk about what made things worse? How did they lose that spark in their relationship? Once the focus is shifted, their relationship would’ve gone back to the way it was if both were willing to work things out. Now, if one of the partners is unwilling to work things out and change their vibration, then separation is better, but this is the last resort.

As always, great job Melody, thanks for sharing ;)

Melody Fletcher June 16, 2011 at 21:02

Hi Dia,
You make a great point and one that I think deserves its own blog post… :) A lot of breakups don’t need to happen. But when they do, I don’t think it needs to be as tragic as we make it out to be (a lot of therapists equate the end of a long relationship with the trauma of death, although that’s a whole other blog post right there…)
Thanks for your valuable comment!

Hugs,
Melody

Alice June 27, 2012 at 04:32

Hi Dia & Melody,

I couldn’t agree more with you Dia. I would end a relationship if they cheated or became abusive. If the arguments were just too much and a sign of a bad match in the first place.

However, if you made a strong connection on so many levels that they feel like a soulmate that you shared many loving years with- it seems like such a waste to end the relationship. Unless there is animosity there and lots of anger- it doesn’t really have to end.

Getting the relation to the point where it fizzles out but there are no ill feelings between the two is a sign there is still hope. There’s no anger or real issue there. Someone just moved up in their life.

For me personally my partner moved slightly up in the vibrational ladder without me. He’s not spiritual and is very stubborn- so would not believe any of this. He just pulls in varying degrees away from me but still has all the original connections.
I know in this case is I pulled myself up we’d be a perfect match again. Ironically this adds to my depression and keeps me down (away from where he is)

If you had two spiritual people they could help each other along the way without leaving one behind and out of harmony. I think two reasonable adults could achieve anything.

I’m sure there are many cases where a child is miscarried for example and one partner goes into a deeper depression than the other. This could make them seem like they are no longer a match. But if the one dealing with things slightly better than the other holds their hand and help them through they can be together again. I’ve seen this happen.
Yet many people just throw their hands up and give up when a spouse gets a certain way they decide to leave them in that spot instead of walking the path together.

Melody Fletcher July 4, 2012 at 21:07

Hey Alice,

Even if everyone was enlightened, people would still break up. It would be no big deal and there wouldn’t be nearly as much pain in the process, but gravitating towards and away from people and experiences is part of living in the physical. There’s nothing wrong with it. The idea that breaking up with someone is akin to abandoning them is like saying that once you’ve fallen in love with someone, you are obligated to stay with them no matter how unhappy you get. Unless of course they are abusive or give you some other socially acceptable reason to leave.

This is a very fear based view, stemming from the idea that there is a finite number of matches available to you in the world and if you lose one, you may never find another. But that’s a false belief.

Yes, sometimes people leave relationships that could’ve worked because of fear. If they had overcome their fears, they could’ve stayed together. And many people could have much happier relationships if they became more self aware. But many, MANY people also stay in bad feeling relationships far longer than they should. This is why divorces are often so bitter. People hold on to their resistance, feel worse and worse and blame their partner for how horrible they feel. If they’d gotten out when things started to turn, if they’d acknowledged that it just didn’t feel right anymore, they would save themselves a lot of pain.

This would make a great blog post. :)

Huge hugs!
Melody
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Alice July 5, 2012 at 04:05

Oh dear!

I’ve read my comment back and I don’t like it. You could interprit that so many different ways. One way could be having a vice on someone, oppressing them etc. It looks pretty ugly that way.

“The idea that breaking up with someone is akin to abandoning them is like saying that once you’ve fallen in love with someone, you are obligated to stay with them no matter how unhappy you get. Unless of course they are abusive or give you some other socially acceptable reason to leave.”- Melody.

I couldn’t agree more. The part about being obligated and is the opposite of love!

I think I’m confused. I saw my grandparents in a very happy marriage for 50+ years. I’ve spoken to many couples together for more than 20yrs and happy.
I asked them what their secret was and many gave ideas about “sticking with your partner through hard times”
You see in thier life old couples going through financial depression, loss of children, hardships, arguments… Yet they stay together and are so happy for the majority of the time. It’s not some fake happiness- you can see the spark and the real love there.

They say that this generation is too easy to give up. The divorce rate is higher than ever. Some people are immature. They have one argument and that’s a break up.

I’m confused with this as I also have seen unhappy people “sticking it out” for years but really they should move on.

This questions the whole concept in society of marriage, soulmates and death-do-us-part.

Are we losing our values of the older generation “that stuck by their partner, thick and thin”
Or are we just getting better at knowing when to move on?

What is the difference between giving up on a good thing due to fear, laziness etc and walking away from a lost cause?

Gen Y recieves a lot of scorn for their flash-in-a-pan relationships. But maybe they are onto something?? Hard to tell what is shallowness and what is clever.

