I’ve written a lot about our need to raise our vibration, how other people’s vibrations can affect us, and our need to stabilize our vibration. Essentially, our vibration, which is a result of all the thoughts we think and beliefs we hold, can easily be affected by the energy around us if we haven’t stabilized it. A stable vibration is one that can’t be inadvertently changed without your conscious consent, in other words, one which you are deliberately holding in a higher place. Another way to look at this is to substitute the word “mood” for vibration. If you’re deliberately thinking good feeling thoughts that keep you in a great mood, and refuse to let some negative person next to you talk you into focusing on a bad feeling topic, you’re stable. If you feel like you’re being battered around by waves of different emotions, if your mood fluctuates easily based on who or what you’re around, you’re not stable.
People with unstable vibrations generally make statements like “Well, now my day is ruined!” or “He made me feel bad.” They see or hear something and they react to it, without ever realizing that they can choose not to let events dictate how they feel in each given moment.
There are many ways to stabilize your vibration. In this post, I’m going to offer a method I’ve been using quite successfully for some time. I don’t watch TV. I haven’t turned on my television in years. But I do watch movies and television shows from DVDs or online. As my vibration has changed, so have my viewing habits. Or rather, my tolerance for what I could watch while still feeling good has changed drastically.
I used to enjoy a wide variety of shows, including comedies, crime fighting shows and Sci-Fi/fantasy. But at one point, after a particularly large shift in my energy, I could no longer watch anything but the lightest of comedies. I could feel myself being dragged down by the graphic images of the crime shows (they often depict horrendous acts of violence). I got so uncomfortable, I’d actually start to feel a bit sick. I would empathize with the victims and their families, feel their fear, and actually felt low to medium levels of anxiety while watching these shows. So, of course, I stopped.
But it wasn’t just movies and television shows that affected me. Conversations with negative people left me depressed and going into crowds drained me to the degree that I’d actually get dizzy and weak. I began to stay home more, cocooning myself in the safety of my apartment where I could control circumstances. I refused to let anything near me that caused me any kind of discomfort. I knew that I didn’t want to stay this way, my goal wasn’t to become a hermit and meditate in seclusion all day long. But I wasn’t willing to feel the huge discomfort I felt every time I left the house.
I knew I had to stabilize my vibration and I used a variety of methods to do just that:
- I meditated. A lot.
- I visualized and spent a great deal of time deliberately focusing on good feeling thoughts. The more time you spend in a vibration the more stable it will get (the Law of Attraction will bring more energy of that frequency to you)
- I was given the Munay-Ki rites (they stem from Peruvian Shamanism, a huge interest of mine, which I haven’t written much about yet), which include several energy stabilizing techniques.
- I used TV shows and movies to train myself to be able to look at painful or fear-inducing events and not let them affect me.
Now, tons has been written about meditation and visualization (including by me), but I haven’t seen anyone really explore TV shows except to demonize them. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still not able to watch the news or actually watch TV with all the commercials and mind-numbing channel flipping without wanting to throw the whole thing out the window. But I can use select and deliberately chosen television shows and movies for training purposes as well as entertainment. Here’s how:
Raise your vibration
If you’re in a relatively low vibrational state (i.e. you’re kind of a miserable bastard most of the time), there’s no point in stabilizing that further. Check out the following article for tips:
Watch TV shows that support a higher Vibration
Before you begin your training regimen, start by subjecting yourself exclusively to entertainment that makes you feel good. This is not the time to start challenging yourself. Just bask in light, happy television shows, movies and books. You’re not going for intellectual stimulation, just something that makes you laugh. This category should really make up the majority of your entertainment choices.
Examples (note, these are totally subjective. My examples may make you feel very differently, so make sure to follow your intuition and make your own choices):
- Big Bang Theory
- Stand Up Comedians
- 30 Rock
- Modern Family
- Cougar Town
- Family Guy and all its cousins (unless you’re easily offended)
Challenge Yourself Just a Little
Go for television shows that are a little bit difficult to watch. A dramedy, for example. Something that’s still light hearted but also deals with more serious subjects. When those serious subjects come up, practice looking at them in a way that you can feel good about. In the beginning, that might entail simply reminding yourself that these are just actors and this is just a show. I often do this when I see something that affects me. I focus on the acting, the script or the fact that they’re using a green screen, etc.
- Desperate Housewives
- Bored to Death
- Grey’s Anatomy
- Supernatural (fantasy shows can be easier to watch even if they’re violent because it’s easier to keep your distance when what you’re seeing is obviously not real.)
While these shows can still be a bit campy, they do deal with real life issues which could easily affect you. Again, practice removing yourself from the situation or changing your perspective until you can see each situation in a way that doesn’t affect you. You might see a woman in the hospital who has a brain tumor. She was a total workaholic, but her illness now makes her realize that there’s more to life. At first, you might find a better feeling place by focusing on the acting and logistics, as I mentioned. Later, you could notice that the woman had a great deal of resistance (negative beliefs), and that she hadn’t been happy for a long time. But she’d ignored how she felt for so long and to such a degree that she kept manifesting bigger and bigger problems until she manifested one she couldn’t ignore: the brain tumor. Once she had the realization that her happiness was the most important thing to her, she shifted her energy and got better. You could acknowledge that while television shows often greatly simplify things, the whole story made sense from a vibrational point of view.
Deliberately choose what to focus on
What you’re actually doing in the above example is looking at the situation from a technical perspective. You’re dissecting the energetic events that led up to the illness, etc. instead of empathizing and giving into fears of “what if I or someone I love gets sick”. You’re not looking to shift your energy, but your focus. Instead of giving your attention to thoughts of fear, you’re deliberately choosing to give your attention to thoughts that feel better.
If the show becomes too hard to watch or you feel yourself starting to be affected in a negative way, stop watching it and go back to something happy.
Go for the “strong stuff”
Once you’re able to handle shows of that caliber without letting them affect you, you may want to move on to the “stronger stuff”. Shows that are more graphic, or deal with human drama without any comic relief thrown in will be hardest to watch. But it is possible to shift your perspective to the point where you can view these shows without feeling bad. They may even become entertaining. You don’t have to be able to look at a murdering psychopath and empathize with him or condone his actions (although the show Dexter makes that easier…) The idea is to be able to see the whole situation, particularly the victims and not let it take you to a bad feeling place. This is hard, which is why I’m suggesting some training.
Shows like this can trigger our fears. They can help to underscore negative beliefs about society, good things happening to bad people for no reason and overall fears that none of us is safe anywhere. But when used deliberately and consciously (as well as sparingly), these shows can actually be of great help.
- Criminal Minds
- CSI or CSI NY (not CSI Miami. I can’t notice anything but the horrible acting and writing…)
- Realistic horror movies, like Silence of the Lambs
Once again, I’m not saying that these shows will help you to shift your negative beliefs. You probably won’t find enlightenment by watching Criminal Minds. And it’s important to note that you don’t ever have to watch shows in this category to use this technique. Follow your intuition. But watching these shows can be a helpful tool that allows you to stabilize your vibration, so your mood cannot be affected by outside stimuli, before taking yourself out in the world, where anything can happen.
This technique isn’t for everyone
This isn’t for everyone, of course. If you don’t enjoy watching TV shows or movies, don’t try this at home. The idea is to use a fun experience for growth, not to torture yourself. Also, take it slowly with this. Don’t skip Steps 1 and 2 and go straight for the Slasher movies (unless you love them and they make you happy, in which case you kind of scare me a little bit). This isn’t hard core, do or die training. Ease yourself into each step. Remember, the goal is to feel good the entire time and to stop when it doesn’t. Over time, you’ll be able to feel good under more and more diverse circumstances.
- If you begin to feel negative emotion, don’t be afraid to turn off the show. You have no obligation to “finish what you’ve started”.
- Alternate shows. Don’t watch several category 3 shows in one evening. It’s better to watch one difficult one and then follow it up with a light and happy one, particularly if it’s right before bedtime.
- Keep it light. This is supposed to be fun. Pushing yourself on this will only result in you lowering your vibration. If you want to benefit from this technique, take it slowly and use it sparingly (i.e. don’t necessarily train every day).
It can sometimes be quite difficult to hold on to our great mood when we’re out and about in the real world. Stuff happens and we react before we have a chance to catch ourselves and shift perspective. Using television shows and movies to train ourselves to stabilize our vibration, so that we no longer simply react to events but take a moment to decide how we want to look at and feel about whatever’s happening, can be effective and fun at the same time. Whatever helps us to stay in our happy place, I say.