Melody Fletcher July 6, 2012 at 14:33

Alice,

Don’t assume that just because someone has had a happy marriage for decades that they can accurately describe to you why they did so. They may assume that it was because they stuck it out. But I promise you, that doggedly being determined to stay with someone no matter how unhappy you are does not make for a magical relationship. Doggedly being determined to see the best in them, to remember how much you love them, does. These couples may not be aware of exactly what they were doing (often, awesome manifestors are not).

There are people who are very talented painters who cannot teach you to paint. And they may tell you to just start painting and you’ll become a master, because that’s what they did. But they are not aware of all the stages they went through, all the inspiration they received, all the alignment they achieved because it was not deliberate.

I see nothing wrong with people not willing to stay in relationships that don’t make them happy. A lot of your grandparents’ generation were deeply unhappy in their relationships but stuck it out anyway. I don’t see that as a better alternative. Does that mean modern relationships couldn’t be improved? Of course they can! Self awareness brings a lot to the table and will stop people from running away from each other out of fear.

My last blog post deal with this issue, BTW. I’ll link to it below this comment.

Huge hugs!
Melody
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Alice July 7, 2012 at 05:58

Yep. I just have to learn to accept this. Even if it is out of fear I can’t force them to confront it or change it. It’s a hard thing to accept when your gut just knows whats happening with the other person. But that’s their own thing. I know I got all excited about your other reply on relationships and how I had a wall of my own. I was excited because I knew you were right. But I’m terrible at finding my own roots and own fears lol let alone theirs. At least this helps me let go. I knew I was holding for a reason. I knew there was hope. But if I can’t figure it out, I can’t figure it out. Peace. :-)

Baker June 16, 2011 at 20:54

Hi Melody,
Nicely done post. I would say a lot of what this comes down to at the core, is probably not settling for less than what you feel you truly are capable of manifesting. In other words like you mentioned in this post so well, was posing the question “are you really happy with the way things are” if one can answer that honestly for themselves in the relationship, then from that space you can see if it is a match. If it isn’t that courage to raise that vibration and go about your business, and allow the best match to be attracted to you is probably at a deeper core message here. Indeed we do attract to us what level we are choosing to vibrate at. Not settling for less, means raising ones own vibration. Interesting read!

Melody Fletcher June 16, 2011 at 21:06

Thanks so much Baker.
I think first and foremost, we have to pay attention to our vibration and realize that we can take control. No one can ever MAKE us happy. We have to do that for ourselves. I think that’s what goes wrong in a lot of relationships. We expect the other person to complete us, and when we don’t feel good, we blame them.

We settle for not feeling good all the time, but we don’t have to. And when we realize that we can be happy, all on our own, we begin to attract the most wonderful people! :)

Hugs,
Melody

Jayne Kopp June 16, 2011 at 21:25

Hi Melody, wow you could have broken this up into at least two or three posts! I read so much, I’m not sure which one to focus on :-)

I may have to come back ha ha… and focus on another paragraph.

I never really did believe people changed… but now I do. My ex was the best thing that ever happened to me. I loved, loved, loved him… we each held one and other on a pedistle. It was wonderful. We grew together, built dreams together, a wonderful business, had a family together… but then things just changed. I truly believe ‘he’ changed, which caused me to change.

Neither one of us are the same person these days. To make things worse, we do not have a good relationship.

I feel that I have a great new life. I am not so sure he feels the same about his though.

I know that deep inside there still remains that original vibration…. and that he veered off it for a while.

My vibes just couldn’t match his. To me, although so much good has come out of it… it can really suck.

We also had a “douchebag” break-up… (love the term)… I think it’s because our vibes shook the sense out of us. (LOL)

I totally agree with trying to break up the right way, but unfortunately, more often than not, we don’t. There is always confrontation at some point… at least my experience.

Even if a person tries to be sensitive, the other one often feels hurt and becomes angry.

I guess that’s why that song “breaking up is hard to do’ is still played occasionally!

Wonderfully thorough post.

thanks for the great read.

Jayne

Melody Fletcher June 16, 2011 at 21:45

Hi Jayne,
I know… it turned into a monster post. But I wanted to answer the question and this is what came out. I’m sure this will spawn several future posts, though… :)

It sounds to me that you’re in a really good place. You can’t control where your ex is at, so don’t worry about it. Stay in your high vibration, and hopefully he’ll find you there one day and you can be friends again. If you lower your frequency to match his, you’ll just both be miserable. No point in that…

I don’t know why, but the word douchebag makes me giggle. You might see more of it here… ;)

Hugs, Melody

Justin June 17, 2011 at 02:12

Hey Melody,
If we all would take this point of observation when ending a relationship then no one would be considered the bad guy. In the U.S. and I imagine many other countries ending a relationship, or even worse a marriage is bad.

I agree that as our vibrations change so will most things in our physical environment like jobs, where we live and even relationships. It’s just change, that’s all.

We don’t have to make a big stink about ending a relationship when we look at it this way. I guess what I am trying to say is that we must live according to what our vibrational match is.

Melody Fletcher June 17, 2011 at 11:57

Thanks Justin. Not every relationship has to end, of course. Many can be saved. But sometimes it’s just better to get out and start fresh. Generally, if one person is deeply unhappy, it’s very unlikely that the other person is living in bliss. And if both parties are unhappy, why not make a change? There’s such a stigma associated with it, but really, as you said, it’s just change.

Thanks for your valuable comment.
Hugs,
Melody

Glynis Jolly June 17, 2011 at 03:08

I agree with you on all but one point — ‘Don’t take the easy way out’.
Sometimes it is because the person has met someone else. Not that this point should be dwelt on, if it’s part of the truth, it should be dealt with. Also, there is no easy way out unless you are a superficial person.

How do I know? It happened to me. The guy was honest though. He was also sensitive in the way he broke up with me realizing that not only would my heart be broken but my pride would suffer a little. Sure, it hurt but I retained my respect for him.

Melody Fletcher June 17, 2011 at 12:02

Hi Glynis,
It’s sounds to me like you experienced an authentic breakup. Your ex was honest with you, and although it hurt, you weren’t destroyed by it and were even able to respect him for it. He didn’t come off as a jerk, and he had the courage to confront you honestly and openly. This is exactly what I’m talking about :)
I do stand by my opinion that meeting someone else is not a cause but a symptom of a changed vibration (the meeting of someone else is a manifestation that matches the new vibration). By easy way out, I meant that it may seem easier to fall back on excuses, to say something just to get it over with, but if that something isn’t honest, the person being broken up with will know it and it will ultimately hurt more. Everyone deserves the truth.

Thanks for your awesome comment.

Hugs,
Melody

RANI June 17, 2011 at 10:26

hai i love to read your articles, i need to ask you can I use LOA to reduce my mistake in my job, when i do my job, i check thoroughly but still my senior can find mistake, how pls help me to do well in my job

Melody Fletcher June 17, 2011 at 17:51

Hi Rani,
Thank you so much for your kind words. Because my answer is rather lengthy, I sent it to you via email. I’d love to hear how you get on, though.

Hugs,
Melody

Sean Cox June 17, 2011 at 21:29

Melody! Please don’t tell me people actually break up via text message! Sounds like something a guy would do. But really?? Come on. Grow a pair of balls dude (or dudette, if women actually do this too).

Melody Fletcher June 18, 2011 at 11:30

Oh Sean. I love that this seems so foreign to you! :) People do break up via text message, Twitter and even FB (they just change their status to single.) It’s all about avoiding the confrontation, and ignoring their emotions afterward. And yeah, douchebags come on both sides of the gender fence…

Hugs,
Melody

Todd | Channelingmyself June 18, 2011 at 06:59

Hi Melody,

This question presented to you didn’t make much sense to me. We use the LOA to manifest our desires in life, typically those desires can’t be had just by making a simple choice. This guy should have just made the choice to end the relationship, no need to apply the LOA in this one, at least in my eyes.

Melody Fletcher June 18, 2011 at 11:34

Hi Todd,
LOA work is all about realizing our power, releasing negative and limiting beliefs and feeling good. Kermit had a situation that felt bad, and needed to find a way to look at this that made him feel better – a shift in perspective. It wasn’t so much about manifesting something in this case, as it was about uncovering and releasing some really common limiting beliefs.

Perhaps LOA isn’t the right term to be used here. I often think it’s much too limiting to describe the kind of work we do. But I haven’t come up with a better term yet. Any suggestions? :)

Hugs,
Melody

Todd | Channelingmyself June 19, 2011 at 08:31

Hi Melody,

I guess I was just taking the black and white approach to this one, being a guy it just came down to a choice that’s the way I perceived it.

Anyway, I do believe you were right about it in your approach. He wanted an easy solution to his problem, perhaps he could have used the LOA to manifest a new man for his soon to be ex… :)

Melody Fletcher June 19, 2011 at 18:03

LOL Todd. :)

van025 June 21, 2011 at 09:10

Ending a relationship is not a failure,I totally agree with you.It can make us hurt but we should learn how to forget this and fingd out a new relationship.Don’t pay attention to that breakup so much and you will get stress.Nothing is impossible,it makes our life more colorful and complex.Try your best to pass this.Thanks so much for your meaningful sharing

Melody Fletcher June 21, 2011 at 10:50

Hi van025,
thanks so much for your comment and you’re most welcome.

Hugs,
Melody

